Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

But as I know no gardeners, looks like I'm cutting the grass this afternoon. Mind you , a neighbour is playing Bob Marley so shouldn't be too much of a chore.

Bob Marley? Hmmm.. I wonder what sort of relaxation he could offer?

I don't have any selfies in my profiles. I'm fully clothed in all of them (in decent clothing I like to think), I'm smiling in all of them (not pouting), and you can see my face. All pictures were taken out and about (by other people) rather than in front of the bathroom mirror or in the gym.

I think I'm going to give up, to be honest. I've been on POF for several weeks and got no chats going. I've matched with about 5 people on Bumble but received no messages (despite probably swiping on about 50 people). I've uploaded my photos onto Photofeeler in the hopes I may get a confidence boost, and for all except one, my attractiveness is rated at between 20 and 51%. I think I've just got to accept them I am not what women are looking for and that it's a life of solitude for me.

Kin not a lot now sadly - hope you had a good night and didn't need the red bull!

Dan it's really not about looks for a lot of women - don't give up just yet. OLD is very much a numbers game - and sometimes it's quiet and other times busy - who knows why?

Dan

Your pictures sound great and a massive step up from the SnapChat filters and selfies I see all the time.

POF is shit - the worst of the sites I use - so don't take that as a yardstick.

Bumble can be weird in so much as it uses your and their current location - the lack of messages could be because you matched when one of you was well away from home.

Try not to use photo feeler - unless you are a model I don't think those services will ever offer much benefit to your self-esteem. I once used one and found a pic of Shrek that I uploaded scored better than a real one of myself and I'm not too minging, even if I do say so myself.

Get on as many other sites as you can, i.e. Badoo, Tinder, OKC and your options and possibilities will increase massively.

It was a very good night, thanks Val - transitioned from scoring a couple of goals to snooker and a quick sink of the pink. After a mad 24 hours, I finished with pool and the final pot of the 8 ball.

Kin - you or Shrek ? Let me think about that - that's for tie your mother down lol

I've had my share of sand kicked in my face
But I've come through

I consider it a challenge before the whole human race
And I ain't gonna lose

Three little birds on now Kin

Nice!

I'm listening to my favourite Guns N Roses track, Anything Goes:

Tied up, tied down
Up against the wall
Be my rubber maid baby
And we can do it all

My date actually happened today. And it was a big disappointment. I almost didn't recognise him so his photo must be quite a few years out of date. He's 3 years older than me but looked 10 years older. Why do blokes in their fifties age so badly?
He was interesting and nice but there's no way I'd want to kiss him never mind anything else.
I only seem to attract the old and boring men which I don't think is what I'm like but maybe I'm wrong.

runs my date also looked nothing like his photo!! He was amazing to talk to, identical to on the phone, but just wasn't very.... Sexy in person?

So bit disappointed all round. The funniest part was when he complained about a previous person he had met up with a few years back looking nothing like her profile pic and being "about 20 stone heavier" he didn't get the irony. He also seemed to have no filter on many things, which although amusing would probably become massively annoying in a LTR.
I'd see him again as we had a real laugh, but I didn't kiss him and wouldn't choose to. So is it unfair to see him again? Should I be honest? Without being nasty

I've just made a new 'sexy times' playlist that reflects my personality and musical tastes, what's in yours?

I Think We’re Alone Now - Tiffany
Love Bites - Def Lepard
Single - Natasha Beddingfield
Right Kind of Wrong - Leean Rimes
Relax - Frankie Goes To Hollywood
Whatever You Want - Status Quo
Ain’t Talkin’ About Love - Van Halen
Let Me Entertain You - Robbie Williams
Big Balls - AC/DC
All I Wanna Do - Heart
Anything Goes - Guns N Roses
Eat ‘Em And Smile - David Lee Roth
Inside - Van Halen
Slow An’ Easy - Whitesnake
Get Down Make Love - Queen
Girls, Girls, Girls - Motley Crue very situational
Sick Sex - Tigertailz
Master and Servant - Depeche Mode situational
Shake It Off - Taylor Swift
Push It - Salt n Pepper
Can You Feel It - The Jacksons
Fuck Like a Beast - WASP
Up All Night - Slaughter
Out of Control - U2
Sex On Fire - Kings of Leon
S.E.X. - Adam and the Ants
Eruption - Van Halen timing is everything!
I Don’t Believe In Love - Queensryche
Exit - U2
Baby I Don’t Care - Transvision Vamp

kin 'push it' is my fave from that list.

Tiffany? lol

Loved your sporting descriptions btw. Very apt.

Dan I second the advice to use several platforms at once, give it more time, more effort and spread your net a bit wider. Also maybe lower your expectations as to the rates of response, etc as it can be a bit obsessing sometimes I think. Just dip in and out and keep busy with other stuff too. You can't let it get you down.

YesYABU my date was interesting to talk to. And I'd meet him for a chat over coffee but only as a friend. But I just sent him a message saying thanks but you're not what I'm looking for.
Sounds like your date might be worth meeting again. I had one date like that. No attraction on the first date but I gave him a second chance and decided I liked him enough for a third date. But that was the end as we were struggling to find things in common.

I upgraded to Tinder Gold so I could see who has liked me already. Waste of money. 200+ likes and they are all over 50miles away.
Some even say they are looking for someone local so haven't read my profile as it says on there where I live.

Fire - Bruce Springsteen- when he makes that mike rise so slowly - cold shower time for me
Human Touch - Bruce Springsteen
Because the night - Bruce Springsteen
Need you now - Lady Antebellum
Let's get it on - Marvin Gaye
Cum on feel the noise - Slade
Rapture - Blondie
I'm not in love - 10cc
Wet Dream - Max Romeo
Speak to me / breathe - Pink Floyd
Stairway to heaven - Led Zeppelin
Bye bye baby, baby goodbye - the ever wonderful Bay City Rollers

Just had to do a dear John text - absolutely hate this part of OLD.

It's ok Val; it would never have worked between us anyway.

So the guy dressed as a woman who messaged me the other night turned REALLY weird last night (bear in mind I didn't message him back).

He bombarded me with pictures of things up his bottom, his (very small) penis, him in some very peculiar positions.

I think he has issues 😳

Wish - have you watched the programme on Chanel 5 - enlightening and sad

I know Kin

wishywashy I had someone a few months ago who sent me photos like that. We'd been chatting for about a week when out of the blue he sent me photos of his feet in various shoes including one wearing women's high heels. I thought it was a joke until he sent the next set which were just as you described. Gross!
If he works as security for an airport it's the same bloke.

@ValMc1 - no I haven't.... I can't feel anything other than a bit sorry for him.

@RunsforCake14
I haven't personally engaged in conversation with him so I don't know what he does, unfortunately for him I was at an army summer ball when he sent them last night. It was fancy dress and there were a fair few of the lads in drag who thought it would be hilarious to send him some pics of themselves and I think he got a bit over excited bless him! I've since blocked him, think I've seen quite enough to know we're not a match 😂