Dating thread 142: love will tear us apart...again

[DaffoDeffo]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

user what is a snog draught?? The other guy sounds like a prick. Is he really 37?

sorry,meant to be drought!

Sorry user, yes, I worked it out as soon as I had clicked post. I say always go for the snog - but maybe on the date or even in the car, rather than on your home ground? If it's rubbish it will be awkward to ask him to leave.

Good idea move. Thanks.

Will go for it in the car but will need a few wines.
I've actually got either butterflies or anxiety...not sure which.

Why am I putting myself through this shit at my age!

user I'm suffering from a snog drought as well.
Date 2 has been brought forward to tomorrow. Date 1 was like meeting an old friend. I'm hoping for some snogging tomorrow!

myold,if these men are shy,do we just go in for it?
Gone are my kavos days of hanging outside bars in very little dragging men in and snogging every dick and harry.
I seem to have done a u turn and got very reserved.
Think maybe i'm actually scared of getting involved with anyone and getting hurt. That's prob what it is if i'm honest.
Right,i rarely drink but getting on that wine soon!
Good luck for the weekend everyone :)

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user I say we go for it! I will be fortified with a little wine.
And I know there's no chance he'll be coming back to mine, so if it all goes wrong, I'll just get in my taxi and head home.

But I know what you mean about not wanting to get hurt.
Hope your date goes well. I've got 24hrs to panic about mine

MyOld and user I'm in my 50s and only date guys in their 50s and I haven't found a single shy one yet when it comes to snogging. If you want it to, both of you are relaxed (the wine helps there) and you're not in too public a place, I'm sure the snog drought will end. (I'm not worried about PDAs but I did find a couple of guys were prissy in that respect.)

It was Ios in my day

Movember I'm in my 50s. So is my date. This is the first time I've got to date 2 with anyone in that age group. I didn't even get a peck on the cheek on date 1. So I may have to take the initiative tomorrow.

So, Friday evening and time to run the gauntlet with the dating app rush hour. I have one already saying since we are both redheads it will be fireworks in bed and that's all that matters. ....he got a snark reply along the lines of "you mean my witty charm and intelligence aren't needed. I worked so hard on theme as well" ...this conversation isn't going to end well as I'm not in the mood for this crap lol.

Frustrated.....I remember rule 3 but if Mr Italy was so keen why isn't he arranging next coffee/texting on the regular (we moved from badoo to WA, he's been on.both throughout days, as have have i... I mesaged him on WA this morning to say have a nice day and got a reply bit nothing since)....just tired of the games tbh

So I had a date tonight. First one in years. It went quite well I think. He seemed nice, though didn’t ask me much so it was difficult as I felt I kept throwing random information at him to keep it going.

Dating app rush hour? I clearly missed the memo!

Had my date with the other girl tonight. Blimey she was lovely too and now I'm a bit confused as I'm never one to really get past first dates. There was no kissing like with the girl from Wednesday night but we really clicked and had such a nice evening, had a few drinks and then went for dinner, the conversation just flowed and the night seemed to be other in a flash. I think she enjoyed herself too and we'll see each other again.

I've got my second date with the girl from Wednesday tomorrow night so guess I should just go with the flow and try not to overthink things at this stage.

How wonderful rich

There's no harm having 2 opportunities at once. It's often the second date where you'll know whether it's a goer or not. It will also help stop you over invest.

I haven't heard from MrD yet but seeing someone tonight (call him MrDelboy) for dinner who contacted me ages ago and popped up on WhatsApp again. I just thought it would be a fun thing to distract me from MrD.

Well I said to myself from the beginning i wasn’t looking for step-dad material and just someone I trusted to have an exclusive but casual relationship with...I guessed at the beginning mr weekend wouldn’t be suitable LTR integrating with my children material and now I know for sure as he is now showing me his red flags and true colours.such a shame as thought he was a genuinely nice guy.anyway I am strong and know my worth and boundaries.if I didn’t have a break away with him booked I would just fuck him off but don’t particularly want to go on my own but will if I have to-some ‘me’ time might be good.

@Koko12 what happened?

@richdeniro that's great! Keeping your options open is definitely ok at this stage!

@Koko12 what's happened with Mr Weekend?

eesha and wishywashy have pm’d you both-apologies long x

Sorry to hear that koko hope you're ok? X

Was thinking for our next thread we should use the Queen lyric 'can anybody find me somebody to love'

If you haven't seen the bohemian rhapsody film, go see it!

I so hope Vet is enjoying Canada :)

Thank you daffo I’m alright thank you.just deciding on what to do from here moving forwards. I hadn’t been posting as didn’t want to seem smug - that’ll teach me eh?!x

Have pm’d you too daffo. Thanks in advance x

@Koko12 - I'm guilty of that, not wanting to seem smug but go ahead and post anyway. I've been on and off the smitten bench a few times with the same bloke! I don't know what Mr Weekend's red flags were. Could it be a misunderstanding as in my case with MrWow?
@richdeniro - about bloody time! Enjoy.

I've not posted an update for ages but for those that remember I was seeing Mr Spain but unsure as things were moving so slowly.... It's been about 3 months now and things are still moving slowly!! Have yet to actually dtd although we have got a bit further on from a snog at the end of a date. Not much further though. But..... tonight we have a room booked in a hotel. Please god tell me it will happen tonight?!! I need it to progress now or I'm definitely friendzoning him tomorrow.

@changeoflife - I'm assuming you haven't had the opportunity to DTD or is there something else getting in the way?
Agree, if nothing happens tonight, after 3 months, then there is defo something wrong!

Koko hope you're ok and getting some good advice on what to do.

rich sounds great. Keep your options open at the moment. After a couple of dates you'll hopefully find it easier to decide.

change three months!! Something's wrong. Hope it goes well tonight.

Daffo good luck with your date tonight. I must go and see that Queen film.