My partner is packing his bags because I said I was going out.

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Just that really.

Asked him what he wanted to do tonight, he said nothing. He's been at work all day. Fair enough.

Said I might go and meet my friends for a bit, he's told me I take the "piss out of him". And he's currently packing his bags.

I don't want to split up but surely I haven't done anything wrong here????!!!!

Name calling is unacceptable.
Ask for his keys OP.

"He also said today that I'm needy and want him with me 247. Which would shock me on a normal day because I'm actually a really independent person and crave my own space.... but after last night it's almost a laughable comment! "

Projection.

Talk to some of your R:L friends and your parents get some support send him packing.

This will only get worse if you stay with him. You will either toe the line and turn into a shadow of yourself OR you will keep challenging him and he will try to punish you. Verbal abuse, going out with your child and not telling you where/when they will be back or physical.

Think carefully about what you want for your little one, what kind of role model you want for them-
Personally I've read far far too many posts like this and have far too many friends who have been through the same- it NEVER gets better unfortunately.

You need to decide where your line is and stick to it. If it was me he would have already crossed it by being verbally abusive and aggressive to me when pregnant.

I'm sorry you're going through this, OP, I'm afraid it won't get better and you need to stay strong and get yourself away from him. You and your baby deserve so much better.

You're stronger than you think.

Op this is classic abusive behaviour. He's started to escalate because you're pregnant. His initial tactic didn't work so he's trying to get you back in line. I imagine he'll apologise again if this doesn't work. He'll invent some reason for his behaviour and be ok for a while but he'll know he has you and it'll only be a matter of time. Seriously everything depends on your reaction to his behaviour. Don't take him back

I agree that's projection. He will only get worse. I was in an abusive relationship which became considerably worse when I got pregnant and worse still once the baby arrived. It will be far better in the long run for you and your baby to make sure this ends for good now.

Been there - done this!

He will get ten times worse when baby is here. He WILL should in front of (& scare) baby.

PLEASE cut your losses and stay away, for yours and your child's sake! Take it from someone who knows. My DD's 'Dad' was exactly the same as you describe this guy. If I'd left before baby was born then something truly awful wouldn't have happened.....

Not sure where I go from here

Fairly obvious isn't it? He leaves. End of.

There’s only one way from here and that’s forwards, single, and him out your life. If you take him back then bigger fool you.

So he's gone from being all apologetic to angry in the space of a few hours, tell him that he seems so unhappy and trapped so maybe it's best if he leaves, let him get on with it, don't help find him somewhere to licve, he's a big boy now. Whatever you do or say will be twisted round, if you want him involved in your child's life then suggest you sit with him in mediation.

Come on op you don't need this man/ crap

Please don't put up with this. If he gets away with it then it will steadily ramp up.
Your child won't miss what it doesn't have if you leave now but leaving him when it is older may well have a profound affect. Don't stay for the baby.

He sounds horrible. He is already abusive in his behaviour, probably because you’re pregnant and he’ll get worse, not better when the baby arrives. Please consider leaving him to keep yourself safe.

So he had a meltdown because you were going out yet you're needy..? Regardless his behaviour is not normal. You and your child don't deserve to be exposed to that kind of behaviour.

He also said today that I'm needy and want him with me 247.

This is either him projecting, or telling you what he wants you to believe.

You've already proved, by going out, that you aren't needy. He's messing with your head, and really I'd get rid.

You are so strong OP! Glad you went out and kept busy today, congratulations on baby and just well done on your strength through everything!

He will get worse

Please leave him whilst you still can

www.westmercia.police.uk/article/50822/Coercive-and-controlling-behaviour

please read OP

It's very telling how quickly he's gone from his apologies and promises to change back to anger and being verbally abusive. I'm glad your parents heard it first hand. Please end it for your sake and your baby.

Please tell me his bags are still packed? Because that will make it so much easier for both of you.

Ask him or his keys and tell him you hope the door won't hit him on his way out.

Charm, rage, self-pity.

Three channels that be’ll flip though trying to get a reaction out of you that gets you back in line. Look out for them. He wants a reaction. Stay strong.

He sounds unbalanced and you don't need him around you now or when you have the baby.

He said he'd change and within 24 hours he was verbally abusive to you.

The problem is you've accepted his verbal abuse previously, so to him it's not a deal breaker for you.

You sound like a strong woman. Don't pur up with it anymore.

If he promises to change...He can do do while he lives elsewhere.

Surely you don’t want him living with you, swearing at you, name calling, being abusive? What kind of relationship is that?!

Im glad he has shown his true colours in front of your parents OP. Are they supportive of you?

His idea of 'changing' didn't last long did it.