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Seduction advice needed

246 replies

EleanorLoves · 11/09/2018 19:31

Hello,

I really need your help. I am very attracted to a man at work. He seems interested too but I'm not 100% sure. I feel like the sexual tension is building up between us.

My office has a very strict no relationships policy but fortunately he is leaving in early December for a new role elsewhere.

I'm looking for some sneaky tricks to get into his mind and under his skin. I already told him that I had a dream about him, and that seems to have helped. But I need more sneaky, slow burn ideas please! Little mind tricks...

Obviously I don't want things to peak too soon as I have over 2.5 months to fill.

Thanks in advance.

P.S. Ultimate aim is to make him mine, long term.

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MrsCar · 13/09/2018 17:33

Next time you're sitting next to him... yawn, stretch your arm out, around him, and then just casually drop it on his shoulder that's furthest from you, and leave it there...

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EleanorLoves · 13/09/2018 22:13

The meeting didn't go that well. He was in a bad mood as he was stressed about a work situation that I'm not involved with. He was also a bit terse and distant.

I forgot to mention before that he had texted me about a week ago about something and at the end of the message said it was always a pleasure working with me. I replied with something similar along the lines of him making the working day more enjoyable. Anyway, I was worried I had overstepped the mark. But then a few days later he phoned me on my day off about something work-related but unimportant. And he was chatty but sounded nervous. I was so happy after that call.

Then fast forward to today and he was all brusque. I don't know if he's just a guy and can't put work to one side in his interactions with me. Or whether he just doesn't like me.

I'm really confused.

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Bluntness100 · 13/09/2018 22:21

Was the meeting just you and him?

And don't follow all these daft techniques, you'll look like your auditioning for a porn movie.

Smile, be chatty, hold his gaze. Touch his arm, that kind of thing.

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EleanorLoves · 13/09/2018 22:36

Just us. I'm not doing anything at the moment. Just trying to have a pleasant conversation. I think he realised he was grumpy. He did say sorry I'm stressed.

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NotTheFordType · 13/09/2018 22:47

I'm cringing for you and I don't even know either of you.

Just ask him out for a drink, for fucks sake. He'll either say yes, in which case you will nauseate your co-workers for a few months, or no, in which case since you're leaving you can forget completely.

Our grandmothers fought for the right to choose our own partners; Are you really going to sit down and simper?

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EleanorLoves · 13/09/2018 23:09

I know it's a bit old fashioned but I feel very feminine around him. He is a very masculine man. My instinct is telling me to let him lead. But I do want him...! Arghhh!?!

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Gardai · 13/09/2018 23:12

I’d eat a banana really slowly in front of him whilst holding his steely gaze, he should stop being terse then.

Bluntness100 · 14/09/2018 07:39

I have to be honest and say it's not a good sign, if he was feeling it, he'd probably have behaved differently at the meeting, put on his best self so to speak, to impresses, because that's what we do, and hide anything else.

The fact he didn't, isn't really positive.

NomsQualityStreets · 14/09/2018 07:55

Snap and fart op that's going to ensure he doesn't forget you Wink

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Gardai · 14/09/2018 08:37

Iwantmore is skipping around the relationship boards like a teenager.
Just ignore the twat.

brokenharbour · 14/09/2018 09:13

I can't get over the thigh rubbing advice. Was it the fast show that did that? Suits you sir? Or maybe it was from Little Britain. Going to have to google.

brokenharbour · 14/09/2018 09:15

Ah it was shooting stars!

Sounds like he's old enough to remember that so please don't do it 😀

Gardai · 14/09/2018 09:16

I remember Vic and Bob used to do the thigh rub thing whilst semi squatting on their show back in the day.

PussInSandals · 14/09/2018 10:53

I've only skim read the thread so sorry if these have been mentioned. I used to be the queen of workplace flirting, try these:

Wink at him across the room - this NEVER fails. It creates an intimate moment that only the two of you can see but is also subtle enough to seem friendly and not too full on.

Show one of your female colleagues your holiday snaps while he is nearby (I mean at lunchtime, not on the projector in the boardroom!). The idea is for him to see you in a bikini and get ideas. Or you could be looking at them and say "Sexy Colleague, have you been to Majorca? I was there this summer, look at this incredible scenery" then start flicking through photos you accidentally on purpose look amazing in, donning gorgeous beachwear.

There will be something he knows how to do that you don't. Ask him to teach/show you, especially if it's out of hours and involves close physical contact. E.g. "Sexy Colleague, I've heard you're a whizz at advanced Excel formulas. Could you show me how to...?" Sit next to him (wearing perfume), lean in close. Or "I'd love to be able to do that Gangnam Style dance move you did at last year's Xmas party! Can you show me?" It must be just the two of you though.

The dream one was great - good start!

These have all worked a treat for me (I always got the man and the build up made it sooo steamy!) Good luck!

Mamabearx4 · 14/09/2018 11:09

Always smile, look intrested, make him feel he is the only man in the room. Loads of eye contact. Once read that when we like someone we tend to look in the eyes then down to the mouth then back to eyes (see if he does that to you) , also subtle but powerful tatics, touch places that arnt usally. Underside of wrists, neck etc.. brush imaginary crumbs off or a hair and skim the neck oh of course by accident Wink. Hand to his chest and look in eyes.
As you leave first look in eyes (look up to him, down to boobs then back to him) , smile turn on your heels and very subtle wiggle as you walk away he will be looking at your curves.

Rub your neck/leg complain of an ache and express your need for a massage and that you will have to organise one promptly. His imagination will go crazy.

Ohto be single again lol.

Threewheeler1 · 14/09/2018 11:12

Armpit fart a rendition of "I will always love you" whilst staring intently at him with crossed eyes and wildly licking your lips

POPholditdown · 14/09/2018 11:18

Gardai 😂😂 at eating a banana.

It reminds me of Rachel trying to tie a cherry stem in a knot and choking.

Ohh I’m cringing too OP, but only because I’m a shit/awkward flirt so I wouldn’t be able to pull any of this off.

Good luck!

brokenharbour · 14/09/2018 11:32

Yes, this is really making me cringe too. I am just laughing to myself at the thought of ever doing most of these. I would probably be done for sexual harassment in the workplace 😳

PurpleCurtains · 14/09/2018 11:43

Suck on the end of a pen then put it down your cleavage. Never fails

Ok maybe that’s a lie but I think it would be hilarious.

I’d never heard the triangle thing, what’s the thinking behind it?

Bluntness100 · 14/09/2018 12:23

"Express your need for a massage"

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

From the banana to the lip licking to the pen, it's like too many posters are watching too much 80s porn. 🤣🤣🤣

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EleanorLoves · 14/09/2018 18:42

Okay, so today was fabulous. We've been put on a third project together which is unusual as our boss likes to mix up the teams. He said to me that people will think we're in a secret relationship! He said are you sure you didn't request to be put with me (in a flirty way!)? I laughed and said No! I said are you sure YOU didn't request to be put with me!? He said No and roared with laughter. He said people will start wondering if we're together. I said they probably already are. It was all very flirty and cute. I'm sure I was blushing loads. Swoon.

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Shambu · 14/09/2018 18:57

So much better and more natural winking, wiggling, bananas...😂

Shambu · 14/09/2018 18:59

I went on a date with a guy who showed me his holiday pics on his phone. There were several photos of just him in white Speedos. I didn't know where to look 🤣 What was I supposed to say? 👌🏼?

I got such bad giggles.