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Would you do a test even though you knew you weren't

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Whatisthishelp · 10/09/2018 09:57

Hi all,

What would you all do in my situation? DH and I have been told that we have less than a 1% chance of getting pregnant naturally (problems on both sides) and we have had one failed IVF attempt, which although worked, it didn't stick and we had what the clinic classed as an early miscarriage. We were told to keep trying naturally which we have, although not religiously (I really struggled with the first round and now believe that my body doesn't work anyway so what's the point). We are waiting for a second round, I just need to lose a bit more weight before we can do so, but my weight loss is steady, not drastic and I've been regular throughout so don't think this is the cause, but my period is now 6 days late with no signs of showing up (none of my normal pmt symptoms). I am normally fairly regular. Is there any point in doing a test and being disappointed even though I know really there is no chance of being pregnant, or would you just wait it out until it arrives. I could I guess being perimenopausal (I'm 38). I have no signs that would make me think I could be pregnant, apart from fatigue (which isn't a new thing to me). Don't really know why I am posting, just wondered what others would do? x

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Mumof4under10 · 15/09/2018 08:29

So sorry. Good luck for the future Flowers

Cuttingthegrass · 15/09/2018 08:38

So sorry Flowers and Wine. Keep practicing though Grin there are some lovely stories about miracles people have shared

CaseFace30 · 15/09/2018 08:40

Sorry to hear this.

I will say (if AF still isn't here) that the day after I found out I was pregnant I had horrendous cramps that woke me in the night. They would come and go constantly, the worst pain I had ever felt and I was convinced either my period was coming or something bad, but it stopped after about 2 weeks.

I hope you get the good news you want soon x

DoAsYouWouldBeMumBy · 15/09/2018 08:57

Sorry AF showed up - take care of yourself and best of luck with the ivf ThanksThanks

FrederickCreeding · 15/09/2018 09:04

Flowers Am gutted for you. Hope we didn't make it worse for you by giving you false hope.

Enjoy your puppy and horse - definitely the two best animals in the world.

LetsHaveAnotherGo · 15/09/2018 09:13

I had the same experience as @CaseFace30 but didn't dare say anything.

I wasn't sure from your last post whether AF has actually shown up? For a few days before my BFP I had the most horrendous cramps, that put me off testing because I figured there was no way I could be pregnant. But I was Smile

Good luck for your future OP Thanks

IndieTara · 15/09/2018 09:18

You're unlikely to be Peri menopausal at 38

totallyoutnumbered · 15/09/2018 10:00

Gutted for you. Have a you day todayBrewBiscuitThanksStill keeping everything crossed for your next round xxx

Mrstobe90 · 15/09/2018 10:47

I'm so sorry xxx

AuLoinSontVontLesNuages · 15/09/2018 11:31

Im so sorry for you and will be thinking of you today. Flowers

CanYouHearThat · 15/09/2018 12:25

So sorry xxx Thanks

TheBeatGoesOnandOn · 15/09/2018 12:47

Sorry you didn't get the result you want.

I'm hoping a nice thread pops up in a few months with your successful ivf baby.

In the mean time give your fluffy babies a snuggle/stroke.

ineedtostopbeingsolazy · 15/09/2018 12:54
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Lougle · 15/09/2018 13:10

BrewCakewhatisthishelp, the puppy and horse and DH are a good family to have, and I'm sorry that you are not celebrating today. Take care Flowers

GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 15/09/2018 21:52

I'm so sorry, I hope ivf will be successful for you both. I wish you all the luck in the world Star

littlepotatoes · 15/09/2018 22:13

So sorry, all the best for the future xx

MadeForThis · 15/09/2018 23:42

So sorry. Best wishes for the IVF

BeenThereDone · 16/09/2018 00:00

Couldn't read and run. Sorry you didn't get the result you so desperately wanted.
Go do something nice for yourselves and try not to get too down.... There's always hope. For you both 💐

tosleepallday · 16/09/2018 09:59

I've just read your thread
I'm so sorry it wasn't what you wanted
Big big hugs Thanks

MulticolourMophead · 16/09/2018 23:55

Im sorry it wasn't the result you wanted. Ill keep my fingers crossed for you💐

Summersun111 · 27/09/2018 20:14

How are you op?

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