Why did he block me? I fucking hate him

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We were together 8 months. It was amazing. He is definitely the man I want to have a future with.

He broke up with me citing the reasons that he needed to focus on work and so took a job in another country.

I have 2 dc so obviously couldn’t move with him.

A month after he left, i WhatsApped him a message to say hi and that I missed him.

A few days later he called to apologise for not responding and to tell me he’d met someone.

I played it cool and said fine. We can still be friends right? He said ok. But then he blocked me. I know he’s blocked me because none of the messages I sent have gone through.

What the fuck is his problem?

OP, you sound like a child. What age are you?
Just because you have great sex that doesn't mean anything! People can have great sex with one night stands so your 'love making' point is invalid especially when you had been broken up and he came back for a night to have great 'love making', open your eyes all he wanted was sex!
He probably did love you, he is probably a great guy, he probably is such a nice person no-one should be disagreeing with that they don't know what the reason is. Out of your posts I could pick up about 3 things why he'd break up with you. 1. You have children and sometimes people don't want to take on the burden of someone else's child, I know you said that you didn't want him to take on a fatherly role and that's fair enough but how would he prevent that if he was to move in with you? He wouldn't could just sit there and not have some sort of role in their life. 2. You seem a bit clingy in my opinion, it's honestly like this is the worst thing that's ever happened to you with the way your handling it, I would be getting sick of that and fast and if that's how you've been within that relationship I don't know how he lasted 8 months with you. 3. You've got no confidence clearly, you think you can't get better than him and you probably felt like that all along, guys pick up on that and that's a turn off if someone isn't confident within themselves. Girl, you should be saying this guy might have been great but I deserve someone better! Who's going to actually want to be apart of my family and if no-one can put up with that then stuff em'!
Another thing - don't hate his GF, it isn't her fault that she met him after you two broke up, it's not like he was in the relationship when they met. If I was you I'd be angry at him if he 'loved' you it shouldn't have been as easy for him to just jump into the relationship with this new girl.
Ex's shouldn't be friends either, I don't know why you would even want too. It's going to be harder for you to move on from him if all you want to do is check up on him, you need a fresh start, not bringing up your feelings every couple of months when you want to have a quick chat with him. I don't think it's healthy to be friends with ex partners. You don't need him in your life, cheer up and move on because he certainly has.

Ah, of course he isn't the best you'll do! You're just wallowing a bit and you're entitled to do so given its early days but don't you go believing it.

I'm really sorry you're hurting. As others have said many of us have been there. Gather your strength and willpower. Sign up to an online dating site as a distraction. He's not the only man in the world! It will get better and you will heal so much quicker if you are NC with him.

He doesn’t sound like a bad guy.

My bet is that you scared him off, your posts on here read like something out of “misery”.

Maybe work on your self esteem, probably not the best idea to be introducing men to your children so soon either.

Tbh I’d probably block an ex if I’d moved on and suddenly received an ‘I miss you’ messages. It’s just a bit awkward. He likely isn’t stupid and would be able to see that it wasn’t just a catch up you wanted.

Better to block and put a definitive end to it than keep hope alive on your end. Kinder too in the long run imo. It’s better this than keeping you hanging on as a ‘when home’ option, surely?

He’s in a different country with a another woman who probably doesn’t have children. You do sound a bit intense. Onwards and upwards.

Well it's pretty obvious op that if he was a nasty cheating b it would be easy for you to hate him and move on!

But you are so in love with him and saying how lovely he is it is like self torture!

You'll never get over him if you don't change your mindset!

He doesn't want to be with you!!! Don't turn into a bunny boiler op!

Accept what it is, be thankful for the good times, mourn his passing (relationship that is, not his death!)

I think you should young thinking early 20s?

You have two dc. he is in a different country, it is over... Not many folk would take on a partner with two children to be honest.

The only certainty OP is that he 100% didn't love you. If he loved you he would never have left and wouldn't so easily have fallen out of love and in love with someone else. When you're truly in love with someone, you don't look elsewhere.
He played it wrong by sleeping with you and making you think there was a chance. That is poor behaviour and wrong if he knew he was giving you hope.
You're desperate for someone that has made it so very clear they don't want you and that is very unattractive and sad.
I don't mean to sound harsh and I am sorry, but take a deep breath, take yourself out the situation and imagine the advice you would give to a friend in the same situation.

The children thing may not be the reason. Plenty of men accept that a woman may have children, especially if they're a bit older. My husband took on my three kids and we have a fourth together. Not every guy will resent the fact you have children.

Plenty of men “take on” children. They are not baggage, they are children and if you love someone then you won’t find it hard to love or at least care about their children too as they are part of you.

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Madmum loads would

Even if they lived in a different country??

Maximum, I think the main issue is that he lives in another country, not the children.

Christ. Look at your last few posts, you can't see the wood for the trees. You've been had. Get a hold of yourself and accept this.

Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't like children? For me that's an instant turn off- selfish.

I am going through heartbreak atm.

My two (hard won) realisations are:

NC is the only way.

whether it 'meant anything' to him or not is less important than dealing with your feelings for him. that's what you need to work on.
it's tough. but you and i will get there.

On and off for four years. Maybe that’s why it feels normal to me to have an off/on relationship

On and off relationships are not normal. If you were happy and in love, why would you be ‘off’? Doesn’t really make any sense.

OP I disagree with some other PP who say he didn't love you. I can't say for sure of course, but I'm assuming you've met and had relationships with other men. If he seemed like he loved you then he probably did. It's just that sometimes people walk away from love because it's not enough. He's probably thinking practicalities, lifestyles mismatched, different plans for the future etc

As a single mum dating I know lots of men don't want someone with kids (not for a long term relationship amyway). Some are happy to though, often if they have kids themselves they will be happy to. I've never introduced a love interest to my kids (no judgement on you though), I haven't met anyone worthy yet . Keep yourself dating and hopefully you'll meet someone great soon. Unfortunately this man was selfish, whatever his reason for dumping you he should have ended it sooner. He likely had feelings for you and enjoyed the relationship which kept him coming back, when in reality he was never going to commit due to kids or whatever. I've been with this type too.

Oh FFS. The fact that he has blocked you actually demonstrates that he is a reasonably nice person. He's making a clean break rather than keeping you on the back burner in case he fancies another shag. The poor sod's probably desperately trying to make alternative plans for Christmas so he won't risk running into that crazy woman who won't leave him alone.

He doesn't love you. He has dumped you. Suck it up.

For goodness sake, pull yourself together.

Took me shopping for food when my pay check was late,

That's reason enough to not want a long term thing with you.

If I was single...I wouldn't get serious with a single dad living paycheck to paycheck.

You said your kids don't need another dad ... but he won't want to see them go hungry ....and if he lived with you it would fall on him.

I honestly don't see why a single guy with no kids of his own (especially being the catch you say he is) would 'saddle' himself with a woman with kids and vice versa.

I know many will say they have a man who did...but it's hassle and baggage.

You sound obsessive OP. I know you're hurting but you have to accept he doesn't want you. It doesn't matter if he did love you, if the 'love making' was real at the time, although I really think he faked it (yes people do fake that shit). The fact of the matter is, he doesn't love you now. He's moved on. Blocking you could be for a number of reasons, him trying to make a clean break, or the fact he's worried you're turning into a nutter. You say you checked social media, WhatsApp and everything else you can think of; this screams obsessive to me.
Stop trying to analyse everything and try to accept it's happened. Luckily you only wasted 8 months on him and no longer. Concentrate on your life without him and focus on your DC. And remember, you keep saying what a good person he is - but good people still do shitty things sometimes, whether intentional or not.