DH has called DD an ‘insufferable c#%t’ - am horrified

[Havetonamechangeforthisone]

I have nc-ed for this. She ‘disrespected’ him (she is 14) and he shouted that at her and told her to fuck off (repeatedly) get out of his house and stop using his electricity and eating his food.

I’m in utter shock and horrified.
In the meantime DH has not spoken to her or me or our other DD for 72hours and continues to ignore us.

He’s had similar outbursts/sulks before but this takes the cake!!

I don’t know what to do. I’m so angry about how she’s been treated. Resigned/bored with the sulking. Have learnt not to initiate conversation but have to wait until it’s brought up. It’s absolutely unacceptable but what can I do about it??!! Feel totally helpless.

Any advice?

Message from MNHQ: The OP has updated the thread. Please read her recent post here.

@KeepPortlandWeird

Oh it’s been updated, didn’t see that. Why are so many zombie threads being resurrected lately?

OP restarted the thread with her updates but she used a different username so it did not highlight in green. She now used her original username as many posters were still confused and others were still wrongly advising her to give the husband a chance to explain his behaviour....

Well done on leaving him OP - sounds like it was relatively recently - so please take care of yourself and your girls. All of you need time to heal.

@FFSFFSFFS

RTFT - especially the last one and show some empathy

@FFSFFSFFS

Aren't you lovely - victim blaming

OP so glad you got out - hope you can now begin to heal and help your daughters

OP my father was the same to me at that age, would also regulary let me pick my bags because he was gonna drop me off at an SS office and I would be going into foster care, these threats were made regularly. I have never forgiven him and I’ll never forget sitting one day outside the house with a bag with clothes, my mother coming home and saying in an ironic tone of voice: “oh did you get thrown out of the house again”? What your husband does to your daughter is SO incredibly damaging and traumatizing.
She needs you to stand up for her. He is mentally terrorizing her, I have no kinder words to describe what is going on.
Divorce this bastard and protect your DD.
I can guarantee that if you let this continue and do nothing to stop it, she’s going to resent you for it, for the rest of her life. And rightfully so.

so pleased for you OP... I hope you and your girls find some peace 🌸

@LaBellina

OP my father was the same to me at that age, would also regulary let me pick my bags because he was gonna drop me off at an SS office and I would be going into foster care, these threats were made regularly. I have never forgiven him and I’ll never forget sitting one day outside the house with a bag with clothes, my mother coming home and saying in an ironic tone of voice: “oh did you get thrown out of the house again”? What your husband does to your daughter is SO incredibly damaging and traumatizing. She needs you to stand up for her. He is mentally terrorizing her, I have no kinder words to describe what is going on. Divorce this bastard and protect your DD. I can guarantee that if you let this continue and do nothing to stop it, she’s going to resent you for it, for the rest of her life. And rightfully so.

OP has left already and is divorcing him 🙄

OP just saw your update.
So glad you choose your DC over him and you got out. Well done.

Yes I saw that @QueenBee52.
And thanks for that passive aggressive smiley as a response to me sharing my story.

The OP has done a lot better then my mother who never got out and keeps defending my father. I have a lot more respect for the OP, getting out of an abusive relationship is difficult and I am glad she got out eventually.

Well done for getting out OP

@LaBellina

Yes I saw that *@QueenBee52*. And thanks for that passive aggressive smiley as a response to me sharing my story.

try reading the thread before you treat the OP so badly 🤔

Given how you respond @QueenBee52 I think you’re the last person that should lecture others on being kind.
You tell me to read the thread, perhaps you should read your own posts.

Wow, so glad you got rid, OP.

Don't beat yourself for not leaving sooner, it's really not easy. I know women who are highly educated, in great jobs who didn't leave for years due to shame.

Hopefully this will help other women to realise men like this never change, they only get worse.

Congratulations on getting out, abd I wish you and your daughters every happiness. Good luck with their recovery, I know it’s so hard.

@Havetonamechangeforthisone

Well done for getting out. Very well done.

Your ‘D’H is being emotionally abusive to you and your children. Please protect them.