Porn problems, I hate it!

[Anony123]

My boyfriend has watched porn from a young age and says he is addicted. He is 21. He always said he never watched porn but I caught it on his phone and got so upset. It broke my heart because I disagree with it when in a relationship. I feel like it affects our sex life as he learned about sex from porn and isnt amazing in the bedroom which I am okay with because what matters to me about sex is the intimacy. But also he was watching it a lot and we were having sex less which left me heart broken. When I found it I broke down in to tears and couldn't even look at him. The fact that he is getting off to skinny little porn stars makes me feel like I'm not enough for him and the fact that he was doing it so often broke me into pieces. I couldn't look at him, I felt horrible being naked in front of him. He wonders why I have body issues but him watching porn instead of coming to me really doesn't help! So I told him I can't be with someone who watches porn as I feel like it's betrayal and he said he would stop. But I found it on his phone last night and when I confronted him he said it's because he is addicted and he is trying to stop. I'm devastated! I don't know what to do! It's killing me but I really love him and our lo together and really don't want our relationship to end but don't want to be with someone who choses porn over his girlfriend and that I feel so horrible and unattractive to (even though he tells me I'm beautiful all the time)

@Adora10 unpopular opinions shouldn't be labelled trolls.

Wellfuckme

The last thing I could ever be called is a prude, I think you have a real hang up about sex Lynspop. Just because some of us prefer real sex with real people does not make us prudes, it makes us real, you sound very sad and completely blind sighted by your use of porn, never in my life have I ever referred to porn to help me with my sex life, the fact you do and your wife encourages it tells us a whole different story, I think your wife is rather relieved lol.

I can absolutely see why your wife would encourage you to watch porn...

I'd tell you to fuck off and watch your porn too if I was married to you.

@Frosty66612

Ignore the wannabe Casanova, you can tell he’s so far up his own arse he can tickle his tonsils (probably “a tip” he’s learnt from porn). Men like him are ten a penny, wouldn’t know a fake orgasm from a real one. Let’s just feel for his poor wife who’ll have to resort to banishing him to the loo to spare her the embarrassment.

What a sad deluded lot you are. I'd be sympathetic if you weren't spewing such vitriol.

Why sympathy?

Better than spewing shite.

Will the narcissist in here please stand up! .. blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2014/07/narcissism-porn-use-and-addiction/

I watch porn on occasion.

I've done many things sexually.

I do think that using poem as a tool to aid sex is ridiculous. It's all about the man and it's completely unrealistic.

If you can see it for what it truly is - acting then you may be fine if it's not a staple of your sexual life but to actually use porn in day to day life is just bonkers.

Oh hello @Lynspop how's ukpunting doing these days hun?

hun

If being proficient in all things sex related and being confident of your abilities in satisfying your partner makes me a narcissist, then I am proud to be one!

how Old are you, Lynspop? I am guessing early twenties just from your childlike lashing out and saying offensive retaliatory things?

Ahh OP.

My ex was just like this at the start of our relationship. I stupidly had a child with him and 4 years down the line he cheated and buggered off.

Not saying your boyfriend will do that but the lying/hiding it/deceit isn't a great start...

[B]eing proficient in all things sex related and being confident of your abilities in satisfying your partner does not make you a good lover. It makes you an effective sex aid.

That is all.

I actually spat my tea out at reading “proficient”! Oh honestly, I’ve known many many men like you, they’re always crap in bed! All talk then maybe a minute or two of them fumbling about in my knickers and then having the bloody audacity to query why I’m not “ready” so to speak...ugh. Your poor wife. My legs are clenched together just thinking about it.

@Newerversion you really need to pay more attention, I did not start the name-calling or the lashing out. People here are unsatisfied with their own sex lives and have an inability to own up to that (which is understandable). Attacking me for having a loving and sexual fulfilling sex life is purely from a place of jealously.

Loving sex life...based on porn. Hmmmm...

My legs are clenched together just thinking about it.

I'm currently taped up like a Mummy...haha.

I'd rather have sex with someone I can laugh with if it goes a bit wrong, someone who notices whether something is working for me or not and someone who asks me how I'd like it rather than someone who considers himself an expert already

@Newerversion you really need to pay more attention, I did not start the name-calling or the lashing out. People here are unsatisfied with their own sex lives and have an inability to own up to that (which is understandable). Attacking me for having a loving and sexual fulfilling sex life is purely from a place of jealously.

Why are you not out enjoying the sunshine, is it not half day at School?

@Adora10 obviously you consider it safer labelling someone a troll or a child for having differing views from yourself.

No, I read the thread- you told the op that her husband clearly needed porn as she wasn’t giving him enough sex. Pathetic. Then you accused all the other posters of being prudes because they quite rightly disagreed that porn is a good way to learn (wtf) to have sex.
Luckily, many men realise they have a problem with porn and they deal with it. Nofap has a huge membership made up of such men.

I actually have no issue with porn.

However, I reckon Lynspop has some deep rooted sex issues going on here. My guess is teeny weeny??