My new bf has disappeared...

[DizzyBeeme]

Hello all...

I wonder if anybody can help..my new partner has literally gone awol. We have been together for nearly 6 weeks now and he calls / txts me about 20 times a day . He is really into me and we have a lovely relationship. He lives about 2 hours drive from me. On Wednesday I received a distressed phone call from him..saying some friends had stabbed him in the back and..he sounded broken and said it was not my fault..I then got a flurry of txts from him..and a final txt at 6.50pm saying his phone was out of battery and his body really hurts... he sounded panicked and very distressed. I tried to call/message back but phone was off by this point.

Since then. Nothing. His phone is switched off. I don't have any family or friends numbers yet..and apart from drive down to try and find the man..I do not know what to do.

I'm thinking Maybe he needs a few days to sort himself out...he has not been on Facebook or any social media at all. He is a responsibly physiotherapist with a great job..I'm st my wits end ladies. I really really care for him..
I just dont know what to do.. help..

Because I am bipolar and was very open with him about my struggles. He did not.mention any mental illness so stop being do damn judgemental !!

1. Having (not being) Bi polar means nothing in relation to someone elses problems.

1. Youve known him six weeks. You. Cannot. Possibly. Know. This. He may not have told you. Mine never told me. Quite the opposite. Everything i know about him has taken a solod year of learning, researching and seeking out professional opinions on my own behaviour as well aa his.

You simply cannot say after meeting someone six times (so barely aquaintences really despite any sex) that they have no MH problems because you have bi polar and therefor you know everything.

Yes I checked the physio register and could not find him on there!!

Well, there's your answer. He is a liar and he has lied about everything.

DizzyBeeme are you new to MN OP? It’s a public forum, so unless someone has broken talk guidelines you don’t get to pick and choose who replies to your threads or ban a poster from contributing. You can click the three dots at the side of a comment to report it if you feel it has broken the guidelines, but otherwise I’m afraid there’s nothing you can do to gatekeep a thread.

Having said that, your response has pretty much confirmed my suspicions re your maturity, which brings me no joy.

I would have reported it to the police. If he was bullshitting (most likely) at least a visit from the bill would have put the willies up him, particularly if he has a partner. In the unlikely event not, then you've done the right thing.

"Get off my Thread"

Oh no, just seen his isn’t on physio register. That probably answers it. I’m a trusting sort and my brother has had sepsis, so I would have called the police! That would have been a shock for him if he is a fraud.

Whatever has happened op, he doesn’t sound like someone you should be in a relationship with.

Fucking hell some of the responses on here (AnyFucker and JessieLemon in particular) are just fucking mean!

Just because you have never fallen for any twats in this world or been played by them doesn't mean you get to stand on the sidelines and laugh your tits off at those of us who have!

And I don't need to cross out this next bit - You mean girls are all batshit too!

FrogsAreMean I agree with you. Surprised by AF tbh.

Who’s Norman

I'm picturing Peggy Mitchell from Eastenders when she used to say " get out of my pub " saying " get off my thread "

Op you may have started this sadly predictable thread but you don't get to police it. Save your energy for finding Mr bend the truth. His occupation is far more likely to be conman than physio.

Holdingonbarely Who’s Norman

Oh, just someone who run a motel....

Best of luck with moving on DizzyB. It's not nice when you have met someone and dared to dream a lovely future with them, and then it turns out not to be. He sounded like hard work though. Hope the next guy is more honest and straightforward.

I'm picturing Peggy Mitchell from Eastenders when she used to say " get out of my pub " saying " get off my thread’

Oh man you completely beat me to it, I was gonna say this earlier but got busy and had to leave it, just came back and flicked through active threads and saw you’d posted my exact thoughts 😂

I'd be worried too tbh OP.
Although my immediate thoughts would be that he was under the influence of drugs with that kind of behaviour.

Either way, I think you'd be better off out of it.

Oh come on guys. Op's posting style (post a drama, sit back while it flies, barely respond to helpful questions then suddenly lose the plot) is pretty typical.

Shit like this happens all the time, I know several women who have been totally taken in, usually by 'pilots', or SAS, but (my personal favourite) one was a war correspondent, ideal excuse for dashing off to emergency war situations.

Anyfucker I think it is you who is desperate, desperate to put the boot in at any opportunity. As for drama, you can’t help yourself and keep coming back to get the last word. I’ve noticed you on a couple of threads now (probably thanks to your “unique” username) and you are way out of line.

You've done the right thing there OP. Forget him and move on. You don't need the drama.

We shall have to agree to disagree RL.

AnyFucker comes on here for the gossip!

Whatever the reason it’s just not on that OP has been called desperate and told she sounds batshit by someone who don’t know her from Adam. Literally no reason for it IMO