Seduction advice needed

[EleanorLoves]

Hello,

I really need your help. I am very attracted to a man at work. He seems interested too but I'm not 100% sure. I feel like the sexual tension is building up between us.

My office has a very strict no relationships policy but fortunately he is leaving in early December for a new role elsewhere.

I'm looking for some sneaky tricks to get into his mind and under his skin. I already told him that I had a dream about him, and that seems to have helped. But I need more sneaky, slow burn ideas please! Little mind tricks...

Obviously I don't want things to peak too soon as I have over 2.5 months to fill.

Thanks in advance.

P.S. Ultimate aim is to make him mine, long term.

I am dying to know how this pans out. I think he will contact younthevday after he leaves tonask you out but dammit, we can’t wait that long!

LabradorMama, I'm dying to know how it pans out too! I'm trying not to mess anything up!

When it was time to leave work tonight we ended up being the last to leave together and walked through the office with each other, chattering away. I find him so easy to talk to. When we got to our place where we needed to part he kept up the conversation as if he wanted to prolong it. When I'm with him I feel so incredibly feminine. It's like he brings out all of my femininity. He also gently teases me which I enjoy. I know I blush with him though. What do guys think about blushing? No one else at work ever seems to blush!!!

The blushing is another clue you’re interested!

LabradorMama but would the blushing put him off? Are there guys who like it?

but would the blushing put him off? Are there guys who like it?

Seriously, don't let yourself be completely subsumed by this man and trying to do exactly what he likes. If you blush, you blush...If there's any relationship potential here, you need to bring your authentic self to the table.

Moomin you beat me to it

Isawthesign I know and I do. I was just hoping he would find it attractive and nice. I am my authentic self with him. I have never been more myself with anyone. I'm just a bit smitten.

I hope you're not answering every question he asks you in full detail. Seriously - if he wants to know your every thought, action or movement, he should ASK YOU OUT.

Stop engaging much; create some longing in him so he is forced to ASK YOU OUT.

If he's leaving soon, he has nothing to lose by suggesting a drink.

As you are working on a project together suggest you discuss it over dinner

@EleanorLoves

Well no need to worry about what he thinks about blushing so...the very best of luck with it...it's lovely having such a crush.

I think other posters are winding you up with the thigh-rubbing, OP. Are you too young to remember Vic Reeves and Ulrika Jonsson on Shooting Stars?

WhatsGoingOnEh, I think I have been answering all his questions. I want to create longing in him but we have these snatches of time together and it's like we just want to know everything all at once! I don't want him to think that I'm backing off.

The other day I came out of my office to go to the kitchen and I was walking along and sensed that the person walking behind me was him. I gave a little extra rocking to my hips and at the last moment turned around, met his gaze and smiled, then carried on into the busy room. It was a nice moment.

Pieceofpurplesky, I can't ask him out. He's made it clear that he won't mix business and pleasure.

Isawthesign, it feels incredible. But also painful.

NobodyToVoteForNow, I'm not too young for it but I didn't actually watch that. I won't be thigh rubbing. Don't worry.

This is bringing back memories of me and a bloke I worked with a while back ... very similar

What happened in your case AtlasQueen? Did you get together?

No alas. It turned into limerance for me though and took me a long time to snap out of it. I think he liked me as a person and liked having his ego stroked and there was a connection, it just wasn't enough.

We're friends now though, and I don't think we'll ever be more.

Sorry to be a downer though! Your thread made me feel strangely nostalgic about it though as I remember being where you are now.

But good did come of it! It was a push I needed to start wearing nicer clothes to work and take better care of myself, something which I still do much more of now than before

AtlasQueen, I have definitely upped my game in the appearance stakes. I'm getting lots of compliments at work, which is nice! But obviously I care most of all about a particular person complimenting me (although he probably does so the least!).

And ... not saying this is you, but I do recommend reading about limerance so you know the signs. Just in case ....

Can't you just ask him if he'd be interested in a drink after he leaves?

Or try this:

"I can't wait until you leave"

"Thanks very much!"

"No, I mean I'll finally be able to ask you out, Mr No Mixing Business With Pleasure..."

Can I add a word of caution in here?

This is your second thread on this man, you seem somewhat obsessed, and now go so far as to say you're in love. Sorry, I'm not being bitchy.

This may come across to him, it would be hard for it not to, and may come across as desperation. Part of what men find attractive is confidence, the chase, the not quite knowing, the independent strong woman thing, not many or any of the good ones want the little woman who's all dolled up hanging on their every word, breathless with anticipation. They want someone who is an equal.

So my advice would be watch how you interact with him. Looking good, but not try hard, a few flirty, cheeky, comments, keep him guessing until the last moment, is probably going to serve you better.

Good luck,

I read about limerence AtlasQueen, it was useful. Thanks.

I might use that a week from the end MawkishTwaddle!!