Husband and prostitute

[MrsGaslighted]

I've been with my perfect husband 25 years. Really wish I'd seen mumsnet 8 months ago, before I saw the text on his phone arranging an appointment with a hooker, and had not shown my hand. I confronted him straight away and was told he was never going to go through with it. I now know about 'the script'
I have done a hell of a lot of digging since but he has outright denied everything. I have so much circumstantial evidence but can't prove a bloody thing and I think I am going mad!!

He admitted he texted a sex worker even though he said he wasn't going to go through with it but now he is talking about you needing to see a doctor for your paranoia? And being supportive?

If this was a genuine once off, and zi don't know how you could have s genuine once off text trying to buy sex, he would be apologetic and trying to do everything to fix what he had done to you and to the relationship.

He would not be talking about your paranoia.

On the whole he has been very supportive. That was the one negative that stuck in my head. He couldn't be more sorry, can't believe he was so stupid and put me through this. Asshole.

Banana - thanks, I will have a proper look when I get a chance. Just hoping I find something.

Good luck with trying archived messages, MrsG.

I bet he is sorry, realises what he stands to lose.

Nothing in archived messages. Bollocks.
I've booked myself into this conference. Perfect opportunity if there is one

MrsG, I guess so, if he is going to take his opportunity then that is perfect. Does he have find my iPhone?

Yes. Ive been watching that along with the tracker. He's telling me tonight how much he loves me. And I actually think he does. They really don't think that this secret life will ever come out.

No they don’t! How are you doing? Must be hard with him being so attentive.

It is really hard. I so want to believe him. But I don't. I really love him and it hurts like hell But he will be more in shock than me when this comes out.
Thanks for your support newer, it means so much when I have no one else.

I’m really sorry OP.

One of my mum’s best friend’s marriage ended over a prostitute. From Amsterdam just to go full cliché. She believed she caught him first time. I think that would be an extraordinary coincidence. I reckon he’d been at it for years.

Yeah I think he probably has. He seems to think everything is back to normal now. I've blown more chances than I can tell you, so let's hope this comes up with something. struggling at the moment to think of you just want something more then just be bloody single.

*if you want something more.
As in why do these idiots partake in family life and then risk it all for a sordid shag.
After someone's comment earlier I made the mistake of googling uk punting. Omfg. These men talk about their wives and kids with affection??. I tell you what, if I catch him I will rip his fucking cock right off.

I need someone to talk me down. I'm going to blow it all again and go for him

I am here, talk to me. Don’t talk to him and lose it (I know that feeling so well).

And yes ukpunting is just the vilest of vile. Thousands of men devoid of any kind of morals. Misogynists.

When I read anything on there I got the rage and went for h.

He hugged me and said how much he loved me. I was on the verge of losing it and shouting about something else he would wriggle it of.
I've come upstairs now. I hate this. I have done nothing to deserve this. Newer - thank you so much.

Can you go and have a bath? Just to get away for 20 minuted. I know it won’t take any pain away, I know it will still feel like your insides have been ripped out but just a bit of time to avoid seeing him.

Christ, I do wish you weren’t going through this.

Have you a dog? Can you take it out for a quick walk ? Phone a friend - anything to stop you talking to him.

When /if you confront him with the nearest thing to proof that you have, you don't have to prove your findings as though you were in a court of law as a PP said.
You can simply say that when you discovered he could even think about going to a prostitute you got turned off.

and ps, I know there's nothing simple about it. I had all the evidence that my x was abusive but it wasn't the life I wanted so I dragged my heels facing up to it and acting on it. It aint easy that;s for sure.

He's fallen asleep down there. He has a drink problem on top of all this. I'm
Ok now. Upstairs on my own and I won't say anything tonight now

So sorry you are going through this OP, what a bastard. X

Thanks anlabrae. When it first happened I believed it was a one off. I was so stupid.

And everyone else who has commented. Thank you. It means so much.
I'm upstairs and he is asleep. I'm really struggling, but when I catch him he is out. He can pay for me and the kids to stay in our house and he can have all the hookers that money can buy.

Oh MrsG, i am glad he is asleep- are you sleeping much at the moment?