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Dating Thread 143 Can Anybody Find Meeeee Somebody to Love!

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DaffoDeffo · 01/12/2018 16:10

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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maxguy · 21/12/2018 22:19

@Whoknows11 it depends on what you're arrangement is. Best to think of it in terms of what you would expect if it was the the other way around. Personally, I've always been very open about things but I might add that when I've had fwb arrangements I haven't been seeing other people at the same time. If my fwb wanted to go off dating etc or looking for long term then that changes the dynamics and maybe we just become friends minus the benefits Smile

TooOldForThis67 · 21/12/2018 23:12

@1stdatejiggyness - Oh those are the best dates! It's great as you can talk about your mutual history as an ice breaker and go from there. My MrWow was one of those someone shoot me for keep mentioning him and it turned out great. Maybe it's a 'false' sense of connection though.
How did it go?

midcenturylegs · 21/12/2018 23:31

Lots happening here :-)
Hope everyone is looking after themselves and not letting potential Christmas blues get in the way of ignoring red flags.

Im chatting a lot to a man I'd not normally date because of who he works for. And others, but this guy really does tick boxes. Date arranged for next week and am really looking forward to that!
But.. in an old fashioned way I've been set up with someone who works for an ex/boss (had dinner with the ex-boss this week who now lives in the US).
Has a phone call tonight which was supposed to be a 15min chat to sort out meeting logistics of meeting but it turned into a 2 hour convo. Sooo much in common, and I've seen pics sent by our mutual friend and he is noice :-)
Problem is - is that he lives 3 hours by train away. Should I see this as a problem? His 2 kids at Uni but mine is 11.

Also.. we are nearing the end of this thread, should one of us be game enough to start a new one?

TooOldForThis67 · 21/12/2018 23:52

midcentury - All sounds promising. Have you set a date with this other man then? There is a lot to think about with a LDR. The fact his kids are independent is a good one. Would he be prepared to do most of the travelling?
As for the next thread "It'll be lonely this Christmas" ? Lol.

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DaffoDeffo · 22/12/2018 04:18

*all I want for Xmas is....not to be ghosted' ;)

Happy to start new thread

Midcentury that sounds fab! 3 hours would worry me if he was totally tied to an area but if his kids are at uni he can travel so maybe just see how it goes!

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DaffoDeffo · 22/12/2018 04:23

Started a 144 thread

Hope all your dates go well!

Re FWB, I never spoke about dating other people unless asked. I didn't volunteer the info and I never asked them. I always assumed they were seeing others and i imagine vice versa.

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DaffoDeffo · 22/12/2018 04:27

Should also add re exes that I usually see exh on Xmas day

For the sake of the kids we have always spent the day together - along with his new gf, her dcs and her family

It's like one huge blended family social experiment which alcohol helps a lot with! But in all seriousness, I think it has been brilliant for the dcs (everyone's!)

I think your issue is less about Xmas but more about whether he still has feelings for his ex especially if she still has feelings for him (sorry can't scroll back on phone to see who asked that!)

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DaffoDeffo · 22/12/2018 04:30

That was for notcoolmum

1stdate fingers crossed for your date . It is very very very weird meeting up with old flames I find! I always think that the traits you didn't like stick out more but that's probably no bad thing!

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Koko12 · 22/12/2018 06:02

Lovely to hear everyone’s updates - jelly how did your date yesterday go?

Ohjellybelly · 22/12/2018 08:48

Good morning. My date with Ms Wonderland went stupidly well. We met at a pub mid way between us and had a glass of wine. Conversation flowed and we forgot that we were in a full pub...it could have been just us.
I've actually just dropped her home. Completely unexpected and totally not planned but she stayed over. It was pretty damn amazing!
I'm off to bed now to catch up with some sleep!

midcenturylegs · 22/12/2018 11:25

@Ohjellybelly just to let you know there's a new thread :-)

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