What to make of this?

[Saturdaynightthoughts]

Received a text today after no contact from DH all day - He's been out with friends.

It states:

I'll never understand why you want me to go but I'm at the station for another 30 minutes x

Is it me or does this seem a little... weird/strange/random? No contact as I said since he left this morning and I anticipate he's probably drunk

I would tell him he sent a text to you in error and ask for whom it was intended.

Read the full thread, Rebecca!

I'm so sorry this happened, but I'm so happy for you that he's gone. Everything will be soooooooo much better for you soon. You have no idea.

How are you holding up?

This must be such a massive shock to you,

Thank you for asking how I am.

I'm upset & shocked but holding up okay. I suspect once it sinks in a little will be when it hurts more. At the moment I'm just numb and wanting answers that I don't think I'll ever get. I just never saw this coming

My husband did that to me he was cheating

@slapbitchface did he ever admit the truth or did you find out another way?

OH I'm so sorry OP! What a bastard. I hope you're looking after yourself you should feel so proud that you were strong enough not to listen to his bullshit excuses, and you did what you knew was right so quickly.

Can you access his phone bill online?

No. I don't know the password for it, nor do I have access to his email.

To be honest, accessing his phone bill won't change things. He lied to me and the only reason to do that is because he knows I would not be happy at the truth.
Therefore as far as I'm concerned we are over. I will not be with a liar and a cheat. I do not give second chances when it comes to something like this - fair enough, a small lie like something like 'I only had 2 biscuits' whilst knowing you've eaten the full packet (for exmaple haha) but not something this big.

Also, if he didn't have something to hide, he would have reacted differently rather than just go & not contact at all.
I suspect he didn't put up a fight in regards to leaving because he has somewhere/one to go. Same with contact, he's busy.

sorry you're going through this OP

You sound incredibly strong OP, just remember we’re here for the times you don’t feel quite so strong, lots of support for you here

It's disgusting how he's just left without a word to the children. Sorry but I can't stand men who do this - it takes two to create a child. Why is it the men can just leave and go days without speaking to THEIR own children?

If it was me, I'd contact him and say 'you can be a shitty partner to me all you want but don't dare be a shitty father to your kids'
And also ask for some explanation for closure
The more you know the easier it will be to let him go and close the door behind his cheating ass

Just say something like it's obvious you're guilty so why not just admit you've been seeing someone else

I'm not going to contact him. He has made this mess, he can be the one to try to repair what he can of it.

I know that is probably childish and no doubt once I've got my head straight I'll have a different train of thought but at the moment I do not see why I should try to force him to be a father, he should want to contact them, not be told to do so.

I suspect they probably haven't really crossed his mind yet, as it's only been today this has all happened (apart from the text last night of course) so I shall see what tomorrow brings and hope he contacts to speak to them

You're composure is admirable

I hope he at least makes contact soon for the sake of the kids and that you get some truth and answers

OP . I’m so sorry 😐
Try to stay strong ...

@Saturdaynightthoughts
I'm so sorry
I can't imagine what you're going through but you do sound really strong, how are you today? Have you had any contact?

He admitted it

op I think he’s deliberately walked away and has deliberately gone nc to teach you a lesson.
What he’ll be expecting is you to contact him and apologize and then you will both continue with you knowing your place and never questioning him at all.
As you spend the next few days thinking about things you’ll no doubt start to see how he has been manipulating you and controlling you for a long time.
Stay strong, take your life back.
You deserve so much better

I think you are right not to contact him until he contacts you (and admirably strong to do so as I would be going crazy at this point-but far better to be icy cold and retain your dignity and composure).
Be brave now op. Have you someone in rl you can tell who will come and give you some support?

He's made no contact at all.
Was half expecting him to turn up last night worse for wear (which he didn't) or this morning for clothes for work. Not sure what he took with him but he would have arrived by now if he needed any.

I have support and I've told my best friend who came round for a coffee last night as soon as she knew and has offered to come round whenever I need her which is nice but she also has her own family who need her - especially as like me, she's trying to get everything ready for one of her children starting Reception this week.

That may be when he contacts as I know he was supposed to (but not sure if he actually did) book the morning off work so he could also take our son on his first day at school.

Jesus. Have read through your thread. He sounds so selfish.

I hope it all works out for you and your lovely children.

I expect he's still trying to cobble a convincing story together before contacting you.

Keep posting for support op, you'll come through this -
you're a strong woman with a savvy head on your shoulders.

In time you'll join the club of, 'I wonder what on earth saw in the arsehole.' I'll save you a seat.

When is your DC's first day school?

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