Dating thread 141 - fun and games

[Koko12]

Hope not stepping in anyone’s toes but thought I’d start the new thread as old one was full and I wanted to post!

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Does anyone have any experience with hinge? I think I've had two attempts at phishing/trolling tonight. I'm 56 btw. Tonight I've had really flattering responses to my pics one from a Cardiac surgeon in Nottingham and the other from an engineer in cardiff, both profiles have their education abroad (US and Australia) and both have bombarded me with questions once I replied to their flattering comments on my pics. The engineer went straight in with "do you have children and do they live at home" then "do you live alone" then "do you believe in love at first sight" by this time my red flag antenna was running with klaxons and so I reported it. Got another message from him saying "have you blocked me?" I then blocked him.
Then the other one (cardiac surgeon) pipes up "I hope I'm not intruding in your evening" "I'm a romantic I was married for 17 years", "I live in scrubs, the perks of being a dr" these messages are coming in one after another and I smell another rat. Too obsequious and too keen and obvious grammar errors. While I've been writing this I've had three from the "cardiac surgeon" telling me he is old fashioned and might bring me lunch to work. I'm going to report this one too. But just wondered if this was happening to others. I'm going to play the second one along and see how bad he gets...

It's got worse, the cardiac surgeons mother has cancer and only weeks to live. I'm stringing them along with sympathetic responses, I just want to see how far it'll go before money is asked for. I'll report in a minute.

I was on hinge a week and came off it. Everyone on there was on bumble anyway!

DaffoDeffo Id not noticed the same people but Hinge seems to be less well populated and it appears their security is piss poor.

They are both reported now and blocked and I'm now suspicious of another so I think I'll just demo the whole site.

I want to have another try at dating. Which sites/apps do you recommend.
Hinge seems the one to avoid!

Another no for Hinge here. It kept crashing and refused to let me upload more than 2 photos. It has potential but until it gets a lot more users I don't think it's worth trying.

I like the changes on Bumble. You can add height, drink, smoking, what you're looking for etc to your profile.
Tinder on the other hand has got rid of the "i" in bottom right corner that you click to see someone's profile. You can still do that but only if you know about it. Looks like Tinder is making it all about that first photo.

Bumble is v popular at the moment. Even the younger single ones in the office are using it now

I suspect I'm going to be back to no irons when MrPB reads my message, I really like him but I can't carry on with general chit chat indefinitely on the basis of one short coffee date. I've said I'd like to meet again but I won't ask again it's up to him. I'm doing all the chasing and it's bad for my confidence.

I've got 7 messages on Match I can't read, do I get to see them if I swipe right on them? It's a bit annoying but I don't really want to subscribe. None are very inspiring from what I can see.

Place-marking..

Chatting to a few people on Bumble - why am I getting matched with peoples 100s of miles away when I've set a limit of 30 miles..?

Who's got dates this weekend? I'm kid free and nothing lined up but laser treatment on my face this afternoon so probably a good idea not to 

No dates for me this weekend. I've more matches than I've had all year but no replies to my messages.
Think I preferred it when I got no matches

I don’t think I have any irons left, think I might have scared them all off. Mr Nature was annoying me last night, kept asking for photos of my tattoos, told him I was busy spending time with my dd but he kept texting, I ignored him and haven’t heard from him since. He doesn’t have kids so doesn’t seem to understand that sometimes I might be busy. He’s away for the weekend and I’m hoping he won’t bother texting when he gets back, meant to be meeting him next weekend but he’s become a bit sleazy so I think I will give it a miss.

Bumble seems quite busy, have had a few matches but getting annoyed because most of them are just in the area on holiday/visiting friends and actually live 200+ miles away.

Lovemusic33 That's one of the most annoying things they do, I had one who kept asking if I was chilling, couldn't understand I might be cooking or ironing uniform.

MrPB read my message and sent five back in succession, I'm letting my heart rule my head but I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt for another week, he's poorly otherwise I wouldn't, I won't mention meeting again, that ball is in his court.

I'm liking Bumble too. I like the new addition where people can add a bit more about themselves. I've just updated mine.

I'm away for the weekend. I should hide my card I've just realised as I will be matching with people 4 hours away !

Still chatting to Mr Geek, flows nicely but nothing has been said about date 3 yet. We do really need a snog though as I'm not sure if it's just a friends thing at the mo.

Moved to WhatsApp with a new job, Mrtall . Lives near me. Meeting for coffee in the week.

MrOld is history - it was like pulling teeth.

MrYoung well, we've both deleted our POF accounts and have been facing timing into the night until we fall asleep and messaging all day. Am so nervous about meeting him on Monday but I've got a good feeling. He says the most romantic things without even realising it. Is there a female version of Matthew Hussey doling out advice to men, because if there is, he's done a crash course in it. Be still my beating heart (and fizzy knickers.. )

Did @Stapler99 let us know how her date with hat boy went?

@jesuis, did he tell you about his wall building 😂. At least you've ruled one off the list.
All fingers crossed for mryoung

Bumble is certainly busier... getting more matches. But is anyone getting matches with guys they have no recollection of swiping right on?

So bit of advice required, have been flirting with MrSleazy after our one date. I know he has fwbs which I was ok with but today mentioned he was talking to us all at the same time and had talked about me to another fwb. We were due to meet when he was back from hols but I then cancelled as felt a bit sick at thought of potentially being part of this harem. Am I being weird, I quite enjoyed kissing him but just the thought I'm being talked about by his harem made me feel irritated and I don't know why!

Eesha I think you picked the right name, why is he telling you about each other, I wouldn't like that.

I think he has always had fwbs but now only has 2 left. I just enjoyed the attention as my self esteem was pretty low after my ex and I split up. But I think the idea he is talking about me with the two long standing ones makes me feel a bit sick! Like some coven

Sorry eesha that does sound pretty sleazy. Different people have different boundaries, but to me the idea of being third into the harem, and therefore the object of discussion among them, is pretty off.

This FWB thing is doing my head in. I've come off the apps and have three FWBs but only one knows he is a FWB and is happy with that. The other two are a source of massive confusion for me, my own fault as I've not been clear with them. I'd be happy to be exclusive but not serious with either of them - is that a thing?

@DogDayMorning and @likeridingabike i know you are right, it's just I've had little attention and I just enjoyed what little intimacy there was there. His point was he was just kidding about telling them about me and that I said i wanted to go down the FWB route initially but tbh I'm just not cut out for it in this way.

Eesha For me FWB sounds like fun, but I'm not sure I could actually do it. This guy doesn't seem very discreet.

@coolcahuna - no it was just as much my fault as his. Our messaging got too sporadic and although there was a little flirting and innuendo he never suggested meeting up. I'm too into MrYoung he has has the sexiest Cornish name - it could only be better if he was called Ross Poldark and worked down a tin mine (which he assures me he's never done) My only reservation is that he doesn't like scones, but since I'm from Devon at least it will save the argument over whether cream or name goes on first. It's cream by the way

*jam not name!