Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Kinunir you've a way with words! I think id like a FWB situation for the time being. Life still a little up in the air. Cant work out whether s crap personality is negated by being ok in the sack?

I'm chatting to two guys from Match. Im in such a rut/comfort zone re meeting people and feeling good enough to date that i fear i give off the wrong vibes.

Yes I know intellectually that i am the prize (longtime thread lurker) ?but i dont KNOW KNOW it, if you get what i mean?

I have cunningly been on a date today and back home in time for the football. That's the way to do it!!

However, let's just say that I no longer care about any more balls hitting the back of the net today....

Hi everyone,

I've been reading the threads with interest after posting a few months ago about an iron I'd met from OLD mrbook. After posting, we ended up in a relationship and I believe we both felt that we might have met our perfect match. However, it turned out he couldn't get over his fear of being in a relationship, the long distance aspect and circumstances changing in his life and, after several back and forths, he ended it finally a couple of weeks ago. I was gutted but have been going through the NC process but it's still painful.

Sooo.....i thought I'd venture back on the dating sites as a bit of a distraction and in the hope of getting over this guy quicker. I'm currently talking to three irons off the site,
mrgamer seems nice but we are yet to meet. I'm not sure if he's really my type though.
mrblueeyes we had matched months ago on the site but nothing really came of it. He contacted me again when I reactivated my profile and we started chatting. We've actually had two dates last week that were really lovely. Good, relaxed conversation and really attractive. We have a third date arranged for next Weds. I do like him quite a lot actually although we don't seem to have a lot of contact between dates which makes me unsure what he's feeling about things. He also seems to spend a crazy amount of time at work (in hospitality) and there's a bit of me that's wondering if he's always at work when he says he is. I may just be generally distrustful though! I'm just going to take it as it comes and see what happens.
Finally, mrintellectual we are talking via text messages. We send long messages and seem to be just slowly getting to know each other. There is no flirting though but he has made it clear he would like to meet in the next few weeks. His personality and the things we talk about are very similar to my ex that I am currently NC with. I really like the open style of communication he has and this is very attractive to me and one of the things I really look for in a relationship. I've sent him a recent pic of myself today to see if I can instigate at least a little flirting!

I look forward to keeping up with everyone elses OLD adventures.....this really is a great thread

clamig sorry to hear it didn't work out with Mrbook but good to see you've got right back on the horse. So to speak!

sosogoodagain I honestly cannot see how a crap personality it outweighed by "ok" in bed. Even great in bed tbh. Raise your standards, girl!! You are worth more than just ok sex, or putting up with a crap personality. We should add this to the thread rules!!

Joining the thread

Was chatting to someone, just realised they have teddy bears on their bed I checked, they are their bears

that's a bit grim dogz

Bendy - your date went well then?

this just appeared on my feed. PMSL. Who takes a sunburnt picture with a white arse like this? And thinks it will attract women? lolololol

Oh yes dogz VERY WELL INDEED!!!!

I'm still recovering John Wayne legs

MB was had. Can't say any more.

Bendy get you sneaking in a craft date before the football!!!

Soso Nah, crap personality would need a bit of a stallion in the sack in my books!!

Clamig sorry things didn’t go ok with Mr Book but I’m pleased you’ve got right back on it again - good luck!

Teddy bears?? So not good dogz

I’m trying desperately to get rid of the truly awful date from yesterday, would I be mean just blocking him completely? I honestly think he thought I liked him, I have no clue why!

Am trying very hard not to obsess over Mr Local, I think DTD and getting back in the saddle big time is making me overkeen on someone who in truth I probably would never usually go with.

Have a few other irons lurking, Mr TooYoung is still about and may finally get to meet him tomorrow. Have a second date with Mr Perv on Tuesday so am keeping busy!!

Would just like to say thanks to you all this thread is sooo good and really keeping me going!

halfdutch sounds like you've got a good balance going on there.

Bendy Sounds an ideal Saturday lunchtime to me!! Mind you, not so much the white bum pic! Why?

Talking of why? Question for you all. Why do some guys just have a random pic of nothing for their profile on Tinder/Bumble. Do any of you swipe right on these if there’s nothing written? Or, are a lot of these people looking for ONS etc?

And, what is it with this spate of guys wanting ‘partners in crime’??

thanks all... as maya angelou said, when someone tells you who they are, listen.

he told me several things about himself that i would not tolerate at all, yet i wondered to myself if he would be ok for occasional action. grim

wtaf eh? clearly my esteem needs some work if i believe its the best i can get

yes - maybe add to the thread rules :)

Are we allowed to post links to profiles? There is one I really want to share. Doesn't have a real name but does have photos.

Dutch. I think bumble sometimes just has their Facebook pics. I've noticed a lot with photos of young women (probably their daughters) and some with the frames you can add on Facebook. It's pretty lazy that they're not checking what photos they're displaying.
If it's blank it may be a photo that is set as private on Facebook?

halfdutch those guys are the ones cheating on their wives or into very weird kink/sub/dom stuff and don't want anyone to know who might know them.

Checking in. I'm wild camping in a field and feeling a bit lonely as the dd's are being grumpy due to the heat. It's mainly couples and families camping near us.

Mr Campervan has been messaging me today, he sent me photos from his night out last night with his mates, I'm now less worried about what he's up too, I need to stop over thinking things in my head.

lovemusic Try not to overthink or overinvest!! Just chill and enjoy the weekend if it can be with grumpy hot children!

Sounds fab love

I am getting nowhere fast. Bloke 2 is messaging me still which is good but not a lot. Like one or two a day. He is bloody hot though and it's rare hot men are attracted to me so always makes me wonder lol. He still wants to meet up when we are back and I do have a good feeling about him.

No major bites anywhere else and off away with the dcs tomorrow so will be a week with no action and only messaging so interesting to see what happens.

Somewhat off topic, but if anyone is sat at home tonight on their Larry (i.e. not on a date, and needing cheering up), this thread is just comedy genius:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3295094-I-AM-HULK

Bendy that thread is so funny 😂

Checking in!
Still seeing PT Guy, not sure what it is, exclusive but not a relationship? Urgh hurts my head to analyse it...

Had 2 other irons, one disappeared and the other I'm trying to lose, just no attraction.

Don't know if I have Fancy Fatigue or if I'm just not interested due to PT Guy

Wish I had a dating Fairy Godmother who would just magic up some decent irons for me!

I've joined Bumble - 4 matches so far but no messages and all now expired. I don't know how the rest of you do it!

Earlier this week a Tinder match agreed to a date. He wasn't available this weekend and I couldn't do an evening in the week.
Late Thursday he messaged to say he was now free Sunday morning. I said I was and asked where and what time. Another message yesterday said he would think about it and get back to me.
Since then I've heard nothing.
He doesn't message loads but when he does they are long and ask about me and tell me more about him. But I just want to know what's happening tomorrow!

runs it sounds like he has backed out to me. Make other plans rather than wait for him.
I hate it when this happens, it's so annoying.