Shall I assume my date is off tonight

[ijustcantdate]

Been seeing s guy a few weeks, been in contact about 7 weeks but seen him 3 times in last 10 days, pretty much in constant contact been bit more quite this week as he's been on a course.

Anyway arranged to go out tonight and he asked me to book he was messaging as usual last night until 11ish I then went to sleep and woke this morning to 3 messages from him just saying night and hoping I had nice evening etc.

Anyway messaged him this morning telling him I had booked table for 7.30 he read it at 11.30 and to date hasn't responded, unusual as I always get a good morning message etc and he's been online a few tones since then so really do reason to not confirm. so now idea if he's picking me up etc or what time, reluctant to get ready and starting to get the hump... I really don't want to message again as hate the thought of chasing him.

WTF do I do? Give him till 4 and if not heard just assume it's off?

He may have replied and not hit 'sent' guilty of this several times over

Ring him

I'd cancel. Anything else is just being too available IMO. Cancel the table and go out elsewhere tonight and enjoy yourself.

Would you usually meet him there?

I wouldn't assume anything. He may well be busy with other things (work? kids? friends? family?) and saw your message but forgot to reply.

I'd sent a breezy "Hey, how's your day been? Shall we meet at the restaurant or do you want to come here first then head over?"

I would text, not heard from you? just in case he had overlooked it or ideally ring.

I'd go with a ' hey, shall we meet at the restaurant or are you picking me up first then heading on?

If he doesn't respond to that by 4pm then I'd leave it.

Message him something like, they've just called back to see if we can come at 8 instead, is that ok with you?

That's a direct question that he has to answer. Rather than a statement like "booked for 7" which, although poor manners, does not technically require a response too.

If he doesn't answer that, then you know he's ignoring you. And you haven't lost too much face with a "are you still coming?" sort of text.

We had said that he would drive so wouldn't need to arrange pick up and from where.

I would be so bothered but he has been active at least every half hour since he read my message this morning

And again very got of character not to be in some contact throughout the day found by last 7 weeks

Why don't you just ring him?

Couldn't you just ask him what time he's picking you up?

If he sent those three messages last night I might (as an overthinker) interpret that as he was huffy you went to bed without saying goodnight, and is now therefore sulking. Which would obviously be red flag behaviour, although this is just a theory and I am by no means right.
Has he ever sulked before? I would probably chase him up but the silence would be a black mark against him which I would file away, if he repeated it I would tell him to jog on.

Do nothing. You'll find out if you are a priority or an option.

Call him??

I'm not dating so don't know current etiquette but if you arranged to meet tonight and you've booked a table, I would assume it is on and that you'll speak then.

Personally, I'd make other arrangements, because if he does show up and you're not there and he contacts you, you can say 'well I did message you but I got no response' so assumed it wasn't happening?' At the very least it gives him a clear message about your expectations moving forward and what your personal boundaries are.

I'd text 'see you at 7?' or whatever time you think. If no response by 5.30 I'd make other plans. And then don't change them after that even if he comes back to you. To leave you hanging is plain annoying.

He won't just turn up as he doesn't know what restaurant I booked it's in my area,

I've feel asleep on him loads of times so no issues there he knows I'm going through a tough time at moment and tired

I would ring him

I presume he thinks it's booked for 7:30, so it's all sorted.

I'd message again and say "are we still on for tonight?" since you're feeling doubtful. If he doesn't respond to that, then you know. Otherwise you'll just be wondering for hours.

As lots of other pp have suggested RING HIM!

Am I right that you sent him a message saying ‘booked for 7’ after him asking you to book a table and arranging that he will drive? So all he has failed to do is acknowledge with an ‘ok’ or similar?

I think you may be jumping to conclusions and I wouldn’t assume that he isn’t going to turn up.

I'd send one last message, just incase he feels there's no need to respond. What time are you coming over? If you get no response to a direct question, I'd make other plans

Yes just text and ask ‘are we still on for tonight?’ Minus any smileys/niceties/kisses. You’ll get your answer either way.

I'd do nothing, and plan alternative fun thing for yourself tonight - like watch a film you love and eat delish chocolate Cagle or something. If it's all still go and he's just not had a chance to reply on the course then you haven't messed anything up, and if he has just ghosted you won't feel too much like you've been hanging around for nothing as you have nice plans (while at the same time nice plans don't involve anybody to let down if he does come through) x

Either ring him or just get ready and be there at 7.30. I suspect he will contact you before that anyway.