Haven’t heard from my boyfriend since Saturday

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We’ve been dating for 6 months we’re not the type that text each other all day long but we always message each other good morning and usually have some kind of text conversation in a day.

I left his house Saturday lunchtime and he was getting ready to meet his friends in town for food then they were going out out later on we talked a little but while he was out then around 9pm I text him saying have a good night and let me know when your home he said he would and text me saying good night. Woke up Sunday morning and he hadn’t text so I text him the usual good morning and asked about his night I didn’t hear anything all day but assumed he was just sleeping/hungover I text him again Sunday night asking if he was alright and the message didn’t deliver I tried to ring him and it went straight to voicemail and has done ever since. I assumed at first he’d just lost his phone in his flat and let it die (this happens a lot he’s not the type who’s always got his phone in his hand) but he was supposed to be going out again last night for New Years and the phone is still dead so I’m starting to get really worried because he wouldn’t have gone out without it.

Not really sure why I’m posting or what help people could be but I just needed to talk to someone, maybe have some reassurance?

You don't know his email account other than work.
He doesn't know yours.
He relies on his mobile for your contact details.
He's not on social media- or at least not under a name you know of.
He doesn't know where you live - just the estate.
You still live with your husband and children so only see the guy at his place.

TBH it sounds like a FWB rather than a relationship.

If he wanted to contact you he could borrow a mate's phone, but that would require him to have stored your number somewhere else.

Doesn't it strike you as odd that you rely solely on a phone for contact? Surely one or both of you could have thought of a back up if either of your phones were lost or broke?

Just a thought? You are panicking like mad about him, unless god forbid something bad has happened, is he worrying about you?

I think he has ghosted you op but I hope it will all be alright for you. It seems very cruel

Loads of people don't have social media now. Most of my friends don't anymore as I'm late 20s.

If there was literally not build up to this then losing or damaging his phone sounds most likely thing. Maybe you could send him a letter if he isn't in touch today? Just with your name and number saying to get in touch in case he's lost your number.

If he has ghosted you then no response to that will be less awkward than going around there...!

If you were important enough to him he would find a way to get in touch.

Anything other than illness and I would consider the relationship over.

Incidentally do you have a picture of him? If so try doing a google image search.?

I think he's blocked you OP. Hoping there's another explanation though, and that he's safe and well.

Try not to worry OP, he has probably lost his phone and not had chance to sort out a new one

Whatever the reason, its a horrible feeling op (been there).. Hope you get some clarity soon

Similar happened to me at new year my boyfriend of a few months disappeared for 5 days and phone was going to voicemail turned out he was assaulted with baseball and mugged for phone on New Year’s Eve and was In hospital then took a few days to get a new phone and he ended up phoning me at my work as he had no numbers for me as they were on his mobile ( we lived an Hour away from each other )
We got married and have been together 16 years , I know it’s the unlikely scenario and less likely on this age of Facebook etc right enough .

Agree with PP. He either lost/broke his phone on the night out, or has been arrested.

I think lost phone to. I’m awful for it myself, always losing mine

Hmm. Can't you tell the kids that you need to go and post a new year's card to a friend? If he's there then at least you know he's OK and don't have to worry about his wellbeing. You'd have to save the chat until tomorrow If he's not, I suppose you could leave a note saying you're worried and to get in touch when he sees it?

Ok so according to google if you block someone on an iPhone then the message will show as delivered even though the person will never receive it, mine aren’t going through at all so his phone must be dead? Also the what’s app message never delivered either and we’ve never spoken on there I had to download it just to message him because I know that’s how he messages his friends/family back home so I don’t think he could have blocked me on there?

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Just drop over?

Sounds awful. I think you need to keep busy. And wait...

What kind of phone does he have? With an iPhone you can log into your account on a computer and access your contacts.

Hopefully it’s nothing serious and he’s just had s seriously bad hangover and hasn’t charged his phone!

An awful lot of people on here seem to lose their phones! I've never lost a phone as it's never out my hand.

I wouldn't go round there if I were you OP. You've messaged and rung him and that's about all you can do. Anything else is verging on stalking imho.

It's not unusual I don't think to not be on some form of social media or to not know someone's number or email off by heart.

Can you see his profile pic on WhatsApp and his last seen? They will disappear if you are blocked and the messages will be undelivered and have one tick.
If you can still see his pic and last seen, you aren't blocked.

Blocking on iPhone means it doesn't show as delivered. I've tested this out myself. But phoning from a withheld number will go through if the phone is on. Blocked numbers give a half ring then say not available or to voicemail but they'll never get your message.

Definitely don't go round there. He'll either get a new phone and contact you or he's ghosted you. Either way going round won't achieve anything.

Good god, is it really stalking to be worried as to someone's welfare after 6 months of dating and to go round and check they are ok? Some seriously warped ideas on here at times.
It's been nearly 3 days, I'd be worried, especially with all the stories you hear about people going missing on nights out.

Not sure why everyone is suggesting lost phone, being arrested or God forbid injured. Surely the most likely scenario is he went out Saturday and met someone else. Sorry op but that a much more likely scenario given how casual your relationship is and more inprtantly that he hasn't contacted you to even wish you Happy new year. He would have found a way to contact you I'm sure. It's now 3 days.

If I were him in this situation and had lost my phone, I'd do whatever was necessary to get a message to you and let you know, especially as you have a regular daily texting schedule. It would be pretty much top priority to make sure that you knew I was OK and not ghosting you, even if I thought you'd be pretty chilled out about the whole thing. So even if this is a simple case of him losing his phone, I don't think I'd be impressed if I were you.