Dating Thread 134 - 50 Swipes of Tinder

[RunsforCake14]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

OLD is a numbers game - I had a shot load of messages from guys but in 6 months, only 3 were worth contacting.

I think a few if you are on Match - I paid a fiver a week ago and not one message - perhaps it's me!

Does anyone find they are still receiving cock shots? Have men not grown out of this yet?

5 messages in on Pof and bamm

I've never received a cock shot I feel quite deprived at lack of cock shots.

Weird women is not an issue Val, it's the same ol', same ol' for me - profiles > pics but all I see (last 6 profiles I looked at tonight) is:

"Ask me"
"Will fill in later"
"..."
"Ask me"
"."
"I don't know what to write here"

So frustrating!

I've not heard from Mr Hills since early on today. Can't say I'm bothered really. He said his two daughters have him wrapped around his little finger so whilst I'm a soft touch on some things, I've found I have to be strict with mine on most things and lack of discipline with Disney dad's is a total turn off of the respect button for me. Also he's only been split from his children's mum for 18 months and has already had 2 more failed relationships (or abortive attempts as he put it). That tells me he has no insight as to why his LTR/marriage broke down and that he hasn't done any introspection to grow as a person as a result.

@Kinunir they sound like they aren't very serious about finding someone that's looking for more than a shag. If they can't be bothered filling out the profile page then I doubt they'll put much effort into a relationship. I think they do it deliberately to get you to engage in conversation just to find out. I automatically pass on incomplete profiles.

Kin scintillating eh

men do the 'dont know what to put here' too - argh! just go away and think about it for a bit!?

(never had a dick pic either thankfully)

I'm thinking of an experiment. Think I might send a "smile" to every match I get and see if any respond. Except for the really ugly ones (that's most of them because my subscription ends on the weekend so I might as well see what happens and because I'm bored

I'm not sure they are looking for a shag Literary, more it's just a half-hearted attempt because they aren't really serious about meeting someone.

I like a good profile because it gives insight into someone's personality and it makes that all important first message so much easier to write.

I hear you nay - many men are just the same, I'm sure. Makes me wonder if my lengthy profile is overkill!

literary I've never had a cock shot either!! Love your new guidelines. These should be added to the rules. I've made my own list of do's and dont's. My big one is to really follow my gut.

@Kinunir that's what I meant too. It's half hearted.

so er, how old are ya kin? ;)

Ok so that's an unlucky 13 smiles sent. Some matches are online so let's see what happens expects absolutely sweet FA.

Will be interesting to hear your results - I've never seen a smile as an invitation to treat so much as a sign that the sender was just having a boring evening.

Is it worth paying for match?

Wow, if only dating sites were as lively as this thread

A flurry of messages over the weekend turned into nothing much at all. Have blocked Mr Confident, I don't want 'random people scrapping at a party' clips instead of a whatsapp convo/real call. Mr Tennis was complaining about losing a match, I may have teased him a bit, not sure if he's ok with that but we shall see. He seems to only pick his phone up a couple of times a day. Mr Maybe wanted to talk properly tonight after we played answerphone ping pong yesterday. His phone is off...
And my FWB rocked up so late in the day that I told him he could just have a cup of tea and then I was going to bed- alone! He was shocked as it's never happened but I was genuinely knackered. Maybe later in the week if he's lucky
Chap working on site behind my workplace has been making eyes at me for weeks so today we spoke. He's Eritrean, very cute and 34. I pointed out that at 52, I'm old enough to be his mum and he was genuinely shocked. Good for my ego (although I wouldn't go there!) not so much his but he's still smiling

I've noticed on quote a few men's profiles reference to women's profile pics with snapchat filters and duck faces.
Any men on here - are there a lot of them?

My pics are very basic - hello here's my face. No filter and usually no make up

dogz my biggest gripe by far is naff profiles (about 95% of the ones I view) quickly followed by snapchat filters (60%, maybe more), the latter of which is especially concerning given the age range I'm looking at!

I have a selection of make up and make upless pics, absolutely NO duckface dogear pics - i have seen this a LOT on fb dating groups!! I cannot imagine men find those dogfaces and sillly eyes appealing??

My photos are all very natural ones taken out and about in the great outdoors. No toilet selfies, or filters (don't even have Snapchat), no weird eyebrows . Maybe I'm too normal??!!

Kinunir what do you class as 'naff'?

Naff is as I mentioned a few posts back.

I don’t expect anyone to give away their life story but a couple of sentences would be good and would allow us men to craft opening messages that go beyond “hi”