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Seduction advice needed

246 replies

EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 19:31

Hello,

I really need your help. I am very attracted to a man at work. He seems interested too but I'm not 100% sure. I feel like the sexual tension is building up between us.

My office has a very strict no relationships policy but fortunately he is leaving in early December for a new role elsewhere.

I'm looking for some sneaky tricks to get into his mind and under his skin. I already told him that I had a dream about him, and that seems to have helped. But I need more sneaky, slow burn ideas please! Little mind tricks...

Obviously I don't want things to peak too soon as I have over 2.5 months to fill.

Thanks in advance.

P.S. Ultimate aim is to make him mine, long term.

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MsHomeSlice · 12/09/2018 13:20

hahah...@ bendandsnap! I must revise that, not done it for aaaaaaaaages

I favour the "look at meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee" technique, draw their gaze to you by doing something just a little too long, but you do have to get the timing right, for example, your hand on your own knee, maybe an itch, maybe checking your stockings, j run your fingers over your knee and just move your leg a fraction to get a better look at your ankle....he should wonder what you are doing and then look at you, your fabulous fingernails, and lovely ankles

straightening a necklace (lovely hands, and embonpoint )
tucking a curl behind your ear (hands again, neck exposed)
putting on/taking off your glasses...just make sure they are not on a cord round your neck! But tucking them in your cleavage can be a point

but you cannot do this too long or too often or it is very obvious and very rom-com corny

Kittykat93 · 12/09/2018 13:21

I don't think there's any need for any lip licking, hair touching etc !! That would really put me off someone if anything.

Such a cliche but just be yourself, have good conversation with him and a laugh, and you'll have no need for any of this crap Grin

HarmlessChap · 12/09/2018 13:26

Just tell him you're looking forward to him leaving in December, so you can finally ask him out.

Haireverywhere · 12/09/2018 14:25

Yes - exactly what Harmless Chap says!

Don't embarrass yourself in front of colleagues with these 'techniques' though.

Haireverywhere · 12/09/2018 14:26

Everyone will see the calf to calf AND his reaction

powerwalk · 12/09/2018 14:31

Why not arrange work drinks one evening for everyone, this is the perfect place to chat and flirt and have fun. You need to look red hot.
No dating so no breaking of rules. Arrange similar for an early christmas party and then follow up with a leaving party for him. Maybe his goodbye present might be something he will definitely remember! :)

powerwalk · 12/09/2018 14:33

Also wanted to add, DONT embarrass yourself or compromise your ability to be professional, school girl tactics will ruin your chances.

Be cool, professional and focused on your work, ever so slightly every now and then hold his gaze.

Nothing more.

Also, I am a little worried that all this distraction is going to affect your job....

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EleanorLoves · 12/09/2018 18:48

MsHomeSlice, I love those seduction tips!

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EleanorLoves · 12/09/2018 18:49

Kittykat93, I'm my normal self 99% of the time. Just wanted 1% naughty flirting to keep me out of the friendzone!

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EleanorLoves · 12/09/2018 18:50

HarmlessChap, ha ha! I love it. If only I were that brave...

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EleanorLoves · 12/09/2018 18:51

Haireverywhere, no one would see the calf to calf. It would be in the dark, outside the pub, under the table! And his reaction would either be, keep his leg pressed against mine or move it away.

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EleanorLoves · 12/09/2018 18:52

powerwalk, I have arranged the drinks but I was too shy to check his availability and now it's looking like he might not be able to make it as he's babysitting for his sister.

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twilightsaga · 12/09/2018 18:53

This is so fake 😂 clearly some guy who's looking for some steamy ideas

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EleanorLoves · 12/09/2018 18:53

He's double checking the babysitting thing.

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EleanorLoves · 12/09/2018 18:55

twilightsaga, I promise you it's not! Why would a guy want ideas for how to seduce a straight guy!?

What makes you think I'm not genuine? Is it because it's so cringey? I am cringing at myse. This is what my life has become! I really fancy him and just want a chance at the best possible outcome.

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EleanorLoves · 12/09/2018 18:56

I'm 41 and went to an all girls school and don't have brothers. If that makes me any more believable!?

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Onthebrink87 · 12/09/2018 19:07

Eye contact with a pen to the corner of your mouth, shy smile and look down whilst tucking hair behind ears. If he is still smiling when he looks away it's in the bag. Never failed.

Onthebrink87 · 12/09/2018 19:09

Also I always find that being obviously low maintenence whilst dressing to flatter your figure helps Flowers go get him op!

Hippychick78 · 12/09/2018 19:56

Forget bend and snap.

It's all about the snap and fart 😂😂😂😂😂😂

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EleanorLoves · 12/09/2018 20:51

Onthebrink87, I like it!!

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EleanorLoves · 12/09/2018 20:52

I will be seeing him in a meeting tomorrow morning. I'm nervous already!

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eddielizzard · 12/09/2018 21:00

Oh god if you do any of this shit I'd be put right off Envy (vom). Just make an effort to look nice and be friendly. You're in danger of making a food of yourself. Soz.

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EleanorLoves · 12/09/2018 21:03

Thank you for your honesty eddielizzard

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thejeangenie36 · 12/09/2018 21:23

I'm a man. You are all suggesting things that are far too subtle! Men do not pick up on subtle hints, in my experience. I was clueless that my OH fancied me (though, to be honest, that still comes as a bit of a surprise). Many of my friends were similarly clueless.

The calf to calf thing would be a good signal. If you want to get him thinking about you, more flattering / revealing (but still classy) clothing probably wont fail.

Or, you know, you could just say that you want to ask him out.

Onthebrink87 · 13/09/2018 16:48

Waiting to hear how the meeting went! Blush