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Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

999 replies

ValMc1 · 06/07/2018 12:58

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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BendyLikeBeckham · 12/07/2018 09:34

I think it's just the alcohol wishy

Thanks for the cooking tips kin I'll try self-raising next time.

Oh, and veet is for pussies. Real men wax.

StarStrucks · 12/07/2018 09:35

Hi all,

Long time lurker, this is my first post, it’s great to see how you are all getting along!

I was just wondering if anyone was having a similar problem to me.. I start chatting to someone it goes well, they ask me on a date, we plan it etc and then they go a little quiet, I don’t really mind this that much, I prefer to meet in person before talking on texts for too long, but then they either never speak to you again or come back and tell you they can’t do this date (and don’t plan another one) or just tell you they aren’t interested anymore, but don’t give you a reason.. it’s happened to me 4 or 5 times in the past month or so.. it’s just getting very fustrating, is there something I’m doing wrong?

@wishywashy6 I am also forever getting dick pics 🤷🏻‍♀️🙈 Not very pretty! I’m not sure why someone would send when you say that’s not what your interested in

X

Kinunir · 12/07/2018 09:40

I had my legs waxed for charity once Bendy - I'm a pussy; never again!

Star - how long is it between setting the date up and actually going on it? Is there a possibility the gap is too long and they're meeting others in the interim? Wherever possible, I like to chat, setup date, go on date all within a day or three - strike while the iron's hot, so to speak.

StarStrucks · 12/07/2018 09:46

Kinunir - this is all usually within 4/5 days I’d say, first 2 days chatting and plan the date (usually takes a couple of days for me to be free) and the third day chat a little but not a lot, next day no thanks see ya later 😂 I agree with striking whilst the iron is hot, in my view nothing worse than just chatting and chatting then meeting in person and they don’t fit the idea of what you had in your head! X

Kinunir · 12/07/2018 09:55

That's very true about expectations Star. I don't know what you are looking for from dating but perhaps them bailing out is not a bad thing - you've filtered out those that are not serious without any effort.

HalfDutchGirl · 12/07/2018 09:58

I need to start posting late at night that's the only way I can keep up with you all!

Bendy Argh those hairy fingers!! My poor eyes! They've only just forgiven me for the dick pic I received last night and now this!

Love Tonights date sounds amazing (leaving out the pot noodle question, let's hope it was a joke!), have a great time!

StarStrucks that happens to me too! I think it's just luck of the draw to be honest and don't get too hung up on it, like Kin says, they've probably got lots of other theyre chatting to and others get in first (as it were!).

What's with sudden influx of men poking their tongues out on their profile pics??

Think the footie last night had a big impact on message movement, I had some real random ones that then disappeared into the ether.

Self raising every time, a far better effect in my view!

wishywashy6 · 12/07/2018 10:21

My favourite out of the 3, calling him MrChilled, has just text to apologise for his penis picture. To be fair it wasn't the worst I've seen, least I know what I've got to work with now 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

DaffoDeffo · 12/07/2018 10:35

Can I tell you all a secret? I have never had a dick pic! Is there something wrong with me? Where are my dicks!

Kin, hairy chests are a wonderful thing. I always feel slightly bereft when a man turns up and he's smooth all over.

Not that I've had one for a very very long time lol

BendyLikeBeckham · 12/07/2018 10:41

Here you go daffo

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BendyLikeBeckham · 12/07/2018 10:42

I've also never had a dick pic. Probably because I tell them straight that they had better not send me one.

But I do feel a little left out now!!!

Kinunir · 12/07/2018 10:43

Dick pic, especially for Daffo

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wishywashy6 · 12/07/2018 10:58

My profile clearly states that any Dick pics will be forwarded to my girls group chat to be laughed at but yet they still come (pardon the pun!)

I think they're always convinced that they'll have the one penis we're going to be impressed with 🤷🏼‍♀️

BendyLikeBeckham · 12/07/2018 11:05

It's only sexy if you've already sat on it I think.

A stranger's dick is just anatomy.

DaffoDeffo · 12/07/2018 11:13

Lol Bendy you have a way with words

I am a woman who attracts men with dead fish in their profiles - I'm starting to think this says a lot about me

Thanks for my dicks - I feel truly loved now!

wishywashy6 · 12/07/2018 11:15

@BendyLikeBeckham

Exactly! I prefer them in person, don't find them visually very stimulating but if I've already taken it for a test drive I'd be less inclined to laugh at it

Tattooed six pack does it for me 😍

Kinunir · 12/07/2018 11:17

It's the same from the other side of the fence - it's all just anatomy until you've tasted the goods for yourself.

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DaffoDeffo · 12/07/2018 11:17

Sorry my phone isn't allowing me any grammar or punctuation again. It chooses its moments!

It's lucky we are all different really. I am having to 're think my tattoo attitude as there are so many out there! Also a lot more men (this time round as opposed to a year or so ago when I did it first) into their fitness and not drinking etc. Lots of gym pics!

Lovemusic33 · 12/07/2018 11:19

Half I am hoping the pot noodle was a joke, I’m putting it down to the football and the fact he was probably drinking.

I think the influx of cock photos is also to be blamed on the football, wishy 3 cock photos in one night? That’s just greedy. Why do men think we we want to see that? Though the one I was sent is one of the prettier ones, I have had some pretty awful cock photos in my 3 years of OLD.

Lovemusic33 · 12/07/2018 11:20

Kin before I enlarged that photo I thought it said ‘clitorisis and assholes’ Grin

Kinunir · 12/07/2018 11:22

LOL Love

.oO(Phew! Thought I'd let another one of my secrets out for a moment there)

wishywashy6 · 12/07/2018 11:26

Funnily enough, while I love a good perve over tattoos and six packs, the guys I'm currently talking to don't possess them (or it least haven't displayed any!)

I have found the banter poor from those gym selfie blokes and the attraction falls a bit flat then. Nice to look at but if they can't match my exquisite wit and charm then they can stay in the "seen but not heard" camp

BendyLikeBeckham · 12/07/2018 11:28

Very apposite kin I've just had a guy ask to rim me. I haven't even met him yet.

Kinunir · 12/07/2018 11:32

It's not this chap is it Bendy? Grin

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Lovemusic33 · 12/07/2018 11:33

Bendy he’s not a machanic is he? Had a guy who I used to message who seemed to have a thing about rimming, I did meet up with him, after all the sex talk and dirtiness he turned out to be really in bed and pretty vanilla.

MargoLovebutter · 12/07/2018 11:43

OMG Bendy!

I cannot do any sex talk before I've met someone. I'm so not prudish or vanilla, but I absolutely can't do it with some random off the internet, let alone look at photos or even videos of their cocks. It is such a turn off for me and always results them being blocked.

I'm amazed by how many men seem to think it is ok though.

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