Husband taking an Uber at strange time

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I was away from home this weekend with my DD and when we returned I saw an emailed receipt from Uber (my husband uses my laptop to check his email and leaves himself logged on, we are very open with passwords and use each other computer/phone) which showed that he got a taxi from our house to another address about 15 mins away at 12:10am in the morning.

I am concerned as this seems very odd. The questions in my mind are - he has a car so why didn't he drive if he was going to meet a friend? He said he didn't go out that night (sometimes he goes to meet friends for a few drinks when we are away) so why is he lying? Did he have someone over to our house and pay for their cab home? This would be odd if it was a friend as they all drive and why would he pay for their taxi? I am worrying that he had another women over and paid for her cab home.

There was also a half drunk glass of baileys in the kitchen when I returned and it was in a wine glass. He does drink baileys but would usually drink it from a normal glass.

It is all very strange and I know I have to ask him and I am sure there is a reasonable explanation but worried there isn't one.

I also feel so pathetic for even typing this right now. I guess I really just wanted peoples opinions to see if you also think this is suspicious and if you has any ideas for what to do, other than just ask him about it. Thank you.

I have to admit I’d think the same as you, my friend found out about her ex-df’s affair because there were two champagne flutes dirty on the side when she came back from a night away (clearly a keeper this chap, leaving the glasses lying around!)

Something is definitely odd, but you don't know what. Maybe he had a friend over, that friend is cheating on his wife, and he doesn't want to tell you about it because his friend has sworn him to secrecy.

However, he could also be up to no good. In your shoes, I wouldn't ask because he can make up a story (as per the above) and you'd be none the wiser and just full of more questions.

I would be more vigilant to his behaviour, absences etc...and if more suspicious, pretend to arrange another night away...but come back early

The uber is odd. I'd be tempted to drive to the house and wait outside. I know that sounds extreme. But

I'd definitely have to ask him about it. Sounds suspicious

Op I would casually say to him ‘Dh i noticed an email receipt from Uber and clicked on it as there’s been reports of people’s Uber’s being hacked, it said you used Uber at xx time to xxx place? You said you didn’t go out that night, Can you explain or will I contact them to enquire?’

My uber account was hacked last year and a number of journeys were charged to it. I challenged it with Uber and they were able to see it was outside my usual area (pick up was in a different part of the UK) and quite quickly reimbursed me. Could it be that a similar thing has happened here?

Think you know the answer but don’t want to face it op?

He was entertaining someone whilst you were out of the way. His ‘guest’ had Baileys that he put into a wine glass for them (how romantic). When they were done doing whatever they were doing, he booked them an Uber home and paid for it - what a gentleman 🙄.

If your eyes aren’t already open then they should be.

Sorry op, prepare yourself as he will lie through his teeth.

Sorry OP but I think there's really only one answer to this. And it's not good.
Telling him you know is just showing your hand, he'll delete any and all further evidence.

It doesn't sound like a mistake from uber because it's from your home address, so it can't be that.

But, if he’d had another woman over, surely he’d have covered his tracks better than to leave the baileys glass unwashed?
Have you looked in your recycling bin for wine bottles/takeaway (for 1 or 2?) cartons etc ?

Ask him and watch his reaction.

But, if he’d had another woman over, surely he’d have covered his tracks better than to leave the baileys glass unwashed?
Not necessarily some men can be really quite stupid.

Have you tried searching the address to see who’s registered to live there Op? If you get a name you could at least ask who’s ......? And see what he says. If you say something I’d do it in a way so you aren’t giving everything away and he won’t know quite know exactly what you know. So maybe ask did you say you went out (whatever night)? Only neighbour saw a taxi at ours or something. He might then think they also saw who it was collecting/dropping off.

This is why I am so confused, if this was another women then surely he would have been more cautious and covered up better but then also maybe he just thinks I would never suspect him of cheating and so didn't bother to cover up. I think I should try and find out myself somehow but short of sitting outside the address from the Uber all day and waiting for someone to emerge and then asking them if they know my husband I am not sure how to find out more.
I am going to pick up my dd now and then he will be home from work too and I have no clue what to say.
What an awful day I feel terrible and panicky.

It does sound odd, hope it's innocent.

Try to stay calm. Are you going to talk to him this evening? I would, just to get it out of the way.

Don't play games or try to catch him out - just say "You left your emails open on my laptop and I noticed you had an Uber receipt for a cab at midnight on Saturday. What was that for?"

Hie reaction will speak volumes. Good luck, hope you get the answers you want.

Can you use 192.com or the electoral roll? If the name matches one you know or from his FB/Twitter and is a friend, no issue, if it's not you'll have to confront him. If you have access to his banking you can also see if he ordered takeaway etc that night... If DH had someone over while I was away he wouldn't hide it, he'd just say John's coming over/popped over Saturday, or a few of us are having a boy's night Saturday at ours etc.

Thank you Greenfingers, I think I have to talk to him tonight, it's that or pretend this never happened and ignore the nagging voice in my head.

I love him so much, we only got married last year but we have been together forever. I really don't want this to be what it looks like.

Oh my goodness - all this suspicion... he’s your husband. Just ask him !

FASH I can't seem to make 192 work it doesn't bring anything up when I search the address and the gov.uk website tells me I have to go to the council offices to check the electoral role.

I'm so sorry, it doesn't sound good. You must be feeling awful. I don't know whether you should try to gather more evidence first as obviously he isn't going to be honest when you ask him about the uber.

You can find out who owns the property for £3 here:

eservices.landregistry.gov.uk/eservices/FindAProperty/view/QuickEnquiryInit.do?id=p_search_link

But it won’t be much help if they rent.

It doesn’t sound good OP. I think you need to confront him I’m afraid

I'd ask him when you are alone so you can see his reaction

So I checked on the land registry and the flat number given on the Uber receipt is not listed. So the flat listed on Uber receipt is 'number 4a, road name' and on the land registry list there is '3, road name' and '5,road name' but not 4 or 4a.

I hope it's all innocent, but as you've already said he claimed not to be out that night it doesn't look great. Confrontation is the only way, but leave silences so he can fill them!!