My new bf has disappeared...

[DizzyBeeme]

Hello all...

I wonder if anybody can help..my new partner has literally gone awol. We have been together for nearly 6 weeks now and he calls / txts me about 20 times a day . He is really into me and we have a lovely relationship. He lives about 2 hours drive from me. On Wednesday I received a distressed phone call from him..saying some friends had stabbed him in the back and..he sounded broken and said it was not my fault..I then got a flurry of txts from him..and a final txt at 6.50pm saying his phone was out of battery and his body really hurts... he sounded panicked and very distressed. I tried to call/message back but phone was off by this point.

Since then. Nothing. His phone is switched off. I don't have any family or friends numbers yet..and apart from drive down to try and find the man..I do not know what to do.

I'm thinking Maybe he needs a few days to sort himself out...he has not been on Facebook or any social media at all. He is a responsibly physiotherapist with a great job..I'm st my wits end ladies. I really really care for him..
I just dont know what to do.. help..

What others have said. He's gone away with his family for half term. Sorry OP

Yeah he is dramatic and seems to need attention.
You also need seem to have taken much of the advice from other posters such as contacting work, parents, checking the registrar someone suggest for his job to make sure he is legit.... hmm.
And yeah 'some explaining to do?'
Nah drop that shit like a hit potato.
Don't excuse this shit, that's just desperate

Seems like a dramatic ghosting to me but I do home everything is alright and not as cynical or shady as well all think.

OP, he is a Billy Bulshitter! Leave him to it and move on! Sorry.

TWICE! In SIX WEEKS
FUCK ME. Get some fucking boundaries, work on yourself and try and decipher why you allow yourself to end up with someone like this.

Even if he was dying, he could get a message to a nurse to text you? A friend?
He would literally have to be dead for this to be acceptable

DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK

OP have you considered doing the Freedom Program? Probably a good idea if your last proper relationship was abusive.

As to this, 6 weeks is nothing. It should be fun and no trauma. He can't even fake for 6 weeks...

Not a talkative type are you, op ?

If it was something unusual his mates would have said basically we are worried. Sounds like they don't a fuck cos he's a drama llama and they are used to his bollocks.

Op did you not think the fact that he's done this before might've been worth a mention? 

Sounds like either you're well rid of him..........or visa versa

Apologies ladies I was out at a lovely meal with friends
I refuse to let this man take any more my my time so I am letting things go. I refuse to be dictated to by a complete wimp.

Thanks for the recommendation of the freedom programme I'll get right onto it. Lesson learnt. Don't bribe everything you've told. I'm s kind hearted person and actually spent the last week being so concerned for this man. He needs to man up and grow a pair I think!!

Thank you xx I genuinely care for him and was just worried. I.just wanted some reassurance which is why I came on here x

Had you actually met him?

I have some experience of a person who used to create drama and overreact to situations they had caused. It built up into more and more worrying situations but it was all very much 'the boy who cried wolf'.

It seemed to be an attention-seeking behaviour and also a way of getting out of trouble they'd got themselves into. It didn't end well.

I would avoid ever getting myself involved in a similar situation again. I don't want the hassle and emotional trauma.

@dizzybeeme have you ever met him in person

Yes I have met.him nearly every weekend since we first started dating x

Do not take him back ever and bloody listen to people who are wiser than you on here

So you have had approx 5 dates then ?

The only physiotherapy he's doing is pulling your leg

@GlasgowWarrier you deserve a medal for that.

I don't think op has met him, as lots of people have asked and she has not answered any of them.

I don't think op has met him, as lots of people have asked and she has not answered any of them

She clearly said she’s met him several times- posted at 18.47.

As some other person said (sorry don’t know who they are )
It’s been 5 dates.

He's ghosted you.
Don't contact or follow up in any way.

Following 😂

But there is a possibility that it was a genuine cry for help and that something seriously bad has happened. Did his friends seem at all concerned? I guess they werent the ones he said had stabbed him in the back?

God I had a really similar situation once. The guy decided he didn't want a third date with me and he faked a head injury.

Looking back it is hilarious now. I was worried at the time and obviously in the thick of it it turns your stomach but my god, the drama. He took a photo with some kind of fruit jam smeared on his forehead and pretended he'd knocked himself out for 12 hrs. I have a disability and he was literally too scared to say that was the reason he didn't want to see me again. I can't imagine why he didn't just make up some white lie along the lines of 'I've realised I'm not in a good place to have a relationship.' I discovered some really bad things about him after that so it was definitely a lucky escape. I know how worried you must feel though

Ditch and move on.