Added myself to dh and ow fb chat - part 2

[MissMarpleMyArse]

My first thread received so much support that I've been advised to make another one due to the number of messages. I knew my dh was up to no good, added myself to their Facebook chat and blew it all up.....

I hope you are feeling okay and have support from those close to you

How are you doing MissMarple?

Hi missmarple, I read your other thread - your husband is a dickhead! You however, have handled the situation impeccably, good on you. Wish I'd done the same with my ex instead of dragging out the heartache for a few more years! Hope you're ok as can be

Sending you big hugs

Has he stayed gone?

You’ve done amazingly. Hope the DDs are ok today and that you had a great night with your friends last night.

Hope you had a nice Saturday with your friends and they gave you a tonne of support 💛xx

Sending you lots of love. You are amazing & I hope you’ve got lots of support in RL (your mum is obviously fab!)

Yes Miss Marple. Hope you've had a good weekend. Hope you're feeling positive about the future.

Would you like to talk about anything in particular?

Hope you are doing ok

Glad you are back. You and your mum are 🌟

Glad you’re back Marple

My friends came round last night. I have the hangover from hell today though.
H phoned this morning on the the landline but I ignored him. He turned up about half hour later,
Iforgot to pack his work shoes. It was hard to see him, I thought he would still be angry but he said everything is his fault. He can't believe her has been so stupid and if he had one wish it would be to go back and not start this thing. She meant nothing and was just a cheap thrill. It didn't seem real and he could separate it from his real life. Until I found out and then he realised what he stands to lose and he will do anything I want to make it up to me.
God this is so hard, it would be easier to forgive him and get my old life back.
I won't though. He took his passport and a letter from his credit card co, this is the credit card we use for holidays so I couldn't resist a dig about him taking that slag away. He said he needs it to rent a flat. Sorry for not too much detail, I have a massive hangover and stinking cold!

Thing is, though, OP, he did it before and didn't learn did he? Yes you could have your old life back again very easily, along with the heart pounding "is he up to no good" again, every time he thinks you've grown complacent again.

That's no way to live . This will feel like pushing a boulder up a mountain but you will have peace of mind when you get to the top.... unlike any of his future partners will.

Remember that he didn't end it of his own free will it was because he got found out.

All that translates to is ‘I’m sorry I got caught’.

Stay strong lady!

Tomshardysnextwife - (I need to learn how to tag!) you've summed it up. I can't live like that. I love him so much but he's fucked it up.

Catherine and aster - yep that too. I really wobbled earlier but I need to remember this

He remains an arse.

Whether you take him back or not is entirely up to you lass.

I am sorry to read what you are going through Op. I couldn’t read and run. You have shown so much restraint and strength. I am so sorry

You have been amazing Miss Marple.

Remember this is your life though and you have to do what’s right for your family and future.

MissMarple I really don’t want to hurt you. But in your old life he was lying and cheating and convincing you that you were going insane.

Would you really rather be in the dark thinking you were nuts?

Or do you wish that he was actually a decent human being?

You are better than him in every way. Take comfort in that x

Glad you had your friends round OP... it's support even with a hangover.. it's support

You poor thing.... a hangover, a cold, and him.... BIG hugs! Hope your friends were fab!

Glad to hear you’re hanging in there OP