Husband taking an Uber at strange time

[YoMommasMomma]

I was away from home this weekend with my DD and when we returned I saw an emailed receipt from Uber (my husband uses my laptop to check his email and leaves himself logged on, we are very open with passwords and use each other computer/phone) which showed that he got a taxi from our house to another address about 15 mins away at 12:10am in the morning.

I am concerned as this seems very odd. The questions in my mind are - he has a car so why didn't he drive if he was going to meet a friend? He said he didn't go out that night (sometimes he goes to meet friends for a few drinks when we are away) so why is he lying? Did he have someone over to our house and pay for their cab home? This would be odd if it was a friend as they all drive and why would he pay for their taxi? I am worrying that he had another women over and paid for her cab home.

There was also a half drunk glass of baileys in the kitchen when I returned and it was in a wine glass. He does drink baileys but would usually drink it from a normal glass.

It is all very strange and I know I have to ask him and I am sure there is a reasonable explanation but worried there isn't one.

I also feel so pathetic for even typing this right now. I guess I really just wanted peoples opinions to see if you also think this is suspicious and if you has any ideas for what to do, other than just ask him about it. Thank you.

You're jumping to conclusions or just projecting, Billybigballs. Either way, you're not helping much.

Just because Billybigballs has the balls to say what a lot of people are thinking....including op

I stand by my comments. Don’t ask for opinions if you don’t really want them. Op hasn’t disagreed with me Harry

In these situations what differentiates a suspect drink from an inoccent one is often just gut instinct.

innocent ^

I appreciate everyone's comments and thoughts on this. I am praying big balls isn't right though. I think I just have to sit back and wait now and try and access his phone or emails again.
It's just so odd as we are rarely apart, I would say that my DD and I are away from my Dh for a night once every few months and that's it. The rest of he time we are all together and so I don't know when he has time to have met and see an OW.

Just because Billybigballs has the balls to say what a lot of people are thinking....including op

I stand by my comments. Don’t ask for opinions if you don’t really want them. Op hasn’t disagreed with me Harry

There is rampant and idiotic speculation and then there is an opinion.

But, the fact you are referring to yourself in third person tells me most that I need to know.

But, the fact you are referring to yourself in third person tells me most that I need to know.

FireInTheMole agrees

Ha ha, well...we shall see won’t we....

Perhaps I should tell OP that this is an innocent looking scenario?....Perhaps I should become a liar....a bit like the guy she is shacked up with.

Op, I actually hope I’m NOT right - for your family’s sake, but my gut (and yours too sadly i fear) is saying otherwise. Trust your gut.

Good luck and please don’t bury this, you are worth more than that.

He had someone over, paid for sex and sent them home in an Uber. I do hope we are all wrong.

If you are rarely apart op then could it be a work colleague if ow? Or, if it’s a one nighter then he either hooked up on a night out or on-line or simply paid for sex.

I say it would have been too much hassle and effort for him to go out for the night and meet someone so my money is on him looking for people in the area online via one of those dating/shag finder apps, or it’s an ow that he sees at work

And here comes the frenzy! Nasty people with nothing better to do than convince a complete stranger that her husband is a cheat.

@YoMommasMomma I would invite his friend round with his girlfriend this weekend and offer to pick them up/drop them off afterwards and see how he reacts. I hope you're ok, I'm sure it's nothing but I can see why you're worried x

"And here comes the frenzy! Nasty people with nothing better to do than convince a complete stranger that her husband is a cheat."

This!

Sounds innocent to me.. but if I want to fully put it to rest, I would probably have a look online for friends girlfriend and double check she does live there.

Or, people who have been through similar trying to help a stranger to avoid the naive mistakes they themselves made.

I don't think his story is plausible. When asked if he went out that night he said he hadn't. It's odd that he didn't then say what he had done - spent the evening with a friend. It's also odd that he paid for this friend's uber.

The only redeeming point is that he kept the emailed receipt for the cab.

But it's all easily resolved surely, just find friend's gf on social media and check she lives at that address.

"I had a friend over the other night when my DW was out. I forgot to mention it to her - it was an old mate and it didn't seem like a big deal. Anyways I forgot. It seems though that my DW doesn't trust me. She found my almost-empty drink glass. Her response was to start snooping around in my emails - maybe stupidly I have always trusted her so I hadn't logged out - and she found an uber receipt for my friend getting home. My friend doesn't have an Uber account so I paid for him to get home. No biggie - he will buy me a couple of extra beers next time. "

"So the next thing is she is quizzing me. Clearly doesn't trust me. That's a problem but what really gets me is her snooping in my email. That's out and out unacceptable. How much is she spying on me? Has she been doing it for years?" Really pisses me off."

"So, should I throw her out?"

Look on Facebook for the friend's girlfriend and see who she's friends with. Do you know her name? Ask.

GibbertyFlibbert, 'Well I'm sure you can see why she might be suspicious, as you haven't been getting along that well recently and forgot to mention your friend when she asked what you'd been up to, and you paid for his cab, so why not do what you can to put her fears to bed instead of dismissing them?'

gibberty really... you would NOT be suspicious...ok whatever..i know for a fact id be pissed off if you never told me someone was there and then i found taxi service saying otherwise..and now your pissed off at her..she sounds like someone has been untrustworthy in past so dont blame her for being suspicious and the fact your on here cussing instead of saying sorry to her and putting her mind at rest says alot....bye

OP if your DH is cheating on you he is the dumbest man alive - leaving a baileys glass on the side and his uber receipt available for you to access

I’d be chewing on that thought personally

Some men leave clues because they want to be caught out - it’s easier than addressing any issues in the relationship.

He got rid of the second Baileys glass. The receipt was a mistake. Had he opened and read it? It may have just arrived or he may not have seen it.

Obviously I'm just speculating. It could all be innocent and I hope it is. He can clear it up really easily after all.

He's cleared it up already.

Not really, op still in doubt that the address really does belong to his friend's gf.

Im surprised at how many people wouldn't be at all suspicious if their husband had a friend round to their home while they themselves were away for the night, didn't mention it, indeed said they hadn't really done anything that night, only remembered when faced with incontrovertible proof, paid for a taxi despite any friends usually driving themselves over.

All that on top of a period of not really getting on is suspicious. I'm hoping op comes back to say everything checks out, but I definitely don't think she's daft for worrying.