Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Bendy that thread is brilliant! Thanks for the link!! Yes, I thought as much about the photos that didn’t say anything - mind you some people don’t have put some weird pics on!!

Runs Oh, that’s a disappointment, why are men so bloody wish washy. I’ve had some of those, fingers crossed you may hear something.

Daffo enjoy your week away.

that hulk thread 😂😂😂😂

“HULK BUM LIKE 2 WATERMELONS IN A TOTE BAG.“

esk1mo yes, that line had me in hoots!

Anyone else watching Love Island? merely one of my guilty pleasures

Dan. Interesting to hear about it from the other side. I must admit I had a few matches that I didn't message because I didn't remember matching with them, must have swiped right by mistake. Had far more that just didn't reply to my messages.

I've deleted the app now. The location thing is a pain. I had far too many people who were just passing through. I think weekday evenings are probably the best time to use it, to get people when at home. Also I want more information about them up front, it's too much about physical appearance.

Totally off topic but Is anyone else getting a sick feeling in their stomach about the boys in Thailand - such a beautiful country with lovely people - puts our troubles into perspective a bit !

Yes I just read that they're going to start trying to bring them out today. Desperately hoping it will be successful.

yes I'm on the thread about the thai boys. The stuff of nightmares. Have everything crossed for them today. It does put everything in perspective. I have cheered up a bit having spent most of the weekend with my friends - god knows what I'd do without them. I have no single friends left now so dating is tough as none of them really get it. Thank goodness for you lot!

I am getting a lot more traffic on bumble but I get a lot of matches where people haven't checked my location. What's also annoying is you can't fix your location. So when I go to work, I'm then matching with people 10 miles from work which is useless as that's quite far from where I live. No doubt this week when I'm away, I'll be matching with people where I am! I guess that works if you want a hook up but not really if you want a relationship.

I'm getting a lot more traffic from there than GS though.

I am still chatting to bloke 2 on whatsapp but I can see what type he is. He is playful and fun but will be seeing loads and loads of women. He is the confident type and travels for work so I think enjoys sampling what's on offer! He wants a relationship but I think in the meantime is enjoying testing the waters out. Nothing wrong with that but I can almost see it going nowhere. We will try and meet up when I'm back.

bloke 3 sends me a message every now and then on bumble and lives close to me but I can't really get a feel for him. If I was here next week, I probably would have pushed it to a drink but it will need to wait till when I'm back. Physically I'm not sure he's my type but hard to tell.

Daff I'll search it out - thanks

I had a very enjoyable night/morning - breakfast being cooked then heading back hime 😋

My best friend is a sweet adorable man of 26 years old who is most definitely available and doesn’t do online dating. He would love to find someone.

Im in such a rut/comfort zone re meeting people and feeling good enough to date that i fear i give off the wrong vibes.

Soso Similarish situation here recently - if I'm on a bad run I get disillusioned, then lazy which reflects in the messages I sent - I simply cba and probably give off a vibe that says exactly that.

It can all change in an instant though and, since last Friday, I have been on such a run during which I have actually been motivated to make an effort to make that online connection and convert it into dates and then, well, you know .

So, stick with it, get that first date under your belt and you will quickly CONFIRM to yourself that you are the prize.

val how fab!

Have posted on the thread about the Thai boys so hopefully it will appear in active.

missmouse101 Then he needs to start OLD! Plenty of blokes his age on there.

Congrats Val - was that Mr BrokenLeg? Was the adaptation fulfilling?

Mouse - I agree with Bendy - get him online as he'll definitely find plenty of romance|ghosting|dates|weird shit|sex|scammers (delete as applicable) across a number of apps.

Thanks Daff found it

Kin no it wasn't - seemed too much like hard work - wanted an easy night

In that case, I admire the quick work in finding a replacement Val :)

DaffoDeffo: We so need a thread meet up!

On the one hand, that would be awesome. On the other, think of guideline #10 - it would be so wrong if people on the thread started getting jiggy with each other.

kin it has been so long since any jiggy I think everything might have sealed up! I probably need a can of WD40!

I have never been on POF but thinking when I get back I will cancel GS and go on POF then I can send my profile to you kin and you can critique it!

This week away has come at a good time as I'm also in a bit of a CBA mood after the disappointment of bloke1 but I agree the motivation for online dating comes and goes. Been single for years now!

I’m gettig really fed up of OLD. Every Bumble profile seems to be full of photos of men in bed (I guess they think they look sexy) and horrible selfies, more often than not a mirror shot of them wearing a suit.

I’m in my 30s. It all seems so pathetic and not as serious as it was the last time I was dating 6-7 years ago.

I'd be pleased to check you out sometime Daffo

Kin was already in the background - even got my water, oil and tyre pressure checked!

Wet, warm and pumped... I like your style Val

Kin thread meet up - you'd be laughing as the ratio of men to women is heavily in your favour!

Kin a very quick and excellent response. Think that might be the way to go - get all needed trades people lined up and hey - job done!

And Val? You know firsthand that I am the quiet, shy retiring type - a large group setting would probably freak me out.