Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Sending you hugs Val, there were times I considered going back to my ex but like your ex we were very different and he wouldn’t join in with things I wanted to do, I gave him 3 weeks to change, he changed a little bit not enough. I’m glad I didn’t go back, I love my life so much more now. Just think how amazing you felt going to that concert on your own? People don’t change and they shouldn’t have too to fit in someone else box.

Hugs Val. That's tough.

Mr Pool text first thing and adhoc all day. He's out tonight. So far so good. Tentatively accepted a second date but with no actual date set, who knows!

Reporting back on first date tonight: Good looking guy, tall, geeky, lovely smile, but as the evening wore on he was so meh about everything in his life that any initial attraction just died a death. No passion for anything!

He wanted to extend the evening. I'm on my way home!!

Oh that’s a disappointment Bendy seems like today was a day for bad dates!

val simply sending you a hug

Stay strong Val and remember that, with adaptation, two stiff legs are better than one

I decided to check pof for messages and, as always, was somewhere better horrified and disappointed at what I received. I think that I hate the ones that say things like ‘nice lips xxx’ more than the ‘Hi’ ones.

The prize this morning goes to the couple who want to date me. You’d think I’d have mentioned it on my profile if that was what I was looking for.

It’s not even that I lack a thick enough skin I think (I really don’t care if someone I’ve never met ignores a message or whatever); it’s that I struggle to deal with all this sort of shit.

Hey Y'All. Totally missed last thread (posted once :D).
Checking in to say I AM DONE for a bit . Going to delete my 5 apps - need some time-out. I'm actually going through some massive, crazy change (following a deborturous mid-week crazy night inc. ONS - although we are in contact).

Has resulted in me giving up booze and pulling right back from dating.
I don't see it happening anytime soon.. The more I will it to and feel so desperate with it - it doesn't. The continual crappy "How's it going?", "Love you're profile pic" Urgh - just urgh and had enough. Makes me feel so shallow swiping and ignoring people.
So perhaps I am being told to explore myself, become more confident, learn some patience and how to relax .

I will just keep lurking in on you all... We NEED a wedding !!!

Iron how can you say deborturous without giving the details?

There's nothing wrong with exploration, and I believe the relaxing and confidence actually go hand in hand with that.

Wedding? How dare you swear on this thread!

So this morning I've woken up to a message from a man dressed as a woman saying
"Hey cutie, my wife's gone out so I'm wearing her knickers"

I wonder if his wife knows 🤔

Kinunir - stop trying to tease me back

LOL wishy

A quick question I need help with if you can... friend of mine just sent this text:

Fancy coming over for the footie? I have beer and I'm feeling horny.

So... do you think I'll get to watch the match?

kin you are just bragging now....

Is anyone else out on a date today?

I'm missing the football and the first day of the tour de France for this... Better be bloody good

Oh god @wishywashy6. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t really care about what you think; he’s getting off on sending women creepy messages.

At least you can laugh about it.

It's actually a serious question Bendy - I wasn't able to get to sleep last night and actually fancy just chilling out a bit this afternoon #oldman

So... do you think I'll get to watch the match?

Depends how quick you are.

Kin you are mad. Not in a million years would I date when the football is on. Where are your priorities man!

Kin is your mate male or female? I'd have thought that was critical to your answer lol 😂

Thanks for all the hugs people x

They don't call me Quickdraw for nothing Unimaginative

I hear you Daffo - if it was a Liverpool match I'd tell her to do one but England... meh

Equal opportunities Val - get with the modern world

@UnimaginativeUsername

It takes a lot to offend me it was just unexpected 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

We so need a thread meet up!

Red Bull, red wine and condoms. Just left an Asda cashier laughing her arse off.