Dating thread 141 - fun and games

[Koko12]

Hope not stepping in anyone’s toes but thought I’d start the new thread as old one was full and I wanted to post!

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Think I will be saying thanks but oh my god no thanks to MrFreakishlyWeird

Urgh annoying, he was a good looking guy with great banter .... probably best his wife sees in him 🙄

Seriously, I think I've paid my dues .... where is Mr Right??? 😆

Just woken up to a message from MrCornish to say he has been throwing up in the night. He does sounds genuine and has asked if we can rearrange for any other day this week - he was saying yesterday (we spoke a lot) that he wasn't feeling very well, unless that was a the start of lining me up ready for him to cancel?

I'm so annoyed at myself. I need to go and read the rules again.

On the upside MrHipster got back in touch against night, so I've still got at least one iron going, possibly 2 if MrCornish is genuinely poorly.

@JeSuisPrest maybe give benefit of doubt, as I had a vomiting bug a few weeks back and wasn't great! Still think you should collect more irons though

@jesuispreist yes give benefit of the doubt but you would be amazed at the excuses men come up with if they decide they don't want to meet..... I would keep more irons in the go and not get too invested, can be so hard initially but give yourself time X

Thanks @Eesha and @VixenSixen My motto at the moment is very much "What's meant to be, will be".

So I have the day to myself now - gym and housework- thrilling!

jesuis I always give people the benefit of doubt when they cancel first time, 2nd time I don’t. He probably is ill, there’s lots of bugs going around due to the weather getting colder.

Messaged Mr Hippy last night but messaging got pretty serious about a certain subject, I’m not sure if I want to date him after having such intense conversation about something that’s a bit controversial to me.

Mr Nature sent me a few messages but I’m slowly trying to back away and hoping he will slip up so I can cancel our date next weekend.

@JeSuisPrest I too was ill and had to cancel a date and he then proceeded to block me :-( So don't over-think things..

Chatting to an awesome guy - he has 5 kids so am going to call him Mr5. Highly original not! He said the 5 kids thing makes most women run a mile but I've just got the one and all my family are O/S - it'd make Xmas much more fun!

Do men get a voucher for a free push bike with their decree absolute !

@likeridingabike Haha.. tbh if a man is going to have a hissy fit over someone being ill and doesn't give anyone the benefit of doubt then I'm glad I didn't waste my time..

I had a dream last night that I had found a man and was coming on here to tell you all that I would be leaving the thread. Sadly it was a dream and I’m coming on here to say I will probably be on here for ever .

Just had a message from Mr Tall who vanished a month ago, he has said sorry and told me his mum is poorly and might have cancer and he’s struggling with life at the moment

me and you together love!

btw jesuis I also give people the benefit of the doubt with sickness. There are a lot of bugs around at this time of year and it is impossible to do a first date properly when you're ill

I have 2 dates this week. MrTV on Thursday who likes v similar things to me, is 10 years older (which works) but I have no idea if I'm going to fancy him or not. He ticks all the boxes I like ticked though but not sure how i'm going to find him. We email each other rather than messaging - it's quite fun.

Mr6kids (yes 6 bloody kids) on Friday. Wasn't sure about this one and I can't tell whether he's going to be my type or not as he's not really opening up but physically, i like the look of him.

The younger bloke who cancelled from Friday night got hold of me again but not to arrange another date so I think that will be that (tbh I was surprised we were going to do one in the first place). MrMusic cancelled - as per usual - and that REALLY must be that for me (fgs). And MrMatch who got his rocks off on our chat and disappeared has still disappeared.

I'm sort of starting again this week so we'll see if anyone interesting pops up. MrHappn has been in contact - not to arrange something else - but to tell me what he's up to (he's away seeing his daughter I know at the end of this week). I half hope he does want to do something because that was the most incredible sex .

I feel like giving up my date last week!

Although he’s been texting me everyday with mornings, nights, etc etc he seems uninterested. There is never much flow to our texts and I feel he always shuts it down. This seemed different before we met.

We are potentially meant to be meeting tonight but he’s not suggested anything.

I feel like giving up!

Who I am the same with Mr Nature, there’s no real conversation, texts are mainly asking how each other are and him asking where we can meet up, I’m bored already. I’m going to make an excuse not to meet him this weekend. I have a feels my I will be having a weekend alone yet again.

stapler I think once FWB start staying over things get a bit tricky, waking up next to someone is too nice and we let our feelings take over. I can only keep a FWB for a short time, I have to find a new one before I get too involved.

@Lovemusic33 it’s a bit of a blow isn’t it! Another lonely weekend it looks like for me too!

I have the option of a FWB but not sure it’ll be good for me! He’s a lovely guy but doesn’t want anything else and I do!

Are we supposed to have more than one on the go? i'm so old school. I don't think i would feel comfortable talking/dating/flirting/sleeping with more than one at a time....Mr cheekybanter says he is the same. I'm still on match and POF and still getting messages but not replying as I'm the one-at-a-time kind of gal. Mr Cheekybanter and i are still connected and there is a lot of sexual tension...lots of the talking is sexual in nature and it would seem that we (him especially) need to DTD to get it out of the way and then maybe I'll get messages again asking how i am and not that he's thinking about when he can ravish me ....I'm quite comfortable with it being a FWB if that's what it comes to......we're trying to arrange for a meetup to get the sex out of the way but not easy when DC's father is a twat and his work is all over the place schedule wise.

I speak and date more than one at once, recently slept with more than one (I feel a bit of a slut but I slept with 3 irons in one week), it was the first time i had done that it it did feel a bit naughty, all 3 have messed me around though so I don’t feel that guilty.

I started off like that scotgirl but if I dated one person at a time, I'd probably be 90 by the time I found someone. So I do multiple first dates but it is rare I sleep with someone on a first date. Has only happened twice to me and I've been dating for months now. If someone wanted to move to being exclusive, then it would be a discussion we had. I imagine I will know when I meet the right person.

I have actually moved off my FWB. The first one found a girlfriend so we stopped (but remained friends - weirdly I'm due to go to dinner with the two of them soon!) and then the other one wants to make an effort to seriously date someone so we've agreed to not carry on (though again have remained friends).

I always found them tricky tbh so I'm pleased I don't have to worry about either of them any more!

@scotgirl - If they're clearly short term or FWB I don't feel weird - I would if I had an emotional connection to someone. If you haven't met this fella yet - i'd say remain open to convos with others because honestly he might have an acorn penis. I am literally dreading meeting one

@supercali77 we have met twice for a couple of hours at a time and so i know we have a connection and sexual chemistry going on.... which I think is why he is particularly overfocused on sex at the moment! I'm not sure i can do multiple dates, especially as I've already told him I'm not speaking to/dating anyone else....I'm at the stage where i'm happy to see where it goes and if it doesn't go anywhere then I'll start again looking elsewhere.....I'm in no rush, i'm just enjoying the freedom and minimal pressure that comes with being single lol..... i'm sort of into meeting up to DTD having been single and sexless for 15 months now lol.....p.s. I can confirm that Mr Cheekybanter does not have an acorn penis as he decided to send the obligatory dick pic the other day