DP not happy with pregnancy

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I'm 25 weeks pregnant. The pregnancy was a shock but we were both happy I thought. Last night I asked DP had he thought about names and he said he hasn't got any ideas. I jokingly told him to sound more enthusiastic and he replied with 'well the baby was hardly planned so I've never thought about names'. I asked him if he was happy with the pregnancy and he said 'well I wasn't at first but I acted happy for you'. I'm actually gutted he's not happy about this. I know it was a shock but I'm now 25 weeks gone and obviously pregnant so i thought his feelings would be more positive by now.

He sounds like a man child.

You seem strong. You don't need him. You can do this alone if you have to.

Prepare to do this alone but also don't completely write him off. If you really love him and can somehow get past this, he might just be having a massive wobble.

Although calling a 2 year relationship a bit of fun is fucking cheeky.

The text he sent you are being a bit of fun was so rude and uncaring.

Don't feel embarrassed about him leaving op- he's the one people will think is an idiot not you.

I have texted him back telling him I'll contact him when im ready. it's over and I'm not going to change my mind on that. How dare he treat me like a bit of fun he accidently got pregnant. He's an adult and needs to behave like one

You sound amazing OP. He, however, sounds like a twat.

He's probably trying to smooth it over with me because he might bump into my brother at the pub. God forbid someone might pull him up about his behaviour.

He's texted me again. I've agreed for him to come round tomorrow

I actually think it's a good thing he'll be coming round, OP. Then you can really discuss your feelings together face to face, much easier to communicate than texting!
I hope it goes smoothly x

 what an arse

He is an arse. I don't want any begging from him. we've split up so I'm going to be discussing our baby's future with him and telling him my plans.

Your surname op. DO NOT COMPROMISE ON THAT!

You’re a hero OP. Strongheaded and independent. If possible, I’d meet him on neutral territory and not in your home. If it’s at your house he may get clingy or you might wobble as well. I’d bag up all his stuff, meet him at a Costa and discuss future plans after handing him all his shit.

Do you love him OP?

Do you love him op? Why? Should she do anything differently?

I can't scream at him in the middle of Costa. My friend has arrived tonight so he's taking DS out to the cinema while he comes round. I do love him but if he's doing this now I realise I'm a bit of fun only and he's not going to commit.
I see other people with happy marriages and kids and realise I won't have that because of my own behaviour. My ex told me I was a bike and no one would want to settle with me he was obvs right

Your ex was a misogynistic twat if he spoke to you like that.

The only person not coming out of any of this looking bad is you OP. Your children are very lucky to have you.

OP you are so strong, I am in awe. You should be so proud of yourself for cutting this relationship off because he has treated you like shit, rather than clinging on to it because it would be the easier option. You've shown him he can't fuck you about - stay strong.

it was my ex before him and he's right

You were in a relationship for 2 years and not even living together, even after 2 years? Sorry, it might be just my opinion, but that is not a relationship. It's horrible, but unfortunately you were just fun to him. He had no commitment or responsibility to you or your household, he could come and go as he pleases. Something tells me him not living with you was because he was seeing other women at the same time. You deserve better, raise DC on your own, hopefully your 13 year old son could maybe help out as a big brother.

Op.

You do not deserve this.

You may of made mistakes doesn’t mean you have to be treated badly by anyone . We all have histories.

He was going to move in with his bit of fun ????? Waits till 25 weeks to tell you how he feels.

You will be a fantastic mum again, however my one piece of information you can’t change him into the dad he should be.

He also very much doesn’t like you not answering does he ?

Your ex wasn't right. You're a decent person and your now ex partner is not. You may or may not ever get married but you will be a mum to two kids who will think the world of you and that counts for a lot. Tell him when he comes round that you have different priorities and his are not good enough for you and this baby.

Salem we didn't talk about moving in until I fell pregnant. I've never lived with a man due to my son being young.
Starlight he's texted me alot today. He doesn't like being ignored obviously!
DS has my surname so the new baby will be aswell

I feel very alone tonight

Is your ds at home? Could you creep in and give him a hug?