Dating Thread 143 Can Anybody Find Meeeee Somebody to Love!

[DaffoDeffo]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Wonderful metigger

scot I assume he asked you a time and you gave him one and he's ok. He's probably running around madly cleaning up his place!

@waiting he's only about 30 minutes drive away and lives in the middle of a major city so if he's not in I can go and do a bit of shopping! !

@daffo, maybe but he comes across as the put together type but you never know do you

@scotgal2017 I think @DaffoDeffo is prob right he is running around throwing things in cupboards and changing the bed sheets :)

I have a pub Xmas lunch mid-afternoon today with a whole bunch of friends.. it'll probably go on until 6/7pm.. and I've a date arranged for after that. The lunch may get a bit messy - is this a good idea to go on that date?
Tbh I've invested so much time previously on hair, makeup etc and I've explained the situation to this guy. I wouldn't have another chance to meet him until prob after Xmas hence the idea of tonight?

Do it midcentury. It's better he sees you in your natural form and you will probably be more relaxed!

Morning all, I think I might join. I was on the thread moons ago under a different name but it ended very badly meeting a not very nice man (who you all warned me against) so swore off for a long time, started dipping my toe in the water again now.

Problem is I now have the coldsore virus so now anytime I want to get intimate with someone I’m going to have to tell them had no idea how

Talking to someone at the moment who seems very nice, isn’t always in the country (works away) which suits me as I need a lot of space/slow approach. We started very intense talking but have slowed this down to a check in a couple of times a day which I think is better, have a date set up for a couple of weeks time, not sure what we are doing yet, he is organising the whole thing, no idea what yet which I’m finding very sweet as I’m not sure anyone has ever organised a proper “date” before, how sad and low expectation is that!

I replied basically saying it was rude what he done, but sorry for his family circumstances. If he is actually ''sorry'', im sure he'll text back, but im not holding my breath. Would feel abit of a mug if i put myself back into that situation again!

Thank you Likeridingabike and DaffoDeffo for your insight and advice. It's great to get some perspective. I've becoming so good at raising my standards (and protecting myself) that I cannot see the wood for the trees at times.

Hope everyone is having a good morning.

Found you all!
I've missed several threads now, due to can'tbearsedtodateitis. Need to read back a lot 😁

Is Vet still loved up? daffo has Mr Music gone by the by? Are lovemusic and runsforcake still here?

I've got nada going on. 1 iron I've had 1 date with 2 months ago, he still feverishly texts but no more dates. He's lovely but this is a waste of time, no?
Another iron, I'm nto really interested in, but i haven't got the heart to tell him. We haven't met, but I've got past the stage of polite thanks but no thanks 😔

And my (not so) finest hour... I had a guy who repeatedly kept messaging me, but then blocking me so I couldn't reply. I Googled him, found his employer within 20 seconds. I emailed him on his work email and told him that if he didn't stop messaging me, I'd tell his boss what he was up to 😳 That's bad isn't it (of me). I was just so cross that he kept doing it, as some sort of bizarre power thing. Haven't had a reply so hopefully he's got the message!

sky At least you made sure he got the message but it's something I would've done too if that makes you feel any better!

well Mr Italy WAapped me to cancel, he has sore throat/flu. Quite disappointed as was looking forward to seeing him, we only had about 25 minutes together for the coffee date on Thursday (which ended with one of those "i'm going to kiss you but not sure if it's going to be the cheek or the lips awkward moments lol) and he doesn't seem to be much of a texter so I don;t think the conversation will be flowing. It's beginning to exhaust me mentally this OLD game, I think if Mr Italy mucks me about then I'm going to come off the apps over Xmas. I have 4 days booked away on my own in a cabin in the woods just after Xmas and I'm thinking it's exactly what I need lol

Just on my way home from last nights date

fantastic @rich

Thoughts on dating someone with a busy social life?
E.g. every other weekend having lots of things planned. Usually with mates.
Prob better than someone with no life.

It's almost like you can only have a serious relationship if you are both 90% free at the weekend.
Which could be seen to others as needy.
I know a relative that's wanting to buy a house with their partner after 5 months of dating.
Imo that's too fast. But it's cos they have seen a lot of each other few times a week.
If either had busy life away from the other it would never have been on the cards.

Lol I am, I’m on the overground back now and can’t stop smiling. Was such a lovely night and morning. Probably TMI but I can still smell her on me. The only reason I had to leave when I did was her parents were visiting and were on their way over.

Lol nice timing December romance starting.

Definitely in the week, we'll go for dinner or the cinema or something along those lines. I think I may have invited her as my +1 to my work Christmas party too.

Sooo got third date tonight in which he is sleeping over at mine 😬 I'm getting nervous ! I've cleaned the house and I'm hoping it will just be a chilled night with takeaway, movie and lots of sex 😂😂

However since it's been since last Thursday that I've seen him I'm nervous again!! I'll be fine once he's here I reckon!

Oh rich that's so wonderful :) :) I am so so pleased for you :)

unique my life is a bit like that. I find it hard to date people who don't have their own lives. I think it's a good sign. Just depends how much they want to involve you in their life and them yours.

I forgot ages ago I arranged a meet up with someone tonight at 7 and now I really regret it as I'm not sure I'm interested at all but probably too late to cancel fgs.

Hello sky lovely to see you! MrMusic still lurking. 5 months after we first met. He sends me messages about moving in etc. and arranges dates and still doesn't turn up but I've stopped expecting anything from him! If he got his shit together I would have a relationship with him as the sex is out of this world but he will never get his shit together! I see him probably once a month! He is great fun and there is a part of me that still would love him to get his shit together but he won't.

rich great news!!

unique I dated someone with a busy social life for almost a year. It was difficult. I usually only saw him once a week. But that was enough for me. I'd rather date someone like that than someone who does nothing except work, sleep, eat (I've met a lot men like that!)

SugarandVinegar sounds like a valid reason to me. Just because you've spoken to someone before meeting them doesn't mean you can't decide it's not going to work.
His problem, not yours. Hope you find someone better.

skyrabbit hello! runs here with a name change. Your one date iron sounds like a waste of time. Why haven't either of you arranged a second date? Well done for taking control back with the repeated blocker.