Tell me your narc dm's most outrageous stunts.

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I'm in therapy decades after an abusive upbringing and the penny's only just dropped that my dm was a narc! Watching videos on narcissism I'm going 'Yes, yes, yes!' - it's all my experience. Playing the guilt card. Taking your successes for their own. Gaslighting. The control. It's SO refreshing finally learning my own truth. Now I've found this I want to learn as much as possible. Please share your experiences.

My bio. mum had life threatening issue after issue after issue, and airly used to say "oh I nearly died" after each 'crisis' and "I havent got much longer now, I'm looking forward to being dead". It was shit for her teen children, they were jerked about so much.

When she finally died, a friend said "it's about time she lived up to her promises". Harsh but the whole family was profoundly freed up.

Awful how someone can become such a blight on everyone around them :(

So much of this rings a bell. My mother is a narc and alcoholic and I’ve been NC for 18months and when I see her tagged in Facebook pictures every weekend passed out on the local pub floor or singing on the tables then I’m glad I have nothing to do with her. I was told last week that she was thrown out of the pub for fighting...she’s 70 next year!!!

She’s always had a bad back and sends me picture messages of all her hospital appointments as though they are a badge of honour. She sends me messages (which I don’t reply to) making out she is in terrible health and the next minute she’s on Facebook on a pub crawl.

I have a step brother and step sister and she’s never paid much attention to them and walked out on her then husband and kids when they were young. She has always smothered me though and credits herself for any of my own achievements.

It’s all just so sad

Telling us she had lung cancer so my youngest sibling wouldn't move out, because she wouldn't be able to claim the same level of benefits.

Getting a massive payout from her former employer because of the thing she accused them of was so hideous, they paid her off. Instead of going to the police like any normal person would.

Not paying bills despite having the money, and going out when she knew the bailiffs would be coming round, for me to deal with, at age 14.

Reading all of these hurts so much as a lot rings true for me.

I can't forgive her although we are LC.

The worst thing I can think of right now is when my husband and I separated and he was seeing another woman. She was awful. Said to me numerous times to stop making this all about me as she'd lost her son in law. Put a wedding picture of the two of us on a chair at the table for Christmas dinner so he'd be 'with us'. It was truly awful and since then I have no emotional ties with her at all. I keep myself to myself.

As a teenager did anyone else experience total disregard for boundaries or privacy? She would watch me undress and talk about my body, it was harrowing looking back on it.

I really hope to be a better mother to my own children, I love them unconditionally. I read somewhere that a narc mother has children to love THEM unconditionally rather than the other way round. Its so so sad.

Talked to my mum this week. I'm pregnant with my second child, which she has shown no interest in.
I had a very traumatic birth last time and was in hospital for a while. A lot of very specific things went wrong in the birth. Things that I had to explain to my mum as she didn't no what they were.
She is now claiming to have had those things happen to her during her births, and that they happen to everyone. She also said she couldn't remember me being in hospital afterwards, or being in pain for months.
I'm so annoyed that not only has she downplayed my experience but then claimed not to remember half of it!

She has always been like it though. My dad took me to a&e once as my shoulder was dislocated. When we got back, my mum started saying her shoulder hurt. My dad actually burst out laughing