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Would you do a test even though you knew you weren't

346 replies

Whatisthishelp · 10/09/2018 09:57

Hi all,

What would you all do in my situation? DH and I have been told that we have less than a 1% chance of getting pregnant naturally (problems on both sides) and we have had one failed IVF attempt, which although worked, it didn't stick and we had what the clinic classed as an early miscarriage. We were told to keep trying naturally which we have, although not religiously (I really struggled with the first round and now believe that my body doesn't work anyway so what's the point). We are waiting for a second round, I just need to lose a bit more weight before we can do so, but my weight loss is steady, not drastic and I've been regular throughout so don't think this is the cause, but my period is now 6 days late with no signs of showing up (none of my normal pmt symptoms). I am normally fairly regular. Is there any point in doing a test and being disappointed even though I know really there is no chance of being pregnant, or would you just wait it out until it arrives. I could I guess being perimenopausal (I'm 38). I have no signs that would make me think I could be pregnant, apart from fatigue (which isn't a new thing to me). Don't really know why I am posting, just wondered what others would do? x

OP posts:
Redrosebelle · 10/09/2018 09:58

I’d definitely do a test. The uncertainties would drive me mad!

Paddley · 10/09/2018 10:01

Do the test, I would.

SoyDora · 10/09/2018 10:01

I’d take a test.

Talith · 10/09/2018 10:01

6 days late... Yes I'd do a test.

HairyWorm · 10/09/2018 10:02

I would do the test. I would just need to know.

Storm4star · 10/09/2018 10:02

I probably would do a test, only because I think without a negative result I would have that tiny little hope and I would rather just know for sure. Sorry for what you are going through Flowers

Aussiebean · 10/09/2018 10:03

If you don’t test, you will constantly question whether or not you should do a test.

Do it and stop that mind set.

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Whatisthishelp · 10/09/2018 10:04

Seems silly, but there is such a small chance of it being positive, I almost don't want to waste the money and do a test when I know it's 99% chance of it being negative.

OP posts:
Paddley · 10/09/2018 10:07

Poundland?

Original poster
Whatisthishelp · 10/09/2018 10:08

Are the poundland ones any good though? The last thing I want/need is to do an unreliable test and then it still doesn't arrive so I am still wondering hoping

OP posts:
Talith · 10/09/2018 10:11

If you're overdue for a period the Poundland ones should be fine. It's only if you're chancing a test mega early that they might not be sensitive enough.

They were doing a pack of five strips for a pound recently so you can test every few days if your period hasn't arrived.

butlerswharf · 10/09/2018 10:11

The Poundland ones are just as reliable as any other once your period's overdue.

butlerswharf · 10/09/2018 10:12

Plus just like the ones used in hospital.

Lalalalalalaland · 10/09/2018 10:13

I'd text just to put your mind at ease x

SparklyMagpie · 10/09/2018 10:14

Take a test sweet, it will put your mind at rest a little, the Poundland ones are just as good? Especially if you are late

Wishing you luck x

Musti · 10/09/2018 10:16

I'd definitely test! Good luck:)

Myusernameisunique · 10/09/2018 10:17

At 6 days late id definitely do a test!

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Whatisthishelp · 10/09/2018 10:19

Thanks ladies, sounds strange, but guess I just don't want the disappointment of actually knowing if I take a test and it's negative.. whilst my period isn't here I guess I am hoping there is still a chance x

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Seaweed42 · 10/09/2018 13:53

Your period comes 14-16 days after Ovulation. The bit that varies are the number of days before hand. Do you know when you are ovulating? Some people notice the egg white mucus and may get a pain in one side of the abdomen for a few hours.
Also you can take your temp (vaginally) before getting out of bed/moving. Temp will go up by 1 degree AFTER you ovulate. It will stay up if you are pregnant, but go back down after a day or two if you are not. My point is that if you know what day you ovulated, you'll know if your period is late or just irregular.

Redrosebelle · 10/09/2018 20:04

Good luck Op x

December2018 · 10/09/2018 20:09

We where only given 2% chance of a natural conception and I'm 26 weeks pregnant with a little boy after 7 years trying... we where saving for IVF when I got a positive test and I was too scared to test, I was a week late and just felt odd xxx
Good luck babe and do a test and keep positive

FilledSoda · 10/09/2018 20:13

When I was doing ivf , we called the 2ww pupo - pregnant until proven otherwise.
I understand exactly why you don't want to test , pupo is better than nothing.
Wishing you lots of luck , it is possible .

TwinMummy30 · 10/09/2018 20:15

I know of two couples who were given less than 1% chances to get pregnant. One was 39, the other 43 and both thought they started menopause early. Guess what, now one couple has a 2 year old and the other couple just welcomed their baby in July this year. The doctors said they were miracles! Good luck 🤞

YearOfYouRemember · 10/09/2018 20:15

Good luck, OP.

Lougle · 10/09/2018 20:16

If it's negative, it's no different to now. If it's positive, it's different. So you should test.

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