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Would you do a test even though you knew you weren't

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Whatisthishelp · 10/09/2018 09:57

Hi all,

What would you all do in my situation? DH and I have been told that we have less than a 1% chance of getting pregnant naturally (problems on both sides) and we have had one failed IVF attempt, which although worked, it didn't stick and we had what the clinic classed as an early miscarriage. We were told to keep trying naturally which we have, although not religiously (I really struggled with the first round and now believe that my body doesn't work anyway so what's the point). We are waiting for a second round, I just need to lose a bit more weight before we can do so, but my weight loss is steady, not drastic and I've been regular throughout so don't think this is the cause, but my period is now 6 days late with no signs of showing up (none of my normal pmt symptoms). I am normally fairly regular. Is there any point in doing a test and being disappointed even though I know really there is no chance of being pregnant, or would you just wait it out until it arrives. I could I guess being perimenopausal (I'm 38). I have no signs that would make me think I could be pregnant, apart from fatigue (which isn't a new thing to me). Don't really know why I am posting, just wondered what others would do? x

OP posts:
nodtik · 15/09/2018 07:15

Fingers crossed ............

Sending positive vibes and a whole host of other good wishes!!

Xxxx

thenewaveragebear1983 · 15/09/2018 07:16

Good luck! Star

Mummybear80 · 15/09/2018 07:18

Oh my goodness, I've just read this whole thread and have everything crossed for you! Positive vibes from Ayrshire!!

Whatisthishelp · 15/09/2018 07:18

Sorry to say ladies, this update isn’t the one we all wanted. Woke up early hours of this morning with horrendous pains, worse than normal and in line with how I felt after the failed IVF, so it wasn’t meant to be. AF is most definitely here so we obviously didn’t need to do the test. Hopefully in time when we can have our second round of IVF we will get the positive we do desperately want, but we are trying to live a “what will be will be” life.

Thank you so so much for all your support, encouragement, success stories just to prove it can happen and just being there. Wishing all those who have recently got their BFP’s all the luck in the world!

For now it’s DH, me our puppy and horse as a family and we’ll see what the future brings.

May not reply much today, but I appreciate you all xx

OP posts:
Pandasarecute · 15/09/2018 07:21

I'm so sorry it wasn't the result you wanted Thanks

NotSoThinLizzy · 15/09/2018 07:22

Keep your chin up 😊 sorry it didn't work out. Hugs to you xx

choccybiscuit · 15/09/2018 07:26

I'm sorry. All the best with the ivf in the future xx

Notonthestairs · 15/09/2018 07:27

Really sorry to read your update. Very best of luck for the future x

rainbowstardrops · 15/09/2018 07:29

Oh I'm so sorry for you both. Wishing you all the best and hoping all will turn out well in the future Thanks

RainySeptember · 15/09/2018 07:30

Sorry it didn't work out x

myotherbagisgucci · 15/09/2018 07:30

I'm so so sorry OP, I wish you and your DH all the luck in the future for your BFP! 🍀🍀🍀🍀

starryeyed19 · 15/09/2018 07:31

Oh, I am sorry. Best wishes for the future.

BlueKittens · 15/09/2018 07:34

Good luck for your IVF 🤞

Neolara · 15/09/2018 07:38

I'm sorry. Best of luck for ivf.

Haworthia · 15/09/2018 07:43

Oh, I’m really sorry. Take care of yourselves Flowers

StuckInTheMiddleWithJude · 15/09/2018 07:44

All the best for the future OP. Have a good weekend xx

minmooch · 15/09/2018 07:49

I'm so sorry that af showed up. Xx

jpclarke · 15/09/2018 07:49

So sorry op, I really hope you get that bfp result soon xxx be kind to yourself today ThanksCake

MaverickSnoopy · 15/09/2018 07:51

I'm really sorry to hear that. I really hope your second round works out. Try and enjoy what you can of your weekend.

Wonkydonkey44 · 15/09/2018 07:52

So sorry and good luck with ivf and I look forward to hearing wonderful news 🍀

peachgreen · 15/09/2018 08:01

@Whatisthishelp I'm really sorry to hear that. Sending you lots of love and wishing you a lovely, long, happy and fulfilled life, whatever happens. Thanks

GinandGingerBeer · 15/09/2018 08:08

Oh chicken. Very sorry to hear it's not the news you wanted. Thanks

Honeybee79 · 15/09/2018 08:26

Another stage on the journey, wishing you all the very best for your ivf.

armsandtheman · 15/09/2018 08:27

I'm so sorry. Wishing you all the best with the ivf.

12sillypenguins · 15/09/2018 08:28

I'm so sorry Thanks

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