I find a woman attractive .....do I tell her?

[pippyo33]

I'm 33.
I've always had relationships with men.
About a year and a half ago I started liking a woman (she's my friends friend).
We've had a few weekends away (the 3 of us) she is great.
I've found myself thinking of her non stop.
I thought maybe it was a crush but I still feel the same 1 1/2 years later.
She invited me to her sisters birthday party (we didn't know each well then )
She has asked me what type of person I like and what personality I go for.
I think we have flirted.
But as far as she's concerned I'm straight.
Would you even say anything?

I've just text ...
"Hope yous all have fun at "bingo"
I hear your back with your ex ..you kept that quiet mrs "
Just waiting for a reply ....
I've just text a friend who I ain't spoke to in a while too ..so every time my phone vibrates I'm a wreck ...

Aww she might change her mind about her ex if she knew how you feel

Honestly you need to stop beating around the bush and just tell her you fancy her.

If she says she isnt back with her "as such" or something similar, then you have an "in". "Oh good, Ive been trying to work up to making our meet up more of a date, but didnt want to tread on anyones toes. If youre interested in meeting that way, anyway"

If she confirms shes back with ex, then I guess it isnt appropriate but I would work on giving a few vibes off for future so that she knows youre receptive, without being inappropriate, because your description of things sounds like maybe whatevers going on isnt serious or committed currently.

You really should follow up with Queen's message. You're being so vague with her. That text wasn't even a slight hint. I bet you she's back with the ex because she's lonely - not because it's the relationship she's looking for...

OP, it isn’t easy and all of us hiding behind our keyboards saying I would do this or that are half full of crap as we don’t truly know. I hope all works out and hope you will let us know as things progress.

Blimey, we are all on tenterhooks here!! Please just tell her how you really feel. Life is too short for all this dancing around. Just tell her & then you will know. Nothing ventured ,nothing gained.

been checking daily for updates. I really hope this works out !

Shameless place marking! Got my fingers and toes crossed for you!

Oof could you have been any more cryptic?! Bloody tell the woman!

Bite the bull by the horns!
You have nothing to lose.

Gordon Bennett op! She's not a blinkin' mind reader ffs!
You're in danger of sounding like some weirdo stalker for heaven's sake 😄
Get. On. With. It!

Let's break it down. What's the worst thing that could happen by declaring your interest?

She might be taken or not fancy you in return. Oof, a little embarrassing, but that's it.

Best outcome, she fancies you in return and romance blooms.

Maybe if she had known you were interested she wouldn’t be back with the ex. (Although maybe they are just good friends, it seems to be the way of our people.)
You already know she’s gay so she won’t judge you for being interested, she’ll be flattered and I‘m sure very kind if she has to turn you down.
I‘m not judging, I once read cheesy Lesbian romance novels on my commute for months in the hope that a girl who caught my train would notice.
(She didn’t, but we managed to get married somehow anyway.)
Put yourself out there because what you might get back is worth the risk.
Don’t try to get the ‚right‘ text, don’t try and go on Schrödringer‘s date, just write something that‘s natural to the friendship between you. But be 100% unambiguous.
Also watch something inspiring while you build up your courage. ‚Imagine me and you‘, first series of the L Word or something along those lines.

I hope everything works out for you.

Be an Alice not a Jenny

Not sure if I've missed this bit but why not just tell the mutual friend? Surely she can drop a few hints or just tell her directly that you quite fancy her?

Waiting for an update 🤞

Gotta see how this ends....

Let us know what she says

Eeekkk.... I can't cope with the tension!

Oh no! Your poor thing. Hope it's just a friend thing and they've not got back together. However you've now got nothing to lose by registering your interest!

You need to just tell her explicitly. I wouldn’t get you were interested at all from your text. The worst that happens is she says she doesn’t feel the same. Marking place as I do love these sort of threads

shameless palcemark!! i want this to work out fo ryou OP!!!

They are back together.
Just got Snapchat's from my friend of the GF and she's pretty /dark hair
(We look very alike actually ,so maybe if it doesn't work you never know )