Haven’t heard from my boyfriend since Saturday

[ihavetogoshoppingnow]

We’ve been dating for 6 months we’re not the type that text each other all day long but we always message each other good morning and usually have some kind of text conversation in a day.

I left his house Saturday lunchtime and he was getting ready to meet his friends in town for food then they were going out out later on we talked a little but while he was out then around 9pm I text him saying have a good night and let me know when your home he said he would and text me saying good night. Woke up Sunday morning and he hadn’t text so I text him the usual good morning and asked about his night I didn’t hear anything all day but assumed he was just sleeping/hungover I text him again Sunday night asking if he was alright and the message didn’t deliver I tried to ring him and it went straight to voicemail and has done ever since. I assumed at first he’d just lost his phone in his flat and let it die (this happens a lot he’s not the type who’s always got his phone in his hand) but he was supposed to be going out again last night for New Years and the phone is still dead so I’m starting to get really worried because he wouldn’t have gone out without it.

Not really sure why I’m posting or what help people could be but I just needed to talk to someone, maybe have some reassurance?

Oh so pleased to read the outcome. Great news. Have a good day OP x

There we go, what a relief

Some people on here can be a little bit vulture like in their quest for depressing drama

Why worry about something before you have to

I’ve just read this thread and I’ve been howling at the doomsday prophesies doing the rounds on here.
Glad is all ok OP and the plausible and glass half full theory that he had in fact lost his phone shock horror was in fact correct.

I struggle to believe sometimes how some people on these forums have any sort of life involving managing expectations, being tolerant and sometimes not thinking the worst in a person. My only explanation is that they don’t do as they say do to others.

Well at least now you know.
I assumed lost phone.
Glad it's all sorted now.

@Renarde1975 I'm so sorry. Read your OP and my first thought was this isn't a ghost, It's a disengagement.
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He's gone OP.* . I'm so sorry. *

Ghosting is the Absent Silent Treatment and can either be present, they are there but don't speak or absent.

Disengagement rather than an AST is what's happened here I think. The OP has not been devalued I think so she's literally been shelved. He WILL be back if he thinks that contacting her has some degree of success.

He's a bastard OP.* *

The reason you have been blocked everywhere is he doesn't want you interfering in the new relationship he is forming. Sorry OP. There is someone else.

Further evidence that he's a narc comes later from you OP in that you say your ex us a narc, so you are vulnerable to this.

My advice is to retaliate with your own permenant disengagement. When he seeks to Hoover you off the shelf (and he very probably will), he will find the reciprocal blocks and he will be mad with anger.

So sorry OP.*

Looks like you were very very wrong!!!!

So relieved and pleased for you OP!

Although there will be some on here who are gutted at this outcome. They'll be frothing at this mouth and looking for next thread they can predict, accuse and bitch on.

Yay! That’s great news. I’m so glad nothing bad happened.

So far there have been quite a few posts from people slagging off posters who they imagine will be gutted it’s a positive outcome, and zero posts from people gutted it’s a positive outcome/questioning his truthfulness/naysaying. Calm down guys 😂

What a relief that must be. I was worried you were going to find out he was really ill somewhere.

Best outcome! So pleased for you OP! Now you can relax. Happy New Year

Phew. I really shouldn't read threads like this.

So glad for you OP

This reminds me of what life was like before the internet - one misunderstanding and you might never find each other again! Very pleased for you, OP, especially that he went in early to work to get back in touch with you.

See told you so So glad you heard from him.

Interesting lack of posts though from the doom & gloom merchants admitting they were wrong though 🤔

Why does anyone need to admit they were wrong, people can only come to a conclusion given what the op has written and tbh I still think its very weird a partner of 6 months doesnt know where she lives. Maybe this will prompt them
to rethink that!

So a New Year's resolution for all of us is to WRITE DOWN phone numbers somewhere AND - shock horror gasp - MEMORISE the most important ones. And to get our OH and children to do the same.

Thank you OP, I'm glad all is OK and I admire your maturity and sang froid throughout - I would have been climbing the walls with worry.

The simplest answer is usually the right one.

Perhaps this will be a lesson to all the harbingers of doom. Although I doubt it . MN is never happier when someone's relationship hits a bump in the road and they can all scream LTB.

Enjoy your relationship OP and hope that mortgage offer comes through soon and you can be a normal couple with access to both homes.

Glad it was good news OP. Maybe time for you both to talk about where this relationship is heading and if this is a serious thing for the both of you.

That's a good ending, have a happy new year op

Phew OP I'm so glad it ended well. Have a great year together and let us know when it's time to buy our hats! 😉 👰 🎩 💍 😁

Gosh am so pleased to hear it - what a lovely ending!

Glad to read a happy ending... I've been ghosted twice before & it's very confusing & hurtful... especially in the initial first few days so I can imagine what was going through your mind since Saturday @ihavetogoshoppingnow ...

If he makes you happy then hang on in there

Just read this thread.

My now dh disappeared for 4 days when we had been dating for 6 months. Just after we returned from our first weekend away.

He complained of feeling ill on the last day. Turned into flu and he was too ill to even think of being in contact and in the days before mobiles/social media.

Really good news OP, so pleased all is well!

Stony silence from those who wrote truly nasty judgemental posts rather than offer the OP some support. I despair at people sometimes.

Renard1975;

What a horrible thing for you to put when you wasn't sure on the circumstances.

You was completely wrong!

Be careful not to push your incorrect presumptions on other people's circumstances.