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Husband taking an Uber at strange time

203 replies

YoMommasMomma · 30/05/2018 13:54

I was away from home this weekend with my DD and when we returned I saw an emailed receipt from Uber (my husband uses my laptop to check his email and leaves himself logged on, we are very open with passwords and use each other computer/phone) which showed that he got a taxi from our house to another address about 15 mins away at 12:10am in the morning.

I am concerned as this seems very odd. The questions in my mind are - he has a car so why didn't he drive if he was going to meet a friend? He said he didn't go out that night (sometimes he goes to meet friends for a few drinks when we are away) so why is he lying? Did he have someone over to our house and pay for their cab home? This would be odd if it was a friend as they all drive and why would he pay for their taxi? I am worrying that he had another women over and paid for her cab home.

There was also a half drunk glass of baileys in the kitchen when I returned and it was in a wine glass. He does drink baileys but would usually drink it from a normal glass.

It is all very strange and I know I have to ask him and I am sure there is a reasonable explanation but worried there isn't one.

I also feel so pathetic for even typing this right now. I guess I really just wanted peoples opinions to see if you also think this is suspicious and if you has any ideas for what to do, other than just ask him about it. Thank you.

OP posts:
mumprincess12 · 30/05/2018 22:10

I would ask him but wouldn't admit snooping . Could you pretend a friend had seen the uber and asked you where you were off to that time of night?

OnThisHill · 30/05/2018 22:13

Bloody hell. It's a massive jump from friend to prostitute isn't it?
Wow.
Surely that wouldn't involve a glass of Bailey's and an uber at 12.10 am?
This isn't Belle de Jour is it? Ffs.

Rozzzzzalmost35 · 30/05/2018 22:42

But really who has a prostitute over on a Saturday night, and what prostitute drinks Baileys?! Hope all works out OP XX

diamondsandrose · 30/05/2018 22:49

What do prostitutes drink then? Hmm

Op not sure if you've confronted him yet but my advice to you would be don't do it

Watch and wait for a bit. It does sound ropey and I'd be suspicious.

If you ask him now and it's dodgy, he'll lie, then know to cover up better from now on and then you're really screwed.

Sally2791 · 30/05/2018 22:55

Stay cool and do more digging. If he's up to something and you play innocent he's more likely to reveal more clues. Stressful for you though

OnThisHill · 31/05/2018 00:04

Well, sure, sometimes a nice Bailey's - I just meant it was a massive leap and poor old OP's mind is racing out of control enough...

channingtatumspecs · 31/05/2018 03:17

I'd he'd had a friend over wouldn't he just have said ? Like "so and so was here and got drunk so I sent them home in an Uber"
The fact he has said he did nothing all weekend is weird! He may not have done anything really bad like affair or hooker as pp suggest but clearly has done something he suspects you'd be unhappy with - that could be as simple as having a mate that you hate over and he doesn't want to tell you as you'll tell him off for example. The only way you'll know is to ask directly otherwise a million scenarios such as suggested here will be going through your mind and you won't be able to rest

Original poster
YoMommasMomma · 31/05/2018 07:06

Good morning so I asked him about it and he said that he had one of his friends over and then paid for the friends taxi to his girlfriends house.

This would explain the odd address but I am still very suspicious as not sure why he would pay for his friends Uber. The Baileys was him apparently. I really have no idea, why didn't he mention having this friend over? I think I need to talk to him about why I immediately thought it was another women also, not good.

OP posts:
GertieMotherwell · 31/05/2018 07:08

I find it unbelievable that people say just ask him.

If it’s innocent you will get the truth, if it’s not you probably won’t.

GertieMotherwell · 31/05/2018 07:09

Then why say he did nothing?

sadiesnakes · 31/05/2018 07:11

I would still be very suspicious OP, it's a rare man that owns up to infidelity straight away.

Puttingthefootdown · 31/05/2018 07:12

To his girlfriends?

Which would in future explain why a girl lives there. Do you see the red flag there OP?

TroysMammy · 31/05/2018 07:13

Why wouldn't be pay for a taxi for a friend? Perhaps the friend didn't have cash on him or perhaps it was your husband's turn to pay for something? Or even you've got a lovely husband who is also a good hearted friend.

maymai · 31/05/2018 07:15

@YoMommasMomma I wouldn't believe him for a minute. Ask which friend and do more digging. Ask for his phone before he deletes everything etc.

coolwalking · 31/05/2018 07:21

Is it a friend you know about OP? Someone who you might see?
I would be more suspicious if the time was earlier as it implies he went to this persons house. Sounds more plausible that he had a friend over for some drinks and they decided to Uber at a late hour. I hope he puts your mind at ease.

Loopytiles · 31/05/2018 07:22

The signs aren’t at all good - and you say you’ve had a “rough patch, which can sometimes happen when someone is cheating. I would probably observe him and snoop some more.

Loopytiles · 31/05/2018 07:22

Eg take a screenshot of the uber receipt and see if he deletes it.

loveyoutothemoon · 31/05/2018 07:24

So why didn't he mention it, did you ask him that?

Sametimesameplace · 31/05/2018 07:36

Do you know the friend? Why would he pay?

GertieMotherwell · 31/05/2018 07:37

I don’t think it’s strange he had a friend over or paid for the Uber.

What’s strange is that he said he did nothing.

Sametimesameplace · 31/05/2018 07:38

Does that sound like usual behaviour from him? I know with exh he would never have a visit from a friend at that hour (they would go out) and he would certainly not pay for the guy’s taxi.

MozzchopsThirty · 31/05/2018 07:42

Perhaps the friend isn't registered with Uber or have the app (I don't)
I get dd to book mine and give her cash
This could be a possibility?

Quickerthanavicar · 31/05/2018 07:49

MozzchopsThirty THIS

Ohkermy · 31/05/2018 07:50

It seems odd that when you originally asked about his weekend he said he had done nothing. Do you believe him?

BitOutOfPractice · 31/05/2018 07:54

You'd have thought he'd have mentioned a mate coming over wouldn't you?

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