Dating thread 141 - fun and games

[Koko12]

Hope not stepping in anyone’s toes but thought I’d start the new thread as old one was full and I wanted to post!

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

maltropp glad you’re feeling positive and yes thanks to the poster on previous thread who signposted to Matthew Hussey - he seems to offer such good advice!

Well I'm positive about the fact that I am The Prize and obviously fab... Not sure about Mr BTO but at least I'll get laid tomorrow so can't be all bad!

Agree with Matthew Hussey - great advice!

I think I need to spend sometime watching Micheal Hussey to get some perspective!

I'm feeling a bit philosophical this morning. And looking back at the men I attract. I attract SO many men who are after only one thing and don't really want a relationship. My date last Friday with MrHappn is still on my mind - he was wonderful, he loved the date and I know he did and we had a great time together and ended up in bed but he is just not in a place for a relationship.

The older men I've seen who are in a place for a relationship tend not to want the fun.

I just can't seem to find someone who wants something long term but is also up for a laugh and a bit of fun! Which has surprised me really...

I just wonder if it's because there is so much choice out there (especially in London). MrHappn showed me his Happn and his bumble and in the time we were on the first part of the date (so 2 hours) he had had 35 women who liked him on bumble!

I'm talking to Mr Cornwall now, it's a long distance (2.5 hours) one but all the boxes are ticked, As I'm not after a move in live together thing this might be ok. Our first meeting will be next week in Devon somewhere (half way).

@DaffoDeffo definitely a choice thing for London. So many women looking for someone decent!

Hello everyone, I’ve not been on here for ages but have been reading the last thread to try and catch up.

The best thing was seeing Vet’s story. How lovely is that?

Anyway, I’ve been seeing Mr Museum since August now. We met on OKC. And all I can say is that I think you really do know when someone is right. I knew right from the start that we’d get on. There’s been no game playing, no double guessing just openness and honesty from the start. It is so refreshing after so many terrible dates and irons who mucked me about. We’re taking things very slowly, and keeing it not too serious. But we really enjoy each other’s company and he makes such an effort to see me.

I text him when I want to. I don’t think to myself “is it my turn? Am I being too full on?”. We Skype and some days we just don’t message at all. If has sort of surprised me in a way, but it just feels so right.

I’ll keep dipping in and out and wishing you all lots of luck.

tomthardys that sounds lovely and just the sort of thing i would like to find! Good luck with it all - glad you have found somebody decent

Back on the apps, was talking to 2 guys, Mr Farmer and Mr Accountant

Mr Accountant seems very busy and hasn't mentioned meeting up

Mr Farmer asked to meet up, we agreed Sunday and since then - silence! Think it's a 👻 from him

🙄

I think Matthew Hussey should be like something you have to watch as a mandatory thing before you even set foot on a dating app or website 🤣😂

He is so spot on with everything he says......

All hail the Hussey.

@VixenSixen YY, I've just watched a load of his stuff for the first time today. Appears the only thing I did right was set my expectations out clearly on my profile. I had loads of guys messaging me saying it was refreshingly honest and that were sure they could meet my brief (they probably meant knickers)

I 2nd what @TomHardysBitontheside said!

Met Mr24 on badoo about 4 months ago now and literally after a few days chatting he felt different to the other irons. No games, no 2nd guessing etc.

By the time we met for our first date I felt like I was just meeting up with an old mate in a way! Before him I'd completely intended on just keeping it casual, few dates with various guys see where it goes kinda thing, not looking for anything serious etc but once we began chatting everyone else kind of fell by the wayside!
This isn't me declaring my undying love/ claiming we're going to be together forever/ can't live without him or any of that crap. We are again keeping things very slow, we may not be together this time in 6 months but right now, at this moment in my life he's right for me.
I dated quite a few before him, the good the bad and the ugly, but I'd completely agree that when it feels right you just know!
Good luck to all those with dates this weekend!!

Just checking in on the new friend. Mrrunner sent a nice message saying lovely to meet you but no spark. Probably accurate, it did feel.more like a work meeting.
This is the problem sometimes with quick Lunch time coffees!

That so lovely to hear wishy. I’m really happy for you. I was the same about meeting Mr Museum. I just knew we’d get on and we did. Again we don’t know how things will pan out but right now it’s lovely. Every time I think of him I just smile.

It’s tsken a lot of sifting through various unsuitable men, but he was worth the wait.

Thanks tom!! Really good to hear your story too 

Ah thanks Tom and I'm so happy to hear that things are going so well for you and Mr Museum too. I'm still checking in to the thread occasionally just to see how everyone is doing! Like Wishy (also lovely about Mr24!) I totally agree that when you know you know. It was totally different with Mr Canada right from the start - no confusion, no angst, no games, no wondering or mixed messages. It just felt and feels right, kind of calm but exciting at the same time and we've both been completely on the same page all along. Obviously we haven't taken it slow given that we're living together but it's all good just now and we are both really happy.

It was interesting reading the age discussion on the last thread although I didn't get a chance to post at the time. Mr C is 9 years older than me. I've always gone for older men, in my most significant relationship until now he was 7 years older, but Mr C was a couple of years above my ideal age range when I was searching. It really doesn't matter though, he's young for his age (mid 40s) in looks and attitude, and we just fit. We do say we wish we'd met 10 years ago but better now than never

Ahhh @VetOnCall so good to hear from you, glad it's still going well for you!

Calm but exciting is the perfect way to describe it I think!

Agree with the age thing too, he's 11 years younger than me and on paper we probably shouldn't work.... but right now we do 🤷🏼‍♀️

I am hopefully seeing MrYoung tonight (will call him that as he's younger than me). Tbh I have very low expectations of this being more than one date because he's younger than me and it never works out but because I had a child free weekend and didn't fancy the local pub halloween party (fgs), this should at least be a fun option. He is fun, I can see that. My skin is awful today, not sure what's going on with it. I'm very flushed and spotty. Typical!

Seeing FWB, MrBloke1 for those who remember, who was my very first date on OLD back in July. We still talk every week but don't want a relationship with each other. If we can sort out his kids for Sat night, we will go out for dinner and hopefully dtd. I'm looking forward to catching up with him as we have both been really busy.

So no potential relationship OLD this weekend! A few new chats on bumble which i will cultivate this week.

very happy for you wishy and tom!

oooh vet how lovely to hear from you. So happy that you are still loved up and living together xx

@DaffoDeffo stay positive! Mr 24 is 11 years younger than me!
I actually swiped no on him because of the age gap originally but on badoo anyone can message anyone so we ended up chatting anyway!
Either way, enjoy 

MrYoung and I not meeting up. He is not feeling well, I doubt that's the reason (!) but I'm not going to query it as it was a very spur of the moment thing :). Tbh I don't look very well (a few people keep coming to ask why I am so red in the face!) so it's no bad thing as I was starting to wonder what was going on! I will have a lovely early night, I need one.

have a good weekend everyone x

Hope you feel better soon daffo

Good to hear from both Vet and TomHardys.
I have a friend in the same position. You can see how much calmer she is about dates and texts now she has met 'the one'.

Meanwhile, between Tinder and Bumble, I have 13 matches. It's probably about 2 years since I've had so many. Except not a single one has replied to my message.

I don't get it - either reply or unmatch.