My new bf has disappeared...

[DizzyBeeme]

Hello all...

I wonder if anybody can help..my new partner has literally gone awol. We have been together for nearly 6 weeks now and he calls / txts me about 20 times a day . He is really into me and we have a lovely relationship. He lives about 2 hours drive from me. On Wednesday I received a distressed phone call from him..saying some friends had stabbed him in the back and..he sounded broken and said it was not my fault..I then got a flurry of txts from him..and a final txt at 6.50pm saying his phone was out of battery and his body really hurts... he sounded panicked and very distressed. I tried to call/message back but phone was off by this point.

Since then. Nothing. His phone is switched off. I don't have any family or friends numbers yet..and apart from drive down to try and find the man..I do not know what to do.

I'm thinking Maybe he needs a few days to sort himself out...he has not been on Facebook or any social media at all. He is a responsibly physiotherapist with a great job..I'm st my wits end ladies. I really really care for him..
I just dont know what to do.. help..

I have doubts as to his actual profession too. Can you check he is what he says? Far too dramatic, and over text.... ditch him

Sounds suspicious on one hand but then if he is genuine it’s very worrying.
Hope you manage to get some answers

Do you know where he works ? Could you just phone and ask for him ?

Well she could call his work asking abput an appt to see if he actually is a physio employed there. Not to speak to him . If they say he is with a patient she knows he is fine. If they say he wont be in til next week op can assume he is off with his dc or wife etc
Ok have you googled him? Is he registered as a physio?

I would be worried by lots of things about him OP.
6 weeks in and he is contacting you 20 times a day is very over the top. If he is working I can't see how he manages that. His reaction last week was also really strange. If it was real, he must know you would be very worried. If it was all made-up drama he's a horror.
I think you should give him until tomorrow and text him to say you are going to contact the police to do a welfare check on him as you are so concerned.
I'd prepare yourself for him not being who you think he is though, 9ne way or another. There is something odd going on.
Do you know where he works? You could ring work and ask to speak to him- you don't need to say who you are but you'd know if he was there or not.
I hope he is ok.

I wonder if he's testing you to see check you're well and truly under his spell.
It all sounds very over dramatic especially his last text.
Be wary, as pp's have pointed out there are so many red flags here.

Hi all

We closed this thread whilst we looked into some concerns but we're reinstating it now.

Just a reminder to bear in mind that not everyone on the internet is who they say they are and we can never really vouch for anyone.

Any news OP?

Have you checked out whether he is a registered physiotherapist [http://www.hpc-uk.org/check here]] ?

sorry, here

A lot of rather nasty comments on here accusing OP of a lack of judgement based on very little evidence.
Fwiw OP I would have been just as confused. It does no harm to have some healthy scepticism but sadly the world of MN is populated by people who believe most men are lying, cheating, duplicitous, abusers and will make you fairly paranoid for asking any questions about a relationship that doesn't run exactly to plan.

I hope you sorted it out and he is fine.

I had an ex who was a lying pain in the tits and he left my life with a similar song and dance. Ring his work tomorrow, that’ll tell you one way or another. Sorry you’re being put through this shit.

If you haven't heard from him by Monday I would leave it, the whole situation sounds so odd, he would make contact if he wanted too

I’m loving this drama



This is the op’s life pouch, not a soap opera for you to watch

All the talk of hospitals....

On Wednesday I received a distressed phone call from him..saying some friends had stabbed him in the back

Presumably he meant some friends had done the dirty on him. Not.. literally stabbed him with a knife ?!

Sounds exhausting, I would just move on, harsh though it sounds. You don't need to complication do you?

Well it's all very odd. What does it mean friends stabbed him in thr back but it's not your fault. How could it be? And he's got a rash?

Honestly I woild think he's not very well mentally and I'd be going for a sti Check op.

It was the rash that did it

I’m betting you will get a text or phone call asking for money to get him out of a ‘situation’

Have you actually met him? You live 2 hours apart, so can only have seen him a handful of time. You will have no idea (no matter what he’s told you/how well you get on) on who he really is, what issues he may have, what drama is in his life.

Another one who thinks the drama & disappearance have conveniently coincided with half term.....

Worth checking surely?

I think I'd send a message saying 'I'm really concerned after your last messages so I'm going to contact the police and ask them to do a welfare check to make sure you are OK.'

I bet he'll reply like shit off a shovel.

I once had a boyfriend disappear on me. He turned up 2 weeks later on my doorstep because he " felt like some sex".