Would you do a test even though you knew you weren't

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Hi all,

What would you all do in my situation? DH and I have been told that we have less than a 1% chance of getting pregnant naturally (problems on both sides) and we have had one failed IVF attempt, which although worked, it didn't stick and we had what the clinic classed as an early miscarriage. We were told to keep trying naturally which we have, although not religiously (I really struggled with the first round and now believe that my body doesn't work anyway so what's the point). We are waiting for a second round, I just need to lose a bit more weight before we can do so, but my weight loss is steady, not drastic and I've been regular throughout so don't think this is the cause, but my period is now 6 days late with no signs of showing up (none of my normal pmt symptoms). I am normally fairly regular. Is there any point in doing a test and being disappointed even though I know really there is no chance of being pregnant, or would you just wait it out until it arrives. I could I guess being perimenopausal (I'm 38). I have no signs that would make me think I could be pregnant, apart from fatigue (which isn't a new thing to me). Don't really know why I am posting, just wondered what others would do? x

Yes
I was told there was no chance of conceiving at all. He’s in year 6 now.

I know a couple who tried for 6-7 years for a baby, and they had a daughter this summer. I really hope you're right OP

Good luck op x

Do the test!

Good luck x

Oh no, I was hoping for a resolution here! Best of luck, OP.

Hi all,

I've still not tested, just can't bring myself to do it... I loved reading all the miracle success stories though, does give hope a little. Spoke to my DH and he doesn't want to test, I think we both know I'm not, I certainly don't feel any different, no sore breasts/changes, no frequent urination (although I do go a lot as I am drinking a lot of water with the diet) just nothing apart from fatigue (but I get up early for work, so that's normal for me) I assume it's just because I am losing weight. I just can't bring myself to do it. We do know when I ovulated and we did DTD but like I say we didn't exactly go for it, so the already small chance is further reduced. Wish I could just do it, but I can't :( x

Just hope it isn't me starting the menopause early! x

Do the test when you're ready to.

Just to say though that my MIL tried to get pregnant with my dh (her first born) for about 6 years. No luck. They went to doctors she had tests. They said there's nothing we can do for you.

2 years later she had my dh, then 3 years after that his brother, then 10 years later she had his sister when she was almost 40.

And she never used contraception from the day she married my FIL. So it does happen.

Good luck

Hey OP. I would say its better to just get the test done and over with. At least you have your answer rather than possibly hoping for longer and longer and then risking a disappointment.

Good luck either way.x

Yes my ex's parents tried for years to have children. Adopted two children and got pregnant with her first in her 40s, quickly followed by 2 more.

If you find the anxiety getting too much, take the test.

When I was trying, I got so in my head that I took the test just to stop it. Even though deep down I knew it wasn’t going to be positive, It stopped the constant thoughts.

I was sad for a little , but those 5mins of sadness was better then days of speculation.

A 1% chance is still a chance. I take tests sometimes to be sure even though I have the implant in. It's 98-99% accurate, but there's still that 1-2% chance it could mess it up. If you're usually regular, then there is a chance.

This was me. 13 years of unexplained infertility and not the hint of a BFP in all that time. I was 37 years old and my period was 5 days late (but that was not freakishly abnormal for me). I did not want to take a test as I had zero pregnancy symptoms. I did however have 2 days in a row when I felt very dizzy on getting up in the morning (more so than a typical head rush). I thought I had a virus or was getting menopausal. I knew if I went to the drs they might do a pg test and I really couldn't face another negative test in front of a stranger. So eventually I toddled off to Boots, bought a Clearblue test, came home mid-afternoon, peed on it and WHAM - the darkest second line ever. My pg symptoms only really crept in at 7 weeks and by 8 weeks I was being sick 5-6 times a day and felt properly knocked up. DS was born the day before my 38th birthday and is now coming up for 12 years of age. Do the test.

You need to take the test so you have a definate answer. I know you don't want to but subconsciously you are probably getting yourself excited and in turn will be more dissapointed if your not.

Urinating more doesn't come until later. My only symptom was more tired. Sickness came about 6 weeks in. Poundland pee on a stick tests are actually very good

You are all right in what you are saying, and I really do appreciate the support. I may just have to bite the bullet and do the test, but can't actually face going to get one because then I am admitting to myself there is hope, when I know there isn't realistically. Hopefully that makes sense, but in answer to my original question, you all all unanimous with the 'take the test' which is wanted I wanted to find out... just need to put the brave pants on and get it and do it I guess, the thought is making me feel quite sick! x

Pee. On. The. Stick. You need to do it. It isn't going to change anything. It is what it is. But this is torturing you. So do it.

Ha ha Lougle, that did make me laugh, you are right in that 'it is what it is'... if it hasn't arrived by tomorrow, I will buy a test and get it over with x

How about looking at it like "ok I'm just confirming that I can have a drink this weekend" test. I know it's easy for me to say this but just thinking of ways you can make it seem less stressful.

Good luck OP. Another good news story here, I'd been trying for almost 3 yrs, referred for fertility treatment. Definite issues with the quality of husbands swimmers. Bfp 3 days after my first appointment. Ds1 is 3. We had dtd twice that month. I was 37.

My second good news story is that when ds1 was 9 months old I started feeling very poorly. After 2 weeks went to the Drs. Pregnant. I was bf, had dtd once. Ds2 was born 19 months after ds1.

I'm sorry about your troubles OP.
But I agree with everyone else.
You'll not sleep and drive yourself crazy if you don't do the test.
Your first pee of the day is best for more accurate results.

Thank you so much for all sharing your good news stories with me, just goes to show that miracles can happen. I feel like I owe it to you all now to do a test!! x

Good luck

Just a hint - if you haven't felt like killing someone in the last few days it's very unlikely it's the menopause