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What to make of this?

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Saturdaynightthoughts · 01/09/2018 23:08

Received a text today after no contact from DH all day - He's been out with friends.

It states:

I'll never understand why you want me to go but I'm at the station for another 30 minutes x

Is it me or does this seem a little... weird/strange/random? No contact as I said since he left this morning and I anticipate he's probably drunk

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Aprilshowersinaugust · 01/09/2018 23:09

Not for you that was it?

BrokenFlipflop · 01/09/2018 23:10

It was for someone else. It sounds as if he was with another woman, she told him to leave and he's informing her that he now has to wait 30 mins for the next train.

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Saturdaynightthoughts · 01/09/2018 23:10

I'm thinking not

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BigApple11 · 01/09/2018 23:10

Sound like it was meant for someone else

thelaststraw123 · 01/09/2018 23:11

Also think it was for someone else

bumbother · 01/09/2018 23:12

Did you reply? It sounds like he hopes someone will ask him to go back.

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Saturdaynightthoughts · 01/09/2018 23:12

Thank you. I thought so.

Will see what he's like when he lands (should get here in about 20 minutes looking at the time the text was sent) and whether to wait until he's more.. sober? to tackle it.

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Saturdaynightthoughts · 01/09/2018 23:17

@bumbother I did but only with What? 'I don't understand?' and he responded with a little gibberish but looking at the gibberish he was trying to say on the last train home. But replied with 'I don't understand' to that before I figured it out and then he managed to put it correctly with then ended it with 'Ta'

I'm just sitting here wishing I'd stayed in the bath as I was relaxed and now I'm confused as hell

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user14869556378 · 01/09/2018 23:25

I'd quietly get hold of his phone and look through. By his drunk he sounds, if anything is on there he's probably not thought to delete it. And yes perhaps wait until he's sober to discuss. You won't get anywhere When he's this drunk

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Saturdaynightthoughts · 01/09/2018 23:48

@user14869556378 phone is a no go, he has a passcode on it that I wouldn't be able to guess and he generally sleeps with it

He's back but as drunk as expected and I think he's probably already on the way to passing out if not already Hmm

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SchnitzelVonKrumm · 01/09/2018 23:51

Can you use his fingerprint to unlock it while he's passed out?

heartyrebel · 02/09/2018 00:20

Very dodgy. Do some snooping, ask his friends he was supposedly out with.

tabularasa35 · 02/09/2018 02:58

A second interpretation is someone asked him to come to theirs, as in,

"come home now"
"I don't know why you want me to go" (right now instead of staying with my friends). "But it can't be right away as I need to wait 30 min for the next train"

Hyppolyta · 02/09/2018 03:12

Id be taking the phone tonight then demanding the password in the morning.

If it makes sense with where he was and what he was doing then he wrote it for someone

Sunflowerr · 02/09/2018 03:16

Sounds to me like he's been dumped by his girlfriend.

ilovelamp82 · 02/09/2018 03:21

I agree. Sounds like a woman has kicked him out. I would keep his phone and demand the pass key first thing in the morning.

puddled2 · 02/09/2018 03:28

Good luck op ...I would smell a rat

Babymammy · 02/09/2018 03:59

I'd be suspicious too you need to find out more !

Redglitter · 02/09/2018 04:02

I'd agree with pp. A woman has kicked him out.

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 02/09/2018 04:34

He’s been chucked out of whoever’s house he was at and wanted them to know that he would be at the station for half an hour if they changed their mind. I’m really sorry but I can’t find an innocent reading.

Sunflowerr · 02/09/2018 04:38

I'd be suspicious at how drunk he actually is. The first text was put together properly however minutes later when it came to explaining himself to you he could only manage gibberish? Convenient.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 02/09/2018 05:15

How bizarre. I can't even think of the right context for writing that! Does he usually put a single kiss on the end of texts?

MyOtherProfile · 02/09/2018 05:20

Oh no. Sorry but it does not sound good.

twilightsaga · 02/09/2018 07:18

Why does he have a secret passcode? Definitely get his fingerprint and check as he clearly has someone's number

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Saturdaynightthoughts · 02/09/2018 07:57

It was supposed be with his 'friends' from work, quite a lot of them and I've never met any of them despite him working there for years..

It wasn't a response to 'come home now' or anything as I hadn't contacted him, in fact I hadn't text him since early morning the day before. No one else in the household is old enough to spell nevermind spell, text and send to the correct person (and seems like the other person who is old enough in this household can't send to the correct person either!!)

He was up this morning when the kids got up but he went back to bed and it would appear he's moved his phone from where I put it last night so if there's anything there he'll delete - which wouldn't be strange, he always usually deletes call logs, texts etc anyway (even when sent a link/list)

He used to put a single kiss but looking at message logs (between us) then no, he hasn't done for a couple of years at least now)

Also a little suspicious in regards to why 1 text was readable, follow up text was not, then next was... Hmm

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