I didn't make the point about rape, but the responses to that comment have made me think.
1)men are always 100% responsible for where they stick their dicks
2)women are always responsible for keeping their legs together
Ok, one statement is 100% correct, and it ain't the 2nd statement.
Marriage is a patriarchal institution that has historically benifited men.
Marriage and the nuclear family contribute to the psychosocial and psychosexual formation of the male psychology. The first woman he ever loved is mother, he competes for her attention, but she rejects him (Freud) he sees how his father goes out and acts upon the world (Simone De Beauvoir) and his mother as victim, helpless but good and virtuous. He decides to join the world of men, he sublimated his need for love with a need to conquer the world.
He distrusts women, they reject him. Ultimately he wants sex and love. His love object must be virtuous (of course there are materialist reasons why women must be chaste and loyal, such as property and knowing your son is your son) like mother. But to enjoy sex he must find a woman he can debase or who he considers not a Madonna but a whore. He recreates the first love interest by setting his wife appart, on a pedestal, she is his property, not his father's, but his. However he doesn't objectify her as a sexual object, he loses the interest of sex with her. He desires sex with a woman he disrespects, can demean, reduce to just as sexual object. Marriage itself creates prostitution and mistresses. Few men set out to leave their wives, the only woman he has given the elevated social status to, the only woman he will share his status with, the one he has caged, on a pedestal, and tied to the kitchen sink.
Deep in the psyche of most men is a desire not to love but to be loved. There is a split in their psyche. And it's caused by the nuclear family and by their own man made institution of marriage, which in turn has materialist roots in changes within the mode of production that created the first class societies. As long as we have class, we have women as a class that are never equal with men, and no hope. And without equality one can never say that women are equally responsible for what they do, or what happens to them.
And for as long as we have class, female subjugation and basic biology, women can not be held to the same moral standard.
One can only be said to make a truly moral choice when one is free to have done otherwise (Kant)