Dating thread 141 - fun and games

[Koko12]

Hope not stepping in anyone’s toes but thought I’d start the new thread as old one was full and I wanted to post!

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I've never met anyone to date in real life it I've not particularly tried! And then if I do see someone, how do you know they are single.

The ghosting is shit . I've just deleted Mr Geek and this is also reminding me i ghosted/breadcrumbed at the end of my last foray in May. It's just so cowardly. I've never done it.

So I'm meeting Mr Music tomorrow now as I'm last minute free tomorrow evening. I'm excited and stops us both getting over invested as there is a lot of chatting (he's admitted he's keen!). We are doing dinner.

Well Mr Cake is certainly a Hell Yeah in the personality stakes. 100%.

I like him a lot, he seems to like me a lot - has told me so, and is planning future dates with me. Intellectually, he's very much what I want.

So.. I'm willing to open my mind on the physical side. He's also made it clear he's very keen to get me into bed,, lots of hinting about our 3rd date etc. I'm keeping it cool at the moment, but I'm intrigued enough to give it a go I think....

3rd date tomorrow, with option of sleepover. I've told him I'll sleep in his spare room...

Well my first online date went well. Mr E. was lovely and polite and who he says he is so that's a bonus. He ended the date (after 5 hours tbf!) And one small peck on the lips... Not a knicker wetting date but hey ho.

I'd like a second date but I've left the ball in his court.
I have children, I'd hoped to find the right time to mention it on the date but I couldn't. so I messaged and thanked him for a lovely night and explained why I never told him about the kids (mostly because I don't wanna be pre judged on my profile) and said I understand if it's too much

So see what happens...

Look at you scot there's a multi dater in you yet!

Another Sunday on my own (kids at their dads). Still nothing from Mr Speedy who I was meant to be seeing today. I now have 2 other irons who want to meet me, both pretty local but neither of them have the wow factor, both seem very nice to chat too but are not blessed in the looks department. I might unhide my profile on POF later. Going to spend my day cleaning the house and my car.

Glad some of you are having good dates, hope it continues. This time last year was quite busy for me, I was dating a few people, this year seems very different.

Milomonster that's a bit of a hike for me, alas. Anyone in the Suffolk/Norfolk/Essex area wanting to meet up to share our tales of woe or success?

Guardian Soulmates is definitely not working for me. I’ve had one date (lasted for one drink!) and about 4 conversations which they have bailed out of.
I’m obviously not the right type for GS men. I’ve paid for a month so will stick with it until it runs out.

TooOldForThis67 I am in Suffolk if you wanted to meet up

So, I split with MrWow last night. My STBX finally left on Tuesday. MrWow and I had arranged a date but I called it off as I was in a very reflective mood. He msg to say he was outside in his car, did I want him to go away. I said, come in. Big mistake. He didn't get the mood I was in, thought I should be happy Ex had finally left. Yes I drank too much, said too much. Woke up this morning naked. No memory of what happened, only WhatsApp msgs to remind me. 8 months down the drain.

SortingItOut Yey! Do we PM to sort?

I'm feeling really unsettled. I'm not sure if I've mentioned on any of these threads about a guy I dated earlier this year.

We had messaged for quite a long time and never met due to distance. We finally met and it was an immediate reciprocal HELL YES from both sides. Personality and looks. He ended it after 6 weeks and a while later blocked me and vanished.
Well he's just popped up on Instagram. How do you reckon he found me ? My user name has my first name in but not my surname. I'd say I'm quite hard to find.

@tomhardy Knicker wetting date! Lol

@toooldforthis Awww sorry to read this. Really love yourself today. You need it.

@coolcahuna I think even if your username
doesn't contain your real name you are still searchable by your name on IG so you'd still show up in results for that name

@TooOldForThis67 oh no that doesn't sound great... did you want to end it with MrWow? Or did he end it with you? Or did something bad happen?
Hope you're ok x

I'm not ok and have finished the wine from last night. Going back to bed. Hate myself right now.

Too old
If Mrwow couldn't have compassion for someone he's been seeing for 8 months.. you haven't wasted your time. You've saved yourself further heartache. Knob.

Your worth more than this

@TooOldForThis67 what happened that's made you feel so bad?

@TooOldForThis67 sorry that sounds shit

I've got a date tonight with MrAbs. My age, funny, local, good looking, fit, 2 kids who he has EOW, so he's bound to have a huge flaw if he's still single 4 years post divorce. He says he's just "fussy"...

Meeting up with my original MrOld tomorrow. I'm very excited about this one but, he's 10 years older than me and lives 2 hours away so I'm meeting him more to scratch an itch with him. Messaging and phone calls he's the perfect mix of gentleman and sexy banter. He gives me proper fizzy knickers. I wish he lived nearer.

Also got a date lined up for Wednesday with MrShy. My age, but no kids so I don't think he'll be happy with an every other weekend arrangement for very long.

Read this this morning m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_11705780?guccounter=1 thought it is good to remind us of this

Mr Disappearing has not confirmed our meeting today. May need to go back and re read the article!

Just read that Daffo thanks.
I think it’s probably accurate. I can think of a few men where I really haven’t had to wonder whether or not they like me.
But then dealing with that can be quite overwhelming in itself (for me, maybe not for everyone).

@toooldforthis, hope you are ok. Sounds like he showed his true colours last night :-(.

So the guy messaged me on Instagram. Not sure what to call him Mr ex. He's said he's truly sorry for everything he did and wants to make amends. But he hasn't explained his behaviour yet so I'm still none the wiser.

I'm nervous about my date to tonight. We get on so well on text. What if it's not the same in real life. Whaaa.

Riggght ok so turns out I was completely wrong and over reacting! (Haha who me?!)

Had my date last night and I had the best time!! We had such a laugh and felt so comfortable. Had a cheeky snog by the car haha felt like a teenager. Both have said we want to meet up again which is fab.

Really liked him and was so attracted to him - just got to keep level headed. Who if by now you don't know I am rubbish at doing that lol always over thinking.

Looking forward to see where this goes, but I need to keep in the back of my mind it could all go tits up and be over and done with by next week. But my god he was fit

@Apparentlyacatch great news, glad we were all wrong. If you'd have listened to everyone here, you wouldn't have even gone on the date!

@apparently brilliant news. Just the best when you have a cheeky snog and follow up HELL YES

@Apparently The fit ones create a nice interlude irrespective of outcome 😉. Leave your heart in a drawer though just in case.