DH has not come home yet...

[HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall]

He went to work at 6:30am yesterday, said he was going to have a drink after work and I've not heard from him or seen him since then, he finished work at 12:30.

He's not done this before, but he has recently been lying to me about who he has been out drinking with.

Those are not friends, start with a clean slate and make new friends. Just say no, sorry, it would be too awkward and you are not comfortable discussing it. Then distance yourself/ignore as much as possible.

I'd be telling them to fuck off as Humpty says, and precisely what I think of their "friendship", but then I'm not known for my tolerance of bullshit (except within my family I admit).

That's pretty unanimous then, both in real life and on here and tbh it's validated my own thoughts wrt almost everyone who knew about the affair but didn't have the guts to tell me and who continue to be friends with the lying cheating scumbags.

My feelings on whether to meet this one person for coffee and cake differs slightly in as much as I want to hear the perceived justification for why we should remain on friendly terms, I feel there's an ulterior motive involved going by what has already been said.

Hi @HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall - I know it's months down the line since your last update but I hope you and the DSs are doing well and the divorce is wrapped up. Got to say I was amazed by your strength reading through the last 21 pages. You're a great mum.