Dating Thread 143 Can Anybody Find Meeeee Somebody to Love!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

So after saying he wanted to do NYE Mr London hasn’t been in touch since Tuesday :( he has posted random crap on FB...

Mr Scouse is spending Xmas day with ex and kids. Is this a red flag do people think?

@Notcoolmum spending the day with his ex and kids is not a red flag. I'd say it's a good thing as opposed to a bad one

Thanks wishywashy. He seems like a nice man and very focussed in his kids which is good. I just wonder if things aren’t quite finished if they still do these things together? I’ve been single for forever and he is recently separated. I wonder if that will be an issue as we are in such different places? 🤔

I've been divorced from my ex husband for 3 years now, we still do things like kids bdays/ occasional day out and attend their swimming lessons together.
It's definitely absolutely over for both of us, but there's no reason parents can't be parents together sometimes for the children.

wishywashy that’s a great perspective. Thanks. From what he said his ex has been reluctant to accept things were over. Obvs his relationship is his issue and it’s far too early days for me to have any opinion. I guess I’m just wary of getting close if there’s a chance he could end up back with his wife.

@Notcoolmum of course, you're right to be cautious if it's a fairly recent break up regardless of whether he's spending Xmas with her or not. But spending the day with his kids, even if it does involve his ex wife, wouldn't be an issue for me in itself.

Date 2 with Mr Dog tonight. I think I'll rename him Mr Intense.
He seems to have forgotten that I'm only looking for FWB and is determined to make lots of plans to see me after Christmas. I tried to point out that circumstances mean we're only likely to be able to meet once a fortnight. But he's just ignoring that.
I wouldn't have bothered with a second date but there was a immediate chemistry so I thought he'd make a great FWB. I might have to let him down gently tonight.

Meanwhile I tried to contact the date that never managed to ask for a second date. And I found I'd deleted his number. Think that's fate telling me to let that one go.

I have hidden my POF profile (again), I can’t handle talking to so many people at once on top of the stress and fun of Christmas. My Hippie messages me all day, last night he apologised for being too full on and planing future dates before the first though he’s still planning new year 😐

shiteithsugaron being a single parent is so hard. There is no time for anything else. It sounds like he really wants to see you. Fingers crossed for a great date.

Annoyed with Mr London and wondering if I want to spend NYE with him now. Regretting ever asking him. I’m out with friends so it’s not like I needed him to be there.

Hi guys, just checking in, insanely busy at work before the holidays. i've seen Mr Italy a few times and to be honest, there's a few red flags a-waving but I'm going to give it til after Xmas. It's sort of the same case as Mr cheeky Banter i.e. words and actions don't match.......I suppose it was too much to ask that i would find the man of my dreams after only 2 months of being on OLD lol

Will catch up with posts this weekend (with a glass of wine or two!) but hope for anyone with dates it is going well!

Hello everyone. Thank you for your daily entertainment on this thread. It's lovely to read these when you haven't got anyone to chat to that would understand. Especially when you have multiple dates!
I've got a date tonight too. He's actually someone I vaguely remember working with as a uni student and had a massive crush on! We never spoke to each other back then.
He's a bit full on though. Already talking about meeting his mum. I'm well aware of love bombing but It's also refreshing after having about a 6 month stint of time wasters, ghosters and pen pals. I'm managing to hold back by not replying so quickly and just send short, courteous replies. Nothing meaningful.
I fancied him like mad 12 years ago but I won't tell him that just yet

@shitwithsugaron There's no way you be telling him where you live. Keep that to yourself for now

@Notcoolmum do you think he is hedging his bets re NYE for a better offer? If you are planning a night out with friends, just forget him and enjoy yourself. If he comes, then fine too

notcool my ex is coming for Xmas morning and I just spent my hard earned cash on gifts so the kids don’t think he’s naughty (he is) so not that unusual

Definitely never getting back together!

MrSA texted a lot yesterday, including an (in context) body shot, he’s really toned and I’m not which worries me! But then he’s seen a full length (dressed!) so I guess doesn’t care. Hypothetical anyway as I still have no confirmation for the weekend

I’m ok having a pen pal until after Christmas anyway, starting to think someone to chat to but not actually meet and have all the drama with may be perfect

eesha he’s said yes to NYE and expecting me to get him a ticket. He’s just gone quiet since. Feels a bit shit tbh.

It’s nice to hear how many of you have good relationships with your exes for your kids.

@shitwithsugaron,I would probably avoid, Mr CheekyBanter use KIk with me and all he sent were videos and pictures.... Mr 4amGuy used it too but he doesn't bother to message on it never mind send dick pics lol. It might be a hit and miss but I had heard before I used it with Mr Cheekybanter that a lot of cheaters use it because the conversations disappear and you can install/reinstall it very easily.

I'd avoid kik, my only experience of it was someone who was a scammer.
And it means they don't need to share their phone number so you have no idea who they are really.

I'm in shock but Mr Ex has suggested a date tomorrow. Let's see if it actually happens but we've said late lunch . I'm out tonight so mustn't get too drunk 😂

I've posted before about Kik, the only guys who suggested it to me then went on to either admit being married or I had strong suspicions they were and only met them once.

Everyone else who is single is happy with WhatsApp

@Notcoolmum well if quiet, does he even still need a ticket? Flakey men!

I was also going to add that I usually have an ok relationship with my ex and we do things together like the park just so kids are happy (they are babies). However he is also an alcoholic so can be swings and roundabouts, at the moment it's a downer. But I wouldn't worry too much, lots have ok relationships and would never go back

If you've got a FWB do you tell them or talk to them about a date you've got planned with someone else?

eesha I cant tell if we just have different communication styles or if this is a problem.

I think I’m in the wrong decade. Multi dating isn’t really for me but I’m not going to put all my eggs in one basket whilst others are out strutting their stuff!! 😂😂