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Am I being an unreasonable bridesmaid

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tethered19 · 11/06/2018 11:26

I am completely honoured to be a Bridesmaid for a dear friend. Her and her partner have worked incredibly hard on their wedding and I have no doubt it is going to be completely beautiful. She is of course excited and in full organising mode but, and here is the but, its exhausting. I have, up until this point, gone along with everything, its her wedding, her money and her plans, there is very little I wouldn't do to make her happy. My one and only issue is the Bridesmaid dress, its an odd fit and she doesn't want it altered- fine her choice. My issue is wearing a bra under, I have a very large chest for my frame and I feel incredibly uncomfortable without a bra on, the dress pushes them slightly under my arms and although it sounds like nothing I feel awful in it. she is worried that a bra will push my boobs up in to my face which I 100% don't want, I want a classy minimizer that doesn't show through the dress in any place that just makes me feel secure. despite communicating this and asking her to trust me, I am getting nowhere and instead am just being told I am being ridiculous and she doesn't see the issue. there are loads of bridesmaids and I think there are a few of us with this issue. The big day isn't till August and I have spoken to a seamstress who can ensure it isn't seen but she is adamant she doesn't want me wearing one. I don't want to feel uncomfortable all day and I actually feel with the dress as it is they will look more obscene. any suggestions or hints would be appreciated.

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Dee56 · 16/06/2018 15:45

Go get your minimiser bra...or all in one if you dont want knicker lines...you can use flash tape to make sure your bra doesnt show...or you get those stick on bras that go to about a G cup...i cant for the life of me think why she would dream of telling you no bra...you sort you keep quiet to her and other bridesmaids...they need to make own decisions...she wont notice...or have time to notice on wedding day...be comfy unstessed and enjoy...If other issues arise from her regarding it id have to think how good a friend she really is....

Mikheala · 16/06/2018 17:41

I had the same issue with my bridesmaids dress. There was no way you could wear a bra with it. Which for me would mean them flopping about in the breeze 😂 My bride was very understanding and thankfully I was maid of honour so I chose (and paid for) a different dress. Same colour so that it wouldn't stick out like a sore thumb and made sure that she was ok with it.

WillowRose79 · 19/06/2018 11:51

I was MOH for a girl- she had just had a boob job and when I got into my dress she said oh no you're not wearing a bra! I'm not so you're not! My boobs are tiny and not the perkiest and the dress was super thin I HAD to wear a bra! I just laughed and said im wearing a bra, end of. She was the BIGGEST bridezilla in the world and didn't come to my hen or my wedding because she wasn't my BM ( I had 3 sisters as BMs) Utterly ridic- wear the bra!!!

Kate010377 · 07/07/2018 00:27

tethered19 - I'm curious. Have you managed to talk her round?

tracymartel · 07/07/2018 00:49

Bloody hell. This is why I'm getting my bridesmaids to choose their own dresses. I've told them the colour sand budget and they've cracked on with finding their own individual choices. I would hate to make anyone feel uncomfortable 'for' me

fieryginger · 07/07/2018 01:34

Yanbu. However. If push comes to shove, can you take one to change into after the actual wedding? She will be so busy, she won't even notice.

woodhill · 07/07/2018 01:59

Also if you don't feel comfortable you will look awkward on the day and not relax. You need a bra end of and she is being ridiculous

greenlynx · 07/07/2018 09:02

@tethered19
How are things? Did you managed to sort it out?

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