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Seduction advice needed

246 replies

EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 19:31

Hello,

I really need your help. I am very attracted to a man at work. He seems interested too but I'm not 100% sure. I feel like the sexual tension is building up between us.

My office has a very strict no relationships policy but fortunately he is leaving in early December for a new role elsewhere.

I'm looking for some sneaky tricks to get into his mind and under his skin. I already told him that I had a dream about him, and that seems to have helped. But I need more sneaky, slow burn ideas please! Little mind tricks...

Obviously I don't want things to peak too soon as I have over 2.5 months to fill.

Thanks in advance.

P.S. Ultimate aim is to make him mine, long term.

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Portobellae · 11/09/2018 20:18

Next time you catch his eye, rub your thighs.

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EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 20:27

Oooh, interesting one! I did a bit of calf rubbing with my legs crossed. Will try thighs.

I have been doing lots of prolonged eye contact. I'm pretty sure he knows I fancy him. I just need to get his imagination running wild ;0)

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wildewillow · 11/09/2018 20:28

Just ask him out on a date.

There's no need to be sneaky about it (apart from keeping it quiet from people at work). It seems a bit weird to try to snare him with 'tricks'. If he actually likes you he won't need to be seduced by 'sneaky tricks'.

elQuintoConyo · 11/09/2018 20:31

Drop your glove in his vicinity?

Hang your boobs over his computer monitor?*

  • may work best if he's already your DP Grin
Moominfan · 11/09/2018 20:33

Bend and snap

Icantbelieveitsnotnutter · 11/09/2018 20:35

Next time you catch his eye, lick your lips Wink

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EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 20:36

wildewillow, he is old school. I know he won't do secret work dating. He thinks it's a bad idea.

I don't mean tricks as such. I just want to be in a situation where it's guaranteed that we fancy the pants of each other and will date when he leaves.

I have been burned twice with initiating dates. I want him to lead. He is also quite old fashioned and will want to be the one doing the asking.

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EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 20:37

Icantbelieveitsnotnutter, I think I have done that. I will do it again. Subtly! 😉

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House4 · 11/09/2018 20:40

Maybe tell him you think you may like to go to Center Parcs one day Wink

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EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 20:41

Ha! Moominfan, I had to google that.

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EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 20:42

House4, eh?!

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Pornstarlips · 11/09/2018 20:43

There is nothing more sexy then looking into someones eyes, especially when you're across the room.

Icantbelieveitsnotnutter · 11/09/2018 20:44

Has he complimented you? That's always a good sign. Watching with interest, best of luck!

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EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 20:45

Pornstarlips, mmmm. I got tingly just imagining that! All our eye contact has been close range so far. Although we did have a glorious eye contact across a small crowd moment last week which felt like an arrow through my heart (in a good way).

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 11/09/2018 20:45

he is old school. I know he won't do secret work dating. He thinks it's a bad idea.

In the nicest way; I'd go carefully here. That sounds a lot to me like he's nicely told you that there's no future here, sort of let you down gently.

I'd definitely see if he does anything to make a move before upping your game.

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EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 20:46

Icantbelieveitsnotnutter, he has I think. Always says it's a pleasure to spend time with me, says what a nice person I am, says I look 10 years younger than I am, etc.

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EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 20:48

AnchorDownDeepBreath, his last relationship was with someone at his old work. He waited until he left before he asked her out because he doesn't like to date at work. Their relationship didn't work out.

I'm not 100% sure how he feels so that's why I want to get under his skin in the next couple of months. Once he leaves, we may never see each other again.

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Icantbelieveitsnotnutter · 11/09/2018 20:48
Flowers
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EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 20:49

Are those sympathy/comiseration flowers?

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timetodothis · 11/09/2018 20:56

Watching with interest.

timetodothis · 11/09/2018 20:56

Some men don't get Subtle.

Icantbelieveitsnotnutter · 11/09/2018 20:59

Ooh no! Flowers to say, good luck Grin I love a bit of eye contact across the room stuff. We're rooting for you.

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EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 21:03

Ahh, thank you everyone! I get butterflies just thinking about him. I feel 15 again!

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Icantbelieveitsnotnutter · 11/09/2018 21:06

I think it's definitely worth a glance across the room, wearing your favourite clothes/make up/hair do around him to feel confident around him plus subtle compliments to him too. Is there much banter between you two? I find laughing with a "suitor" really helps. Aren't we supposed to play with our hair, lightly tap the person on the arm playfully harmlessly flirty apparently? I'm better than I used to be. I was painfully shy when I was youngster, hopefully not quite a sex pest these days!Grin

trevormcdonald · 11/09/2018 21:11

My advice is be natural with him, don't go over the top. Staged flirting would be totally cringe. I'd go with pp's suggestion of having a laugh with him.