Husband taking an Uber at strange time

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I was away from home this weekend with my DD and when we returned I saw an emailed receipt from Uber (my husband uses my laptop to check his email and leaves himself logged on, we are very open with passwords and use each other computer/phone) which showed that he got a taxi from our house to another address about 15 mins away at 12:10am in the morning.

I am concerned as this seems very odd. The questions in my mind are - he has a car so why didn't he drive if he was going to meet a friend? He said he didn't go out that night (sometimes he goes to meet friends for a few drinks when we are away) so why is he lying? Did he have someone over to our house and pay for their cab home? This would be odd if it was a friend as they all drive and why would he pay for their taxi? I am worrying that he had another women over and paid for her cab home.

There was also a half drunk glass of baileys in the kitchen when I returned and it was in a wine glass. He does drink baileys but would usually drink it from a normal glass.

It is all very strange and I know I have to ask him and I am sure there is a reasonable explanation but worried there isn't one.

I also feel so pathetic for even typing this right now. I guess I really just wanted peoples opinions to see if you also think this is suspicious and if you has any ideas for what to do, other than just ask him about it. Thank you.

Good luck OP. I know that anxious, panicky sick feeling all too well. Hope there's a viable explanation for you

Good luck op x

Well the baileys explains why he or friend couldn't drive quite easily to me.

Good luck

Ohh I hope there's a good explanation for this. I hate reading posts like this. Always feel so sad for the op.

I feel like people are jumping to a lot of conclusions here. I hope it's okay op.

I hope it's nothing, OP. It looks suspicious but until you hear what he has to say, it's all conjecture.

Hoping it has an innocent outcome.

Why do people think he'd tell the truth if he was cheating? This just tips them and they can make an excuse up.

You're playing your hand too quickly. He would never come clean.

I appreciate you all taking the time to reply. I haven't asked him yet, can't quite bring myself to ask the question and I know I will end up apologising for asking somehow

I really hope it turns out ok. Please stay calm and don't jump to conclusions. Surely if he was having an affair he would have been more careful at covering things up. If he knows uber send receipts there is no way he would have not deleted that email, and similarly if you are shagging someone in your family home you would say up the evidence xx

If you can hold it together, please dont ask him until you've managed to find out a bit more. If he's done something wrong,and it looks that way, he'll lie through his teeth.

Private detective?

I would snoop a little more first to be honest or start a convo about having friends over, 'when was the last time we had friends over dp?'

Visitor came under own steam. Was there only 1 glass? Other cup, glass? Empty? Whats in the bin? Visitor left via uber. Husband didnt go out, hence not lied.

You have pretty open access to his online stuff, you could snoop further. Or the suggestion about uber hacking as an opening convo?

Op if he is cheating he may well whitewash this and make you feel stupid for asking. Could it just be a friend that came by?

Don't let him make you feel bad for asking, it is perfectly reasonable to have seen it and to want to question it, it is highly suspicious, xx

Why would you apologise? Just ask it or you'll drive yourself crazy.

Hope it’s all an innocent explanation op

Prolonging asking won’t make the answer you may get any easier

I too would do more digging. But if you ask him tonight don't let him veer off the point and have you apologising for looking at the email. You need answers and peace of mind. Good luck

Hope there is a reasonable explanation OP

I know it is hard to ask but you are only prolonging it.
You can't not ask and carry on as it will eat away at you.

Do you think you might not be asking because you don't actually want to hear he answer or deal with whatever it is?

I get it but you need to just get it over with.

Just ask what he did on Saturday night and if he doesn't say anything about Uber then you know he's lying

Just come straight out with it

Hmmm. I think I’d probably snoop more tbh

I'm not sure if this has been mentioned but could he have sent someone home in an Uber? Is that possible? Or sent something to someone? I'm not sure what but there are a whole number of scenarios here.

If you have access to online banking for his accounts, check to see if money was withdrawn the same day the tax was booked or day before. Could suggest it was a prostitute.

But you should ask him however hard it is. Sorry op.