I find a woman attractive .....do I tell her?

[pippyo33]

I'm 33.
I've always had relationships with men.
About a year and a half ago I started liking a woman (she's my friends friend).
We've had a few weekends away (the 3 of us) she is great.
I've found myself thinking of her non stop.
I thought maybe it was a crush but I still feel the same 1 1/2 years later.
She invited me to her sisters birthday party (we didn't know each well then )
She has asked me what type of person I like and what personality I go for.
I think we have flirted.
But as far as she's concerned I'm straight.
Would you even say anything?

No keep the date bit!! She needs to be clear, no point in beating round the bush

Yup, send Velour's message!

Yeah exactly! There's nowt wrong with asking someone out on a date! Worth a shot!

I agree....what velourvoyageur said :)......make it clear and then just relax and be yourself. Good luck for tomorrow! We are all rooting for you

Good luck, go for it OP. Life is too short to not be true to yourself and have what you want. You'll look back in years to come and regret not making a move.

Keep the date bit.

Do it!

I was in your situation a few years ago. I managed to let her know that even though I was "straight", I was really into her. We are now married and expecting a baby.

Is it tomorrow or next Saturday?
Good luck! Don't play it too cool or she won't realise you like her. I had a always been straight' girl chat to me one night at uni bar I had no idea she liked me until we went back to my room with mates to have a few drinks. When they were all leaving, she didn't leave and got into my bed!! Probably best not to do that but honestly sometime it's best to be blunt!

In my opinion, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by being honest with her.

Good luck OP, you clearly really like her. Keep us posted

I'm sorry - I have to place mark here too. I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you.

Send the text OP!

We all want the date to be this Saturday

Bit of sad news today ...
She's back with her ex :-(

Spoke to mutual friend and I asked her what she's doing tonight ..
Oh me and (my crush ) and (girls name ) and (other mutual friend) are going to the bingo ...

Oh ok who's (girls name)?

It's (my crush ) girlfriend ..she is saying just friend but it's her girlfriend

I ask how they met and friend says it's her ex who she had a bad breakup with in 2013.
I feel sad now
Apparently been seeing each other since feb.
According to my friend she's less psycho now.
P.s her girlfriend is girly too.

P.s they aren't going to bingo but don't want to put exact event as it would be very outing

Noooo! Pippy, I'm so sorry.

But if they have broken up before they probably will again. Play the long game...

It's my own daft fault really.
Liked her for over a year,have spoke about men in front of her ....what was I expecting?
She was saying she felt like she was never going to meet anyone ..maybe that's why she started it up again.
Who knows ..trying not to obsess /care

I don't know. It might be no harm to 'register your interest' . She might be back with the ex because she doesn't know the likes of you has the hots for her!

Oh no!!!

Could you send her a light hearted but cheeky text to let her know that you like her?

“I hear you’re back with your Ex....and there I was building up the courage to ask you out! (Laughing face). Make sure you let ne know if you’re ever back on the market! (Cheeky wink face).

That’s what I’d do - you’ve got nothing to lose!!

So publicly she's saying the girl is just her friend? Can't be serious about it then? I agree with PP, let her know you're interested and then let her make what she will of it.

I know it doesn't feel right to come on to someone in a relationship, so even if you just comment on another woman, even a celebrity woman so she knows you're attracted to women.

So she is friends with an ex and someone else is making an assumption and on that basis you turn away?
Continue on as you were and let he know you've developed feelings for her and uncertain what to do/what it might mean to her but you wanted to express it. If she is back with her ex then as you said - try not to obsess - but definitely do care!

I'd just comment lightly that you feel jealous as you thought you were her special friend and now she's gone and replaced you. Then she could dismiss it as a joke if she's not interested or she could dig a bit deeper if she is.

Or queens message is good

I like the first line of Queen's message (the rest is too cringe for me but that's me, go with what is comfortable to you). Good Luck!

Oh no!! Defo send Queens message! Do it! You will regret it if you don't! Good luck!