Holy fuck, help me!

[HarshingMyMellow]

I split up with my partner a few months ago, he walked out and I haven't heard from him since.

Before we split up I had a miscarriage.

I've been feeling rough lately (fatigue) so did a few pregnancy tests which all came back negative, I am still having periods.

I went to the GP this morning after having some blood tests done a week ago and he's informed me that I am in fact pregnant.
I haven't slept with anyone since splitting up with my partner, and going by the last time we slept together (calculations on period tracker app) I could be as much as 20 weeks!
I can't understand it. The negative pregnancy tests, still having regular periods, no morning sickness. Nothing!

I am in a state of shock. I don't know what to do.
I already have toddler DD (ex hasn't seen her since he left either) and now I have to make all these decisions I don't want to make.
I was taking the pill too.

I've got to visit the clinic next week for a dating scan, if I am as far along as I have worked out I'll have a week to decide what to do.
I can't have another baby on my own with no support, I doubt ex will do much. I have no family to talk to.

What do I do? What would you do?
I feel physically sick with worry.

Thinking of you harshing

Let us know how you got on
We are here whatever the outcome today

Hope all is ok op.

Hope you got the news you wanted today OP

Hope you are ok op

How did yesterday go? I hope you are ok.

I was in the exact same position as you this time last year. I couldn't bring myself to terminate- was literally at the scan at the abortion centre and I just walked out. I now have a beautiful 3 month old DD as well as my 3 year old DS.

my ex hasn't really been involved. It has been hard but I'm glad I didn't go through with the termination.

But that's just my story.

I wish you all of the happiness in the world OP whatever decision you come to

Only just seen this thread. I hope you got some answers yesterday.

I hope you’ve had some answers now OP

Hope you're ok OP

Hope all is ok OP. Sounds like a difficult situation for you for any outcome x

I hope you are ok OP

Hope you got some answers yesterday - now you know one way or another you can start making plans about what YOU want to do .

How did you get on OP?

Hope all is ok op

I keep checking back. Hope op is ok

Hope you’re okay OP

I keep checking back too. OP - are you alright?

Hoping all is well

Thinking of u op

How are you OP? Hope you are ok

Please come back when you feel able. Have followed the thread and am concerned about you.

Thank you all for your concerns and well wishes.

I am in fact pregnant. Baby is completely healthy and due on Christmas Eve.

I apologise for not coming back sooner, having the scan has really brought it home to me and the severity of the situation has smacked me in the face again.

I'm still trying to process the information. I thought I was doing fine but right now I feel like running away - as immature as it sounds.
I'm struggling.

I just need a few more days to really get to grips with things, to go from having a miscarriage, ExP leaving and now finding out that I'm halfway through a pregnancy. Massive whirlwind.

You're all so lovely. I will keep the thread updated.

Congratulations!

My Dad always said there is never a “right time” to have a baby just appreciate them when they choose to arrive.

Get CSA involved now and get organised for your special,if unexpected, Christmas present!

Aw, Mellow, I'm so pleased. A whirlwind, yes, but one with a happy ending. You said you wanted another child and now you've got one coming.

Awww a Christmas baby. How lovely. So pleased for you. You will make this work.