Partner away with work - left to look after his children and dogs

[Kitten76]

I moved in with my partner 18 months ago and his two sons - now 18 and 15 and his two big dogs.

He was working normal hours in the area with a good job and salary/car etc.

But about 6 months ago he decided to hand in his notice and start working offshore as a freelancer. I didn't want him to do this as we haven't been together long and our life was great.

He did it anyway, regardless of me.

I am now working full-time whilst keeping the boys in line and looking after the dogs whilst he is away. It's a stress and I am suddenly a single parent for a big chunk of the year. I have no children of my own really get on with the boys etc - but I feel used and it's making me resent him.

I have spoken to him about this and he's said he will not give up his 'dream job'. He gets defensive if I challenge him.

If I move out I am back to expensive rents and a big upheaval, but I don't know what else to do. It's making me fall out of love with him.

Any advice greatly appreciated.

@Kitten76 - how are you?

Hi @fishesthatfly I am good thank you. Enjoying my new house and just about unpacked everything lol. Thanks for asking :)

He is now blocked from my life so I feel like I can really move on.

Hope you're ok?

Kitten

So pleased all is well. Have you heard from the son's at all?

I heard from the younger lad the other week. I messaged him last week, but no reply. I wouldn't put it past my ex to have told him not to be in touch :(

That's sad Kitten but it may be for the best in the long run aswell. Blood is thicker than water and all that. A clean break is probably for the best

Yes maybe. I will text over Christmas and wish them all the best etc.

Tbf the full saying is 'the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb' or something like that

Kitten I am so glad you go away! Please, please do the Freedom Programme before trying to date again. You are worth so much more than users like this.

Blood is thicker than water but love is thicker than blood.

Such a nice sentiment.
I read it on Mumsnet.

Tbf the full saying is 'the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb' or something like that

Yes well seems like she understood what I meant.........

I agree with one of the other posters. If you don't want to walk out on the 'Kids' and leave them on their own then have your bags packed and the minute he walks through the door, walk out of it! I wouldn't even have a conversation with him about it. The reasons should be clear to any normal human being! He could well have other women on the go elsewhere and you would know nothing about it! He is taking the piss big time and making a complete mug of you! Leave with your head high and dignity in tact!

Ugh jumped the gun with my response then realised there was a whole lot more thread!! Glad you've made the brave and right decision!