Possible/easy to just meet an OW???

[IsabellaMoltisantixx]

This is gonna sound a really stupid question but how easy is it for guy I meet ow when working away????

Long story short (see other post) dp is working away for 2 nights . Before he went he was acting a bit distant, not as lovey dovey it reassuring (I always get paranoid when he works away) but I did check his phone (very quickly) saw nothing on there

Now he's gone he hasn't contacted much at all but has been online LOADS on WhatsApp so my question is how would he have just got a woman's number and from the place where he's at??? Bear in mind he's never been to this place before, it's the first time he's had to go for work so not like he knows anyone there?

Would it just be easy for a guy to say go on tinder or POF or whatever n start chatting to a girl from that location n meet her? Surely it needs planning n like I said I checked phone beforehand n didn't see anything there

Just wondering if anyone has met a guy on the first day or two of talking to them. I've NEVER EVER used dating apps so I dunno how it works I'm really against them n hate the idea

I have just shown this thread to my DD just turned 18.
What she had to say was very impressive but I can't translate it - I'd probably get banned even from MN.

If you are genuine we hope for the sake of your children SS intervenes.

@Prokupatuscrakedatus

Why wouldn't I be genuine? I come on here for advice, clarifications etc it's impossible to go round asking dozens of women IRL what would they do!! Not only would people think I'm crazy or pedantic but people IRL know about my so so their view will always be biased.

@FuckItPassMeTheWine

How long would it take then to show that to someone we were split for a year he met someone else

@IsabellaMoltisantixx

We were afraid that you were genuine, but we hoped you were not.

(DD wants to know if you think with you ovaries?)

@Prokupatuscrakedatus

If you're referring to my post about trying to get pregnant well that's a bit harsh. I went to hell and back to have second dd, doctors we're adamant is not be able to conceive so if I can be blessed with another child I'd be very lucky and grateful. I'm not actively ttc but if it happens it happens n I'd love to have two children close in age. I didn't get a chance with the ten year age gap I have

Fucking hell op. I’d never have been ok with my partner arranging for another man to rape me. No matter what age. You cannot be serious.

You do know life is supposed to be souch better than this??? Seriously leave - be a better role model for your children

*so much

Seriously. You need counselling. The advice on here is spot on. Get counselling for you. Get a solicitor. Protect your kids.
Get away from him. Get your own support network in RL.

This man suggested rape - "Getting someone over to shag you" Christ on a bike -anyone said that to me we would be over. Very sad. Very sad your daughter is growing up, seeing you like this and not seeing what it could be.

You don't love yourself, just him. Change them the other way around.

Right, you've got your advice, what are you doing about it?

All I can add is what pp are saying. OP, you need some professional help quickly. If you need convincing about the effects of abusive relationships on children, look at the Stately Homes thread. Even if you don't love yourself, think about them.

Your had all the advice you need on your other thread, and the one before where he gave you an std and got another woman pregnant, and on the one where he won't drop the subject of wanting to watch you being fucked by another man and can only get his jollies when thinking about that. You're not going to get any different advice, it's not going to magically be okay.

You are seriously fucked up in the head if your main concern is jeopardising your house over potentially losing your kids.
You are weak and I anticipate your next post when things really get messy.

Young or not, you are a disgrace.

This thread was just written for opinions to see if other posters thought his behaviour indicated cheating, it's other posters that keep bringing other previous threads into question,
I've clearly stated on both posts does this insinuate that he's cheating , posted the pic he sent me because I am naive in that way n my mind definitely works better when other ppl point out stuff/things, I am grateful for the other advice but seriously I wanna get concrete evidence he's cheated that can help me in the long run.

Iv been on here long enough to know it's impossible for anyone to know if their so is 100% cheating unless they have something right in front of them but any clues, hints, familiar behaviour traits that would give maybe a better idea of me just sitting on my own in bits wondering if he is or isn't.

So thank you to the posters that have posted facts /ideas on behaviour patterns etc

So if he is cheating on you, will you leave?

Again I'll say it....it's not meant to be this hard. Spending so much time and energy trying to figure out of he's cheating or not is not normal by any stretch.
In the 6 years I've been with DH he's not given me any reason to suspect he's cheated and he works away a lot in a female dominated industry.

You are still having unprotected sex with a man who shags other people and has already given you an STD?

What WILL IT TAKE?

Please don't bring another human life into this crap show. You're messing three lives already.

So he is abusive. He is a risk to your children. You can't live with him. He cheats. He lies.

What actually will make you wake up? Why post here? You know what people will say.

And your children are at risk. If he isn't a danger to the kids, that means he can control himself and CHOOSES not to control himself when it comes to you. He CHOOSES to abuse you.

And yet you are with him. It's got nothing to do with not wanting 50:50 care. Because he won't go for that anyway. It's to do with you putting your feelings for him in front of your own safety and your children's saftey.

Your kids are getting older. I bet you anything he turns on them. He is an abuser. That's what they do.

And give the 'I am naive' stuff, up.

Your past indicates you aren't naive. You just choose to bury your head in the sand.

You have a 10 year old so can’t be that young. In your 20’s at least.

Yes, given what you have said, given what he's previously done, he's cheating. But I'm out of here now because even if he brought her back to your bed, you'd still be making excuses. You don't want advice, you clearly put him before your poor children, and you just love the drama

Why does it matter if he is cheating?

What actually will it change? Nothing. You will keep having sex with him, possibly another baby.

He could shag a woman in front of you and you won't dump him. And he knows it.

I don’t think you’ll take any notice of this for one minute but...

Most men aren’t like this. Most men don’t treat women like this. Most women don’t put up with this kind of behaviour from someone who is supposed to love them. This is not how life should be.

What difference does it make if he is cheating, you will stay with him anyway.

Let's hope for your kids sake he fucks off with OW... though I'd feel very sorry for her too.

If I were you SW I'd be seeking a care order.

Utterly disgusting behaviour, from you!

Fucking hell OP (if this is real) if isn't cheating it is only because no one else is dim enough to shag him, so it won't be for want of trying. What are you objecting to, him cheating, or not cheating but wanting to?
If you love your kids that much you would dump him before your daughter is even more damaged.